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OsideGirl -> RE: Is there a "Right Way" to bdsm? (3/28/2014 9:11:37 AM)


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ORIGINAL: RickandMimi2011
I respect his opinion
Why? He doesn't know anything about you, but felt free to throw shade at you. I'm also willing to bet that he's single and telling someone in a relationship they're doing it wrong. Don't respect his opinion. Be polite and then ignore him.


quote:

Is there a correct way to live a BDSM life


Yup, there is. It is: find someone that makes you happy and do what makes you happy. That's about the whole ball of yarn.



RickandMimi2011 -> RE: Is there a "Right Way" to bdsm? (3/28/2014 9:21:58 AM)

I respect his right to his opinion more than the opinion it's self.



crazyml -> RE: Is there a "Right Way" to bdsm? (3/28/2014 10:20:53 AM)

I've got to say, you showed him far more maturity than he showed you. And much more than I would have shown him. I'd have said "Fuck off you clown".

I can't really add anything to what the other posters have said, I can just reinforce the feeling that others have expressed that if it works for you and your partner... anyone else can fuck off telling you how you both should be.



RickandMimi2011 -> RE: Is there a "Right Way" to bdsm? (3/28/2014 10:25:51 AM)

Thank you.



Kana -> RE: Is there a "Right Way" to bdsm? (3/28/2014 10:27:39 AM)


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ORIGINAL: RickandMimi2011

Yesterday I had an Interesting discussion with another dom that seemed to do nothing but criticize how me an my slave lived this lifestyle. He said that we were acting childish, and disgracing the lifestyle with our profiles. I respect his opinion regardless of how I may personally feel about it, but it made me think. Is there a correct way to live a BDSM life or is it more up to the individual participants to decide what it means to them? I welcome any discussion and look forward to hearing what the actual community thinks.

Fuck him.
It's one thing having an opinion. Everyone's got a right to them idiotic as they may sometimes be.
Going around sharing them unsolicited is freaking rude.
Doing so to strangers is worse. Crass at best, unacceptable at worse.
Anyone who tried that shit with me would stand a whelk's chance in a supernova



GoddessManko -> RE: Is there a "Right Way" to bdsm? (3/28/2014 10:32:15 AM)


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ORIGINAL: GotSteel


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ORIGINAL: RickandMimi2011
Yesterday I had an Interesting discussion with another dom that seemed to do nothing but criticize how me an my slave lived this lifestyle. He said that we were acting childish, and disgracing the lifestyle with our profiles.


I don't get how any safe consensual behavior could disgrace the lifestyle. Have fun and don't put too much stock in what people on the internet say, to put things in perspective we have a guy around here who thinks unicorns are real.


LOL, As in the unicorn individual or the unicorn mythical creature? Where is this guy hiding? Sounds like s fun conversation waiting to happen.
To the couple in the OP, I agree with what most people have to say on the matter. Ignore the scam artists who had you make those entries in your journal, likely fishing for information or money. You seem like a nice, young and idealistic couple. Personally I love big dreamers. Just keep being happy in the lifestyle and I hope your aspirations of polyamory come to fruition. :-)



RickandMimi2011 -> RE: Is there a "Right Way" to bdsm? (3/28/2014 10:36:02 AM)

Thank you. I try not to put too much stock in the ramblings of close minded people. Nothing good ever comes from it.



kalikshama -> RE: Is there a "Right Way" to bdsm? (3/28/2014 10:53:40 AM)

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ORIGINAL: RickandMimi2011

I respect his right to his opinion more than the opinion it's self.


Having an opinion is fine; emailing a stranger with unsolicited profile critique is another thing.



fucktoyprincess -> RE: Is there a "Right Way" to bdsm? (3/28/2014 11:01:24 AM)

There are no right and wrong ways (outside of safety considerations) to "do" this lifestyle.

However, speaking to your profile specifically, there are certainly more successful approaches and arrangements (in terms of attracting consenting adults) and less successful approaches and arrangements. You can want what you want and have 100% freedom to define your situation as you wish, but please be realistic in terms of how many actual people out there would be willing to sign on to your situation. With that said, good luck finding what you seek…..





