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Phoenixpower -> RE: Over 30+ single= something wrong with them? (3/30/2014 2:17:24 PM)


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ORIGINAL: AlphaFemsRule

I've never had this issue. But I've also never spent a lot of time around (or been interested in) people who are socially myopic or dumb enough to make such an assumption.

IME, if you are a 30+ male and take care of yourself, are independent, strong minded, don't have a disaster zone of an ex-marriage / kids, passionate about things other than chugging Bud Lite in front of the television -- you're a rare breed and the opposite of a 'creep'. Women will notice.




yep we do....that's how I recognised my guy 17 months ago [:)][:)][:)]



seekingOwnertoo -> RE: Over 30+ single= something wrong with them? (3/31/2014 4:46:23 PM)

Last time I checked "Match dot Com" there were LOTS of people over 30! [:D] [:D] [:D]


Then I did an age search on CM ....... ROFL ..... still lots of people over 30!


The bottom line is there are plenty of people in all age groups looking for someone special in their lives. And in some age groups, at least 50% were married once! [:)]


Solution?


"to be lovely, kind and single, perhaps it is what it is[/b]"



Dunno what else to say ...




FieryOpal -> RE: Over 30+ single= something wrong with them? (4/9/2014 6:22:05 AM)

You know, it's a good thing I finally relented in backing stuff up into Notebook because I hadn't liked the idea of saving private notes to an amorphous Cloud. Well Aries, I just noticed my Post#47 from 4/4/2014 9:40:09 AM is no longer extant (which will now become #43).

I thought it wasn't until you turned 40 and were still a bachelor that some people started to question whether there is something wrong with you.

Mothers usually get around to asking their sons about this while they're still in their 30's, why you haven't settled down and gotten married yet, when are you planning to marry the woman you've been living with and start raising a family, or when are you going to get around to marrying your baby's mama.

I must know at least a half dozen unmarried male subs whose families are convinced they must not be straight, not knowing they had wanted to marry their Mistress, but for whatever reasons, those intentions weren't reciprocated. (In some cases, their Domme went on to marry another man, such as a successful vanilla businessman.) Siblings can be more accepting of the fact that you're holding out for a kinky spouse, if you have a close & open enough relationship with them to confide this.

It's unmarried, childless women who feel pressured the most, with their biological clocks ticking in their 30's, for the most part. If she's a single mother, there's that internal pressure to find a good male role model and father figure for the sake of her young child/children. And if she's not feeling this impetus, she should be.



PerthKinkster -> RE: Over 30+ single= something wrong with them? (4/9/2014 7:08:49 AM)

Quite frankly, I prefer men over 30.

I don't see why it is a bad thing that you haven't met your soul mate by the age of 30. That is sort of what this article is referring too, isn't it?



Spiritedsub2 -> RE: Over 30+ single= something wrong with them? (4/9/2014 7:40:52 AM)


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ORIGINAL: PerthKinkster

Quite frankly, I prefer men over 30.

I don't see why it is a bad thing that you haven't met your soul mate by the age of 30. That is sort of what this article is referring too, isn't it?


I agree. Perhaps you missed what I posted just a few posts after the one you quoted:

"If I hadn't been sleepy I'd have been more precise. I don't view 30 year old men as "older men"! It's all in our perspective, so at my age I see 30 year old men as kids :)

To be precise, I define older men as men in their mid 40s and up, and if they are still single by that age (still single means something different than currently single), then yes, I sometimes find them creepy.

Something about being in a relationship more substantial than a fuckbuddy one is a humanizing experience. Men sometimes need that; I suspect it's the effect of testosterone. Women sometimes need the humanizing effect of relationships to ground them from just becoming weird (think crazy cat lady syndrome)

As always, just my own observations and opinions; YMMV. "



FriendlyMuppet -> RE: Over 30+ single= something wrong with them? (4/9/2014 10:13:54 AM)

I'm older than 30, and I've never been married. If something's wrong with me, so be it. I don't really care. I would gladly put myself up against anyone else for comparison, and I honestly don't think you'd find me lacking. So if some demographic factor is that significant that someone thinks something is wrong with me because I didn't do something by a certain age, then let them have their moment to condemn me. I'll get over it.



kalikshama -> RE: Over 30+ single= something wrong with them? (4/9/2014 11:52:08 AM)

I think the real question is have you been in long term relationships before age 30.



SirTreveyan -> RE: Over 30+ single= something wrong with them? (4/9/2014 12:23:42 PM)

I'm single, and way past 30+, past 40+ even. It's more like 50+ and never married. I do not feel something is wrong with me. I just never met anyone that I felt strongly enough about to want to settle down. Maybe I am too picky. I do not know. I am sure that my chosen career in the highly competitive field of software development did not help either. Spent a lot of nights in the office trying to get a software package ready for roll out. Does that make me defective? NO, not at all...just lonely as hell at times



RomanticRebel -> RE: Over 30+ single= something wrong with them? (4/9/2014 1:34:31 PM)

Keep in mind that I'm saying this as a 27 year old who's never been married, though came close once. Personally, I don't see not being married as creepy at any age. For some folks it's just not their thing. I know some people who have been married multiple times and it never works out for them. For me, I've had some long term relationships. Some were good to begin with and just fizzled out. A few were just bad from the beginning and I was too young and inexperienced to realize it until it really started to hurt. The way I look at it, I'm a little different and definitely not for everyone. So I suppose it'd take a special woman for me to get married.




FriendlyMuppet -> RE: Over 30+ single= something wrong with them? (4/9/2014 9:09:34 PM)

I never got married because my stuffed animals could never agree on approving of any of the women I dated.



Culdron -> RE: Over 30+ single= something wrong with them? (4/20/2014 9:00:34 AM)

Why should I, as a single mother of young children feel an impetus to find them a father or male role model? First they have a father and other people with Y chromosomes to fill that role. Personally, I think that the fact I have young children counting on me to provide and protect them makes it far more likely that I not look for a man. You hear far too many stories of stepdads and "mothers boyfriend" harming the children than I'm willing to risk. And FYI I was married for 4 years and with my baby daddy for 6.



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