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JstAnotherSub -> RE: The 15 minute date (4/11/2014 4:56:42 PM)


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ORIGINAL: seekingOwnertoo


Dunno what to say about this OP, except the guy was clearly a jerk (assuming, of course this is even 85% accurate, which, sorry OP, I do not know for sure).

Myself, I am a single man. One who does meet a Lady for elegant dinners at fine dining restaurants; particularly on a first meet!


I always make an effort to be charming, gracious, fun and a white knight, too! LOL Sometimes I run into Ladies who have issues of their own ... but that is another discussion.

Most often ... I and whomever I meet, have a great time on the first date. And it usually is a LOT more than 15 minutes. [;)]

Then too, I am NOT trying to get into bed on the first meet, either. Instead I am looking for mental connection and chemistry ... so I will buy into both of these comments below ...

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ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt

FR:

Just so you know, there are *plenty* of guys who would act like this one did. They think having a big cock (in their mind) makes them irresistible, and are convinced that ALL submissive women want to fuck all day long and aren't too picky about who with.

This is an extremely well entrenched stereotype that many so called dom men share.



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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Sorry for the timing. But I stand by him being married, and making up a story to test it on you.




Yet I will add ... the following is exactly the wrong method of dealing with the issue Cause JstAnotherSub could have missed Mr Wonderful!

The post below, reminds me of the story about an NFL GM, who changed his first round draft pick because of an article he read on the Internet ... ROFL ...

To which I think .... So what is wrong with your scouting?



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ORIGINAL: JstAnotherSub

I read this thread last night, and I cancelled a date I had for tonight because I felt like too many voices in my head were telling me that this is how the date would have gone.

The voices have never misled me before, so if they were wrong this time, and I missed mr wonderful, I am good with that.

As for meeting where there is alcohol served, I love meeting at a fav bar of mine, when a band is playing that I like, because that way I am gonna have fun no matter what.










I bolded the part that makes me think it is the correct way to deal with this. It is the second date I have ever cancelled the day of the date, the first one is now in jail for sexual assault. I'll keep trusting my voices.




FieryOpal -> RE: The 15 minute date (4/11/2014 5:04:08 PM)


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ORIGINAL: seekingreality
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ORIGINAL: FieryOpal

- I would rather see how a man behaves when his wall of inhibition starts crumbling, and he shows his true colors, even if they happen to be ugly. But that's just me--I wouldn't recommend this tactic for others.

Personally, I don't think most people show their "true colors" when they're drink. They simply show one side of themselves that is no more or less true than when they are in different circumstances. We are all multi-faceted.


Ah, but you haven't been subjected to the kind of interrogation techniques I employ. [:D]

It's true there are those who can hold their drink. I know, because I'm one of them, but I do become less guarded. *Picture a one-centimeter measurement of space between my fingers*




seekingOwnertoo -> RE: The 15 minute date (4/11/2014 5:04:53 PM)



Can I ask ... why make the date in the first place????


Especially with these voices going off????





DaddySatyr -> RE: The 15 minute date (4/11/2014 5:06:13 PM)

I don't mind meeting in a bar, necessarily.

When I was a regular at Tuesday night karaoke, that was my preferred place. There's three reasons:

1) Security. All of my friends there knew me and would "keep an eye on me"

2) Honestly, so that the lady could meet some of my friends and could find out all kinds of little tidbits about me that I might not have shared but she might think is important.

3) I know what my drinking habits are (almost non-existent) but, it was always interesting to see how the "drunks would out" when exposed to a place where alcohol is served (addiction is a big deal-breaker for me).

Since I haven't been very active in doing karaoke since I moved here, the only places that I'm familiar with (and where people know me) would be a music store, a recording studio, A TGIFRIDAYS©, and an Outback©.

Obviously, my choices will be limited.

