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RE: why is the lifestyle so full of jealousy - 4/19/2014 6:45:52 AM

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The problem in dealing with people is the fact you're dealing with people. And 'leaving the lifestyle' is a bad way to put it. I simply stopped doing the things that go with the scene for almost twenty years, but I never 'left' anything. It was always there, I simply didn't have the time or motivation to keep it going.

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RE: why is the lifestyle so full of jealousy - 4/19/2014 7:13:38 AM

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I can't say I've noticed any difference between kinky and non kinky in terms of this. Just as you get nice people from all walks of like, you also get arsewipes.

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RE: why is the lifestyle so full of jealousy - 4/19/2014 8:56:02 AM

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The very nature of the lifestyle means there will be more big egos then in the vanilla world. If you have a dominant personality and are immature you will often respond to challenges with anger.

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RE: why is the lifestyle so full of jealousy - 4/19/2014 5:04:18 PM

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I agree with Dripman. I haven't found anything is worse in the BDSM community compared to everyday life.

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RE: why is the lifestyle so full of jealousy - 4/19/2014 6:03:03 PM

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I don't think we have enough information.

Perhaps this is about getting into polyamory or multiple play partners without fully working it out with one's primary partner first. That could arguably be a reason why the green-eyed monster rears its head in the lifestyle more. Going to a play party or a dungeon, folks scantily clad doing erotic stimulating things to each other --- that's going to invite arousal in onlookers and that's fodder for jealousy.

We don't have a context.

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