JeffBC -> RE: Is there a "Right Way" to bdsm? (3/28/2014 2:33:38 PM)

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl
I'm also willing to bet that he's single and telling someone in a relationship they're doing it wrong

ROFL, always one of my favorites!



ResidentSadist -> RE: Is there a "Right Way" to bdsm? (3/28/2014 3:44:34 PM)

~fr

Yes there is a right way and a wrong way.

If you are not all enjoying what is happening, you are doing it wrong.

If you are unintentionally causing harm like permanent marks or nerve damage, you are doing it wrong.

If you are putting yourself or someone at undue risk, you are doing it wrong.





RedMagic1 -> RE: Is there a "Right Way" to bdsm? (3/28/2014 5:04:14 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: RickandMimi2011
Yesterday I had an Interesting discussion with another dom that seemed to do nothing but criticize how me an my slave lived this lifestyle. He said that we were acting childish, and disgracing the lifestyle with our profiles. I respect his opinion regardless of how I may personally feel about it, but it made me think. Is there a correct way to live a BDSM life or is it more up to the individual participants to decide what it means to them? I welcome any discussion and look forward to hearing what the actual community thinks.

There are lots of different "right" ways. However, unlike some people, I also believe there are "wrong" ways to do it. I have personal boundaries for what I consider "unhealthy," "abusive," and "motherfucking insane," and I'm not going to go any of those places. (In case you're interested, my boundaries are primarily mental, not physical. I'm willing to do a lot of physical things other people won't, while there is a lot of mental domination that I refuse to engage in.)

Some of that I'm willing to say is just my own definition of what is correct, and if you're different, rock on with your bad self. Other stuff, hell yes I'm going to judge and apply my principles to other people's relationships.



FrostedFlake -> RE: Is there a "Right Way" to bdsm? (3/28/2014 7:01:36 PM)

Of course there is a right way.

And harm none, do as thou wilt.



KeepCalmCreepOn -> RE: Is there a "Right Way" to bdsm? (3/29/2014 12:45:15 AM)


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ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt

To me, for instance, the title connotes someone extremely experienced and knowledgeable about the lifestyle, and who has learned to master Her or Himself. IMO, this is not you.

But carry on with your masterful self.


I love your brain, plain and simple.
(In other words you made me laugh at your blunt and imo true comments, and I love it.)



GotSteel -> RE: Is there a "Right Way" to bdsm? (3/29/2014 7:14:23 AM)


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ORIGINAL: GoddessManko
LOL, As in the unicorn individual or the unicorn mythical creature? Where is this guy hiding? Sounds like s fun conversation waiting to happen.


Mythical creature, just say "circumcision" over in politics and religion and he'll show up. We used to have another person around here who would post about how he wasn't taking his court ordered medication for a certain mental health issue. And the list goes on.....

The point for the original poster being that just because somebody hangs out on a free internet dating site doesn't necessarily mean they're worth your time.



MasterCaneman -> RE: Is there a "Right Way" to bdsm? (3/29/2014 9:08:09 AM)


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ORIGINAL: JeffBC

quote:

ORIGINAL: OsideGirl
I'm also willing to bet that he's single and telling someone in a relationship they're doing it wrong

ROFL, always one of my favorites!


Or trying to maneuver himself into position to replace him as her partner, another fun game I've heard 'mentors' doing.



RickandMimi2011 -> RE: Is there a "Right Way" to bdsm? (3/29/2014 4:26:50 PM)

Whatever his intentions were he didn't make either of us feel like listening to him.



littlewonder -> RE: Is there a "Right Way" to bdsm? (3/29/2014 5:20:07 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: RickandMimi2011
Is there a correct way to live a BDSM life


No

quote:

or is it more up to the individual participants to decide what it means to them?


Yes




RickandMimi2011 -> RE: Is there a "Right Way" to bdsm? (3/30/2014 2:03:54 PM)

That's what I tried to tell him. He didn't seem interested in listening too much.



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