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AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Having a hard time finding a live in (4/9/2014 11:52:19 PM)
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This is not a snarky answer, I hope you take it in the helpful spirit it is intended.
Why do YOU think it's hard to find someone? If you can't put yourself in a prospective slave's position and work out all the challenges and concerns they would face in finding a good match, then you have little to no chance of being able to make this work. Empathy and a realistic view are essential in embarking on a tricky relationship dynamic.
Some starting points for you:
-How many single women do you think are looking to be slaves to a couple (I'll give you a hint on that one, very few). How many couples do you think would like another woman? What would make her pick you over the competition?
- Do you think your profile gives her much of an idea of what life would be like? Is it clear what you mean when you say 'treated like a slave should'? Does she have enough information to get an idea of whether she will be doing all the housework, working outside the home, a sex slave, will she be equal in importance to both of you or get no say about decisions? Will she be a part of the family for Christmas and parties or a dirty little secret?
-Can you see how some of those things would be a really big concern for her?
- Is it clear what you mean when you say 'we will take care of you?' How does she know she will be safe and financially provided for with you? How does she know that you've even talked about this, and budgeted to add another person?
- Can she trust that your existing relationship is secure and not full of drama? Is a year long enough to be ready to add another person, especially when you only spend one night a week together?
- Will there be jealousy issues if she's around all the time and your wife isn't?
- What needs does he have that requires another person during the week? Does he struggle to clean the house without help? Is he lonely? Does he just want more BJs? If he is in poor, will the new slave be a carer?
That's just off the top of my head, before I factor in the basics like age ranges, sexuality, matching kinks, being local enough to meet. If you are confused as to why this is difficult, I hope this clears it up for you.
I know, realistically, a profile can't convey all that information which is why people suggest you meet people in real life which will help them get a sense of how you act together and what sort of people you are. But your profile could contain a lot more information.
For me the key points that need clarifying are the way a slave 'should' be treated (some people treat their slave like a princess, others like a skivvy, yet others like a piece of meat, there is no 'should' and she really needs to know which you are) and how you will 'take care of' her - health insurance? room and board? emotional support? career help?
One concern for me, if I were looking, would be the living arrangements. I'd be concerned that as the new slave I'd be effectively displacing the wife - I'd be there all the time, she rarely would. I'd be worried that either there would be major jealousy OR there would be a lot of pressure on me to do all the work to keep the household running and be forgotten every time wifey got home. Now perhaps neither of those are true, but it would put me off unless I was certain the two of you had considered these possibilities and that you both wanted this a lot.
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