Based upon the title of the thread, I'll share a personal experience that fits:

A young lady messaged me, about two years ago. ANY profile I have mentions most of the things I feel ladies might see as deal-breakers (smoking, polyamory, etc.).

I gave this lady a choice of meeting for coffee on Saturday or meeting at my Tuesday karaoke joint. She didn't want to wait.

She showed up and could do nothing but bitch about the noise (a legitimate complaint. I prefer someplace quiet so we can actually speak to each other but, remember: it was her choice). I assured her that if we both wanted to, we could go to a local diner for coffee, after a bit so we could talk.

She set in to drinking ... heavily. I refuse to pay for more than three drinks on any first date (hell, on any date. I don't associate with drunks). She was shocked - nearing outrage - when she said: "This drink is finished. I need another" and I pointed her toward the bar.

Suddenly, she was "having a problem" with her vehicle so, could I just follow her (90 minutes, one way) to make sure she got home alright.

The next day, I was working out how I was going to tell her, diplomatically, that I didn't think things went so well when she called me and announced that she had such a great time that she was removing her profile from the site. She paused.

"Aren't you going to take yours down, too?"

I asked her (for the third time) if she'd read my profile, entirely. When she responded: "Yes", I asked her if she understood what polyamory was. She said: "But, surely, that was only until you found me. Right?"

It wasn't "fifteen minutes" but, it should have been.







Screen captures still RULE! Ya feel me?







JstAnotherSub -> RE: The 15 minute date (4/12/2014 5:02:32 AM)


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ORIGINAL: seekingOwnertoo



Can I ask ... why make the date in the first place????


Especially with these voices going off????



He is a truck driver, and with our schedules we knew it would be about 6 weeks before he was home long enough for us to get together. We spoke on the phone a few times a week, and at first it was ok, then the voices began to whisper. I guess I waited til the last possible moment, wondering if they would go away or something, but they got louder and louder as the time neared.

Or, I am just batshit crazy. Pick one!




kalikshama -> RE: The 15 minute date (4/12/2014 5:50:39 AM)

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Can I ask ... why make the date in the first place????

Especially with these voices going off????


Depends on the voice. If it says, "This guy has an anger management problem or is a potential stalker" then no, I don't meet.

The last time I had a first date, the voice was saying, "I don't get a kinky vibe." Turned out he just didn't like to talk about kink before meeting and via email, and we've been together ever since.




ThePrincessKali -> RE: The 15 minute date (4/13/2014 2:14:47 AM)

I haven't had anyone say that to me on an in person date. I've had many strangers yell things like that at me as I'm walking down the street but to say that on a first date is beyond disrespectful. This guy seems like a loser and I'm sorry you had to deal with that. I probably would of thrown my drink in his face.




RedMagic1 -> RE: The 15 minute date (4/13/2014 6:19:38 AM)

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ORIGINAL: DangerousCrves
A big fucking wall of self respect.

I hate it when that happens!




GreedyTop -> RE: The 15 minute date (4/13/2014 7:39:03 AM)

RED!! *tacklehugssmoooches*




DesFIP -> RE: The 15 minute date (4/13/2014 9:20:59 AM)


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ORIGINAL: ThePrincessKali

I haven't had anyone say that to me on an in person date. I've had many strangers yell things like that at me as I'm walking down the street but to say that on a first date is beyond disrespectful. This guy seems like a loser and I'm sorry you had to deal with that. I probably would of thrown my drink in his face.


I was thinking she should have dumped it in his lap. Might have helped cool him down.




Estafania -> RE: The 15 minute date (4/13/2014 12:15:34 PM)

Ergh I hate people like that who think they're god's greatest gift.

It was funny to read though, thanks!:)




FriendlyMuppet -> RE: The 15 minute date (4/13/2014 2:53:58 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Estafania

Ergh I hate people like that who think they're god's greatest gift.




I agree. It makes it so difficult for me to explain to them that I am god's greatest gift when they're so easily misinformed.




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