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new master new slave - 4/8/2014 4:42:51 AM   
master4sub81


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Status: offline 		I am new to this. I have a slave that i have been talking to for two weeks now online he has gave up all control to all his accounts. He has a locked collar on he sent me the keys. He has a lock through cock he sent me the keys. I am to meet him in June.

Is this moving to fast and how long should I wait until i decided if i want him to move closer to me?
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RE: new master new slave - 4/8/2014 4:51:05 AM   
MissImmortalPain


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Status: offline 		Two weeks, really? Everyone's opinion is going to differ but personally I would slow down a bit if I were you. How much do you really know about this other person? Before deciding that they should move closer to you perhaps you should get to know them better and find out if the two of you would mesh well outside of your shared kink.

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RE: new master new slave - 4/8/2014 5:56:08 AM   
FieryOpal


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Status: offline 		You've got to be kidding. If one of my friends told me they had collared a slave in two weeks, I'd be very concerned. This smacks of the kind of desperation that some of these chastity slaves have in finding a Keyholder Mistress, ANY Mistress to act as Keyholder for them. I see you've posted elsewhere about how safe is it to keep a penis plug in for how long a time. Not longer than a few hours or the time between urinations, if this is "safe" at all and not a hazardous practice. I've heard of urethral penetration, but not of plugging this orifice for prolonged periods of time.

Back on track, does "talking" mean that you have cam-verified one another? Do you have any experience taking charge of a slave and being responsible for his/her welfare? Until you both have met face-to-face, and have real-time interactions, neither of you has a clue as to the stark reality of the situation you have both gotten yourselves into. Are you aware that as the Dominant, you have a greater liability? You may feel insulated now behind a computer screen with x amount of miles separating you physically, but that doesn't absolve you of culpability from a charge of manslaughter for let's say fraudulent purposes of allegedly swindling this man's assets, getting civilly sued by irate relatives who got disinherited. Think hard, buddy, about what you're getting yourself into and what can of worms you have opened.

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RE: new master new slave - 4/8/2014 6:01:27 AM   
thishereboi


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quote:

ORIGINAL: master4sub81

I am new to this. I have a slave that i have been talking to for two weeks now online he has gave up all control to all his accounts. He has a locked collar on he sent me the keys. He has a lock through cock he sent me the keys. I am to meet him in June.

Is this moving to fast and how long should I wait until i decided if i want him to move closer to me?


It is moving to fast for me, but your mileage may vary. Personally I like to actually meet someone before I give all control away or any for that matter. I would also wait until I had met him and had an actual relationship before even discussing either of us moving. The idea that he was so desperate that he would hand the keys to his cock over to a total stranger on the internet would have me questioning things but I tend to be suspicious that way.

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RE: new master new slave - 4/8/2014 6:14:13 AM   
freedomdwarf1


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...The idea that he was so desperate that he would hand the keys to his cock over to a total stranger on the internet would have me questioning things...

This one action alone would have huge red flags waving at me with klaxons blaring in my ears!!
What sort of mindset is this person in to do such a stupid and irresponsible thing??
And in just two weeks???? Sheesh!

There's no way on this earth would I want anything to do with anyone in this frame of mind.
Sorry, I'd return the keys and block such a person.

ETA: New master with new slave and neither have a clue = recipe for extreme disaster.


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RE: new master new slave - 4/8/2014 7:21:33 AM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		Define "accounts". If it's an account for cm, Fet, OKCupid, you're moving too fast. If it's a bank or cc account, he's nuts.

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RE: new master new slave - 4/8/2014 7:32:43 AM   
searching4mysir


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Define "accounts". If it's an account for cm, Fet, OKCupid, you're moving too fast. If it's a bank or cc account, he's nuts.



Seeing as according to his profile he is a findom (Example of what I want to control: how you dress who you play with how you spend your money and any plans oked by me etc.) I'm guessing it is bank/cc account and he's nuts.

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RE: new master new slave - 4/8/2014 7:42:23 AM   
poise


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ORIGINAL: master4sub81
Is this moving to fast

Too fast for who? Did you have parameters in mind when you set up your account here,
or were you looking for some instantaneous mastering of some random internet fella right away?
If the two of you are just looking to explore some kinky fantasy fun, have at it. Lucky for you, he
already has some of the toys, and all you had to do was give this random internet fella your home
address in order for him to send you the keys. Easy peasy, eh?

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ORIGINAL: master4sub81
and how long should I wait until i decided if i want him to move closer to me?

That depends. Again, what were you looking for when you created your account here?
If you find substance and fulfillment in this instant submission, why hinder it with a timing schedule?

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RE: new master new slave - 4/8/2014 8:15:00 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Why can't you meet for coffee this weekend? Just to see if you like each other.

And he could buy a set of keys from the hardware store and send them to you. It doesn't prove anything.

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RE: new master new slave - 4/8/2014 8:51:30 AM   
angelikaJ


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Status: offline 		What does a collar mean to you?

From my position it doesn't seem like it means all that much: would you have someone you never met wear a wedding ring?

He doesn't know you.
You don't really know him except for the whole blind devotion part.
Is the depth of that meaningful to you?

If you are asking the question, I think it means you have your own personal doubts.
Perhaps you could honor them?

As an afterthought: who bought the collar and lock for his cock?
I suspect he did.
Did he ask permission first at least?

If he didn't, then it is he who is defining the terms of this relationship.
Does that fit in with your thoughts on what a M/s relationship is?

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RE: new master new slave - 4/8/2014 9:33:19 AM   
SeekingTrinity


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It would be way too fast for me if this was my life. Way way way way way too fast for me. But it's your life, OP? What do you think of this as far as your life goes?

As far as how long until you relocate him...that's entirely up to you. For me personally, relocation is a huge step for both people. Don't bring someone to where you live unless you are sure you want them around.

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RE: new master new slave - 4/8/2014 9:54:31 AM   
kalikshama


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Status: offline 		Send him back the keys and the accounts until y'all meet.

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RE: new master new slave - 4/8/2014 10:24:11 AM   
JeffBC


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ORIGINAL: master4sub81
Is this moving to fast and how long should I wait until i decided if i want him to move closer to me?

It would be moving way too fast for me. It's also moving in the wrong direction. I'm sort of of the opinion that when building authority you can do so carefully, brick by brick, with a great deal of attention and patience and in doing so you can a solid power structure that resists trivial challenges. Alternately, you can build a house of cards with all that that implies. This guy does not trust you or respect you -- not for real. The foundation of your power structure wouldn't work for me.

The real question, however, is whether it's working for you.

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RE: new master new slave - 4/8/2014 11:11:46 AM   
FeralFoxy


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Status: offline 		If this dude (the sub) is being honest about handing over all keys, I would love to be a fly on the wall of the ER he's going to end up in when he gets an infection from his penis plug.

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RE: new master new slave - 4/8/2014 12:12:55 PM   
InHisHeart


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Status: offline 		Way too soon in my opinion. Two weeks talking on line, you don't know anything about each other.

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RE: new master new slave - 4/8/2014 11:48:04 PM   
seekingreality


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quote:

ORIGINAL: master4sub81

I am new to this. I have a slave that i have been talking to for two weeks now online he has gave up all control to all his accounts. He has a locked collar on he sent me the keys. He has a lock through cock he sent me the keys. I am to meet him in June.

Is this moving to fast and how long should I wait until i decided if i want him to move closer to me?


Seems weird to me. If the guy gave you control over his financial accounts, and he actually sent you all his keys, I think he's an idiot for doing it.

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