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HELLO CollarMe. I am Raven, a Black Male Dominant . . . - 3/29/2014 8:21:19 PM

CoastalRaven

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And I'm spreading my wings. Joining Collar Me is something of a "coming of age" or "coming out" experience for me, as I'm certain it is for many people. Having grown up and lived in the conservative south, vanilla relationships are the norm in my area (as they are in most places), and it's extra rare to meet people who are into kink and bondage, much less those who take it seriously.

So I'm hoping that this will be a positive experience, and I'm hoping to branch out, and make new friends and acquaintances who have a healthy interest in the subject. Personally, I've always played the Dominant role in my sexual relationships. I have a penchant for rough, liberated, body-pounding animal sex, and during the deed I like to indulge myself in the throes of the moment. But it wasn't until two years ago that I enjoyed my first, "true" D/s relationship.

All before my relationships were about hard sex. Hair pulling, ass smacking, the usual. But my first "true" experience in performing as a Dominant was when I met someone who was truly a mental submissive. Not someone who simply took on the submissive role during sex, but someone who lived the life as an extension of her essence as a person. During the course of our relationship, I realized my submissive derived just as much, if not more pleasure mentally than physically, because she was finding fulfillment in the realization that her body was something to be desired, and used in the service of gratifying another.

Of course, I found this to be insanely erotic. She empowered me, as a Dominant, by giving me an avenue of release for every ounce of lust and desire that boiled within, whenever I needed it. And I empowered her, as a submissive, by fulfilling her desire to serve, and to become someone's source of gratification. It was an amazing dynamic we experienced.

While we are still friends, we no longer belong to each other, due to circumstances surrounding our individual familial situations. I am hoping that Collar Me might introduce me to new and exciting people that might one day fill the void. I recognize that it is a buyer's market. Truthfully, a Dom does not choose his submissive. To the contrary, it is the submissive who chooses the Dom. The Dom's responsibility is to recognize and nurture the submissive's innate need to serve, and to not betray the trust he or she has placed in him or her, in choosing to serve them as their Dominant. This is the dynamic, and the understanding that I seek as I begin my tenure here on Collar Me.

Thank you for bothering to read this far. Perhaps we'll get to know each other.

- Raven

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RE: HELLO CollarMe. I am Raven, a Black Male Dominant .... - 3/29/2014 8:37:43 PM

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Welcome aboard, CoastalRaven! Best of luck in your search; and whilst you do, you can always pore over the threads to see if anything new (to you) or interesting to learn comes along.

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RE: HELLO CollarMe. I am Raven, a Black Male Dominant .... - 3/29/2014 8:41:27 PM

CoastalRaven

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Thanks. Already started browsing. No point in wasting time.

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RE: HELLO CollarMe. I am Raven, a Black Male Dominant .... - 3/29/2014 9:46:25 PM

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Hi CoastalRaven! Welcome to CM and the forums. The forums are fun, interesting, and you can learn a lot there too. Enjoy your stay!

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RE: HELLO CollarMe. I am Raven, a Black Male Dominant .... - 3/29/2014 9:58:52 PM

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Hello CoastalRaven.

That was a very nice introduction about yourself. Welcome aboard and may your search be fruitful.

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RE: HELLO CollarMe. I am Raven, a Black Male Dominant .... - 3/30/2014 12:08:11 AM

ChatteParfaitt

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Great intro Raven.

This is a fun and informative place with games, humorous pics, and even an insightful discussion or two.

Welcome; I look forward to you joining in.

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RE: HELLO CollarMe. I am Raven, a Black Male Dominant .... - 3/30/2014 6:26:51 AM

Rasciallymisty

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WOW what a refreshing intro.....it's one of the best ones in awhile. I think you will have no problem finding that in which you seek.

Hello and welcome to the discussion side of the site. I see you have said that you are already checked this side out....two thumbs up. Hopefully you will stick around and join in. There are a few snarks here among us fun loving peeps....but a thick skin when talking with them will help.

It's nice to have you here with us.

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RE: HELLO CollarMe. I am Raven, a Black Male Dominant .... - 3/30/2014 9:55:45 AM

CoastalRaven

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Thank you for the warm welcome, ladies and gentleman. I'm glad to be around.

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