ChatteParfaitt
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ORIGINAL: crazyml
What has ticked me off, is the fact that my sincere offer to help was rejected on the grounds that one or more of the existing group objected to me.
First, yeah, it's not nice to feel that you've been judged and found wanting in secret. So I will admit to a certain amount of face fanning and flounceage at the very idea that I should be considered the wrong sort. I would very much like to know who determined that they would be unhappy working with me, and why. If we did that, there is a possibility that I would learn something to my benefit, and even a possibility that the person or persons in question could learn something to theirs.
The fact that it was done in secret, and that I was initially told that new the group wasn't taking new members rather than that I was rejected is material though, as it is exactly the behaviour of a clique.
I'm very interested in how you could know this.
I, for one, have no idea what you're even talking about. I was never given of list of people and asked who I could or could not work with. It was assumed I'm an adult and can get along, which I can.
Now, do I think I am always going to be able to be above the fray? I seriously doubt it.
From Lauren:
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Expecting mentors to be 'above the fray' takes away the very reason many of us are here, to hang out, exchange ideas and so forth, but we are still human. We would hope mentors would be people who generally are nice people, but even nice people are gonna lose it, happens. Since mentors are volunteers, and members of the forums, it is kind of lame for someone to whine about what a mentor said or something (again, if it violated TOS or other guidelines for members as a whole, different story).
From Poise:
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I remember when I was part of
the Welcome Wagon, I had some concern that it would stifle my interactions with others on the message boards.
I can sometimes be a little less than kind in how I respond to some posts, and knowing that new members might
be looking to me as an example of forum behavior did have me sitting up a little straighter. In the long run, had the
program continued, I would probably have stopped posting altogether eventually, simply because I wouldn't have
enjoyed the scrutiny, and perhaps selfishly, I would not have wanted to stifle my participation on the boards for
the sake of retaining a few new potential posters.
I would hate to see any of the mentors lose their joy in posting as their authentic selves simply because they also
happen to devote some time to helping out the site. In the long run, I see good things coming from this program.
Perhaps a different word could be used, just so there isn't any future misunderstandings? Forum guide perhaps?
The purpose of the program is to welcome new posters and give them some info, there is no intention to stifle mentor's participation. Which is why I said this in my second post:
My understanding it is that the intention was not to alter the general tenor of the forums and make it a place where people (yes even mentors) could not speak their mind.
ML, I understand you have a problem with one of the mentors, but can you not see how this problem has snowballed into a shit storm of drama and back biting far out of proportion to that mentor's original offense?
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RE: Forum mentors, guidelines and "screening crite... - 
I dislike drama and will not get involved in any of it....I simple turn my computer off and walk away.......just like I am going to do now.....Nite all.
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