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RE: Honorifics in a nick? - 4/2/2014 12:41:04 PM

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It's too bad this site won't let us change our profile names, forcing people whose initial choice was hasty to be stuck with a stupid or mortifying name, or create another whole profile. I know I chose mine in a rush just to message a friend here, not paying sufficient attention to the rules to know I was making an irrevocable choice. I know that's happened to lots of others too.

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RE: Honorifics in a nick? - 4/2/2014 12:48:08 PM

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Fourteen or fifteen years ago, I was told that I suffer from "Satyriasis" (I think that's the spelling). It's the "disease" from which a satyr suffers; perpetual horniness.

I changed my user name, at that time, as a joke but from that time, I've always been "Satyr".

Now, when I joined here, I had already been identified as a "Daddy" but seeing as how this was the first D/s-BDSM site I had ever joined, I didn't see how it would matter. I chose "Satyr6406".

I don't know if it's an element of people projecting their lifestyle onto others or if since a large portion of the denizens here are involved in BDSM but, people were always painting me as a sadist. I'm not one.

I took a break of about a year or so and when I tried to come back, I couldn't remember my password. I wasn't sure if I was violating ToS (it turns out I wasn't) but, I made a new name and I included "Daddy" hoping that the word would better convey the flavor of D/s that I practiced.

Now, I said all that to say this ...

I will not say that including an honorific is "silly". I will say that it conveys a message (hopefully, if the receiver is paying attention). I think it gives people a rough idea of what they can expect from that person. Not always, of course because that would be silly.

I think it is nothing more than a peek into what makes that person tick.

Now, I have to admit that when I do feel somewhat emotionally sadistic, I will ask a master if I can see their certificates/diplomas.

There was once a submissive lady with whom I was quite friendly and she told me she had met a new master and that he had "diplomas" to prove who he said he was and how he said he was. I asked her if that was his word or hers and when she told me it was his, my only thought was: "Uh-oh. This won't end well".

It didn't.

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RE: Honorifics in a nick? - 4/2/2014 12:52:46 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SailingBum
Interested in your thoughts on it?!

Ignoring, for a moment, the actual point of this thread here's my answer to the stated question.

Male dominants who include honorifics generally amuse me.
Female dominants are different... there seems to be something different in the FLR world although I'm still likely to laugh a bit. Goddess? really? seriously?
S-types who include the various "super-slave" words generally make me laugh.

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RE: Honorifics in a nick? - 4/2/2014 1:06:52 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: JeffBC
Male dominants who include honorifics generally amuse me.
Female dominants are different... there seems to be something different in the FLR world although I'm still likely to laugh a bit. Goddess? really? seriously?
S-types who include the various "super-slave" words generally make me laugh.

I think there's a non-BDSM explanation for this asymmetry.

The mainstream media, e.g., Cosmo-type magazines, or Oprah/The View-type shows, sometimes use phrasing like, "Every woman is a goddess," or, "Every girl is a princess." And, of course, long before TV, fairy tales would encourage women to be the princess who marries the handsome prince.

By contrast, there's little in the mainstream media that encourages men to be the Master of their woman. (Some might argue that there are a lot of subtle hints in society that the man should be the master of the woman, even if he doesn't call himself that. I think that's a reasonable position, but my point here is about what a guy is "allowed" to call himself in the vanilla public.)

So it's more normal, and less freighted, for women to use honorifics. For a man to call himself Master or Lord, he's Making A Point(tm) -- at least to himself. For a woman to do the same thing, well, more data needed before I can reach a conclusion.

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RE: Honorifics in a nick? - 4/2/2014 1:19:18 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

quote:

ORIGINAL: JeffBC
Male dominants who include honorifics generally amuse me.
Female dominants are different... there seems to be something different in the FLR world although I'm still likely to laugh a bit. Goddess? really? seriously?
S-types who include the various "super-slave" words generally make me laugh.

I think there's a non-BDSM explanation for this asymmetry.

The mainstream media, e.g., Cosmo-type magazines, or Oprah/The View-type shows, sometimes use phrasing like, "Every woman is a goddess," or, "Every girl is a princess." And, of course, long before TV, fairy tales would encourage women to be the princess who marries the handsome prince.

By contrast, there's little in the mainstream media that encourages men to be the Master of their woman. (Some might argue that there are a lot of subtle hints in society that the man should be the master of the woman, even if he doesn't call himself that. I think that's a reasonable position, but my point here is about what a guy is "allowed" to call himself in the vanilla public.)

So it's more normal, and less freighted, for women to use honorifics. For a man to call himself Master or Lord, he's Making A Point(tm) -- at least to himself. For a woman to do the same thing, well, more data needed before I can reach a conclusion.

The TV didn't call me a goddess, every man I have ever known has, including the vanilla Saudi millionaire who's my best friend and dreams of marrying me. It's not for you to believe, it just is, LOL. "Goddess" is an actual moniker I needn't demand.

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RE: Honorifics in a nick? - 4/2/2014 1:22:35 PM

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ORIGINAL: GoddessManko
The TV didn't call me a goddess, every man I have ever known has, including the vanilla Saudi millionaire who's my best friend and dreams of marrying me. It's not for you to believe, it just is, LOL. "Goddess" is an actual moniker I needn't demand.

I'm not talking about you personally, in any way shape or form. I want to stay as far away from that noise as possible.

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RE: Honorifics in a nick? - 4/2/2014 1:24:35 PM

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Technically, "Lady" is an honorific. How many would claim LadyPact is trying to convey an imagined position?

The "Lady" portion of my screen name has little to do with honorificss, and much to do with how the first and second sound together. It also denotes I expect any man in my life to treat me as a lady.

Most (definitely excluding GM, who I happen to like) who use Goddess or Princess are nott people I would care to associate with.

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RE: Honorifics in a nick? - 4/2/2014 1:52:06 PM

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I can only answer for Europe, the Lady "title" usually let people know that you're

A) A sadist
B) Not into the sexual part of BDSM

Of course there will always be somebody who takes offence to the "honorific" (which is actually a more of a description), but for those, I could offer real life titles that trump this one, so they can sod right off, I mean at least I don't pretend to be "precious"

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RE: Honorifics in a nick? - 4/2/2014 6:41:57 PM

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ORIGINAL: SailingBum

You know the type.... They have Goddess "I'm self important" in their nick. I've always wondered are these ppl that insecure that they feel the need to "self inflate" their egos? I've always been of the mindset if you have to automatically ask for "respect" Lord whatever <insert honorific here> You are prolly not deserving of it.

Interested in your thoughts on it?!

BadOne

When I see this, I just think they are young uns who like to roleplay. It's just fun for them like playing a video game or going to an anime convention. They can pretend to be anything they want. Those who use these types of nicks rarely take it offline.

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RE: Honorifics in a nick? - 4/2/2014 7:59:46 PM

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

When I see this, I just think they are young uns who like to roleplay. It's just fun for them like playing a video game or going to an anime convention. They can pretend to be anything they want. Those who use these types of nicks rarely take it offline.

The same thing I think when I see adults get impassioned about a change in moderation on an online forum, LOL. T=TRAGIC.

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RE: Honorifics in a nick? - 4/2/2014 8:24:27 PM

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Good evening,

We are trying very hard to allow you all to express yourselves and not censure you, but there are times when we will be forced to step in. Personal attacks will be a problem. So, if you must attack one another and go from thread to thread to do so and maybe even create threads to do so, we will have to step in.

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RE: Honorifics in a nick? - 4/2/2014 8:37:25 PM

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ORIGINAL: GoddessManko

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

When I see this, I just think they are young uns who like to roleplay. It's just fun for them like playing a video game or going to an anime convention. They can pretend to be anything they want. Those who use these types of nicks rarely take it offline.

The same thing I think when I see adults get impassioned about a change in moderation on an online forum, LOL. T=TRAGIC.

wow...angry much. Don't remember talking specifically to you. I was answering the op. And I'm not one of those getting impassioned about a change in moderation. I just have this thing about certain people reading my email just because they nosey instead of a needed basis as it is supposed to be and for both sides to be separate as we were told from the very beginning.

But whatever. You go on with your bad self.

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RE: Honorifics in a nick? - 4/2/2014 9:25:37 PM

GoddessManko

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

wow...angry much. Don't remember talking specifically to you. I was answering the op. And I'm not one of those getting impassioned about a change in moderation. I just have this thing about certain people reading my email just because they nosey instead of a needed basis as it is supposed to be and for both sides to be separate as we were told from the very beginning.

But whatever. You go on with your bad self.

Not angry, but the poster created this thread based on a premise and that is being encouraged based on conjecture and hypotheticals which have no bearings on actuality and reality. Consistently. THAT I find interesting.

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RE: Honorifics in a nick? - 4/8/2014 12:24:41 PM

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RE: Honorifics in a nick? - 4/8/2014 1:26:25 PM

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I'm just curious as to why my reply about what a posters avatar said, when the question and the oh I am off to find one answer is still here. Kinda makes no sense without the answer.

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RE: Honorifics in a nick? - 4/8/2014 5:08:08 PM

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What does it mean if your profile nickname states you're a Bum?

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RE: Honorifics in a nick? - 4/8/2014 5:16:20 PM

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My first reaction is usually a raised eyebrow, but I judge them on other things.

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RE: Honorifics in a nick? - 4/8/2014 8:39:56 PM

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ORIGINAL: GoddessManko
Not angry, but the poster created this thread based on a premise and that is being encouraged based on conjecture and hypotheticals which have no bearings on actuality and reality. Consistently. THAT I find interesting.

You have stats to prove that those who use honorifics are for real? Otherwise, your assertion is worth exactly what the op's assertion to the opposite is. Just your opinion.

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RE: Honorifics in a nick? - 4/8/2014 11:40:54 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SailingBum

You know the type.... They have Goddess "I'm self important" in their nick. I've always wondered are these ppl that insecure that they feel the need to "self inflate" their egos? I've always been of the mindset if you have to automatically ask for "respect" Lord whatever <insert honorific here> You are prolly not deserving of it.

Interested in your thoughts on it?!

BadOne

I haven't found any relationship between how arrogant someone is and whether they have an honorific in their nickname. Personally, I think it comes off as more self-inflating, or at least an affectation, for you to sign a post as "BadOne."

< Message edited by seekingreality -- 4/8/2014 11:42:01 PM >

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RE: Honorifics in a nick? - 4/9/2014 6:02:33 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: GoddessManko

quote:

ORIGINAL: littlewonder

wow...angry much. Don't remember talking specifically to you. I was answering the op. And I'm not one of those getting impassioned about a change in moderation. I just have this thing about certain people reading my email just because they nosey instead of a needed basis as it is supposed to be and for both sides to be separate as we were told from the very beginning.

But whatever. You go on with your bad self.

Not angry, but the poster created this thread based on a premise and that is being encouraged based on conjecture and hypotheticals which have no bearings on actuality and reality. Consistently. THAT I find interesting.

Did he? Because I am not a mind reader and I honestly don't know his reasoning. What I do know is this subject has come up many times in the past and the consensus has always been about the same. Personally I could care less what name someone chooses for themselves but they shouldn't get upset if others see it as pretentious or just plain silly.

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