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Domming my Master - 7/9/2006 7:39:03 AM

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On ocassion my Master likes me to Domme him, is that unusual should I enjoyn the control

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RE: Domming my Master - 7/9/2006 7:42:26 AM

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LOL,
Yes that is unique.....never heard it before.....you are SO alone....

LOLOL,

If you enjoy it and he enjoys it.......it is right.....there is no other consideration....

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RE: Domming my Master - 7/9/2006 7:48:09 AM

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Sounds to me like you are switches.

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RE: Domming my Master - 7/9/2006 7:59:14 AM

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Does he actually want you to "Domme" him which means he gives control over to you.. or does he just like the sensation play and you are actually only Topping him?

If it is the first.. he is a switch..(I wont say you are because you dont indicate whether or not this brings you a sense of pleasure or power) .. if it is the latter than he is still in control and still the Dom..

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RE: Domming my Master - 7/9/2006 8:47:23 AM

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Sounds like the Master is merely a masochist, to me. Being masochistic doesn't equal being a submissive or slave. What we do does not define who we are. But of course, this is my opinion and we are each entitled.

To the OP: The scenario isn't as odd as you think. I know several Masters, even one who was International Master (of the Master/slave title) several years ago, who are masocistic. As long as you and he are comfortable with it, don't worry about it . It will only be a problem if you are ever in a group where the submissives/slaves aren't allowed to top.

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RE: Domming my Master - 7/9/2006 8:51:47 AM

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Not as unusual as you think. Enjoy the control, enjoy the fact that you are pleasing your Master.

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RE: Domming my Master - 7/9/2006 10:28:52 PM

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Sounds like the Master is merely a masochist, to me. Being masochistic doesn't equal being a submissive or slave. What we do does not define who we are.

I'm in complete agreement with the above statement. Go with the flow, and enjoy yourselves. If you're both having fun, fuck what anyone else thinks.

As always, YMMV...
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RE: Domming my Master - 7/9/2006 10:35:25 PM

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I've been with a couple of dominants who enjoyed being a bottom on occasion. At first, it bothered me, and I could only be comfortable doing it if they "ordered" me to as their submissive. I don't think it would bother me much now, except that it's not dominating them, to me, it's topping for their pleasure.

As others have said, if you both enjoy it, and you are comfortable with it, enjoy it! It's not as uncommon as you might think!

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RE: Domming my Master - 7/9/2006 10:38:44 PM

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Whatever works for the two of you works for the two of you. It doesn't matter what it's called.

But there's a difference between domming him and topping him.

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RE: Domming my Master - 7/9/2006 10:58:17 PM

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I get confused about whether I would actually like this or not, even though I think I may possibly (I am not sure yet) be a Switch. I sort of feel like I'd want to stay within one orientation with a particular partner. For now, that's how I feel.
I might change my mind 3-6 months from now, who knows? But if I was with a Dominant, what they want would be what's most important. Even so,

I think right now I might feel weird if someone wanted me to Domme them, when the day before, he'd been my Dominant. So, for me, Switching would require separate partners, I guess.

That might sound hypocritical, given I began a thread two days ago on why can't people understand Switches more - but it is how I feel. I am new to all this (relatively) so please no flames. And it doesn't mean I could not be a Switch - it just means that I'd want to maintain one orientation w/one person. They (a partner) might want that as well.

But please don't take offense or misunderstand my post. I am basically trying to sort this out myself, and am talking to myself, here. So I am grateful this topic thread was started!

I completely understand other people wanting this kind of situation. And more power to you, and I am sure it can be enjoyable, and I hope it works out.

*If the question is: Do I think it's weird?. Well, there is very little I actually think of as weird (very little). This doesn't even come close to hitting the halfway point, for me, in that regard. I say go for it, if he wants to do that - but do certainly talk to him about your concerns, if you have some.

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RE: Domming my Master - 7/9/2006 11:02:09 PM

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1. Sensation is sensation, play is play, and I wouldn't really worry about it if you both enjoy it.

2. We all seem to agree that if it works, that's great.

3. What's with all the labelling from (many, not all) the others who posted? Does it matter if she's a submissive, slave, switch, sometimes Top, etc? I think the semantics don't really mean alot.

4. See # 2 if anyone gives you chaff.

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RE: Domming my Master - 7/10/2006 4:51:35 AM

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If it makes the two of you happy DO IT and don't worry about the labels or what anyone else thinks.

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RE: Domming my Master - 7/10/2006 5:48:01 AM

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quote:

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3. What's with all the labelling from (many, not all) the others who posted? Does it matter if she's a submissive, slave, switch, sometimes Top, etc? I think the semantics don't really mean alot.

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I agree that the semantics dont "matter" much when it comes down to doing.. but as a submissive, I know personally I have a much easier time with understanding that I would be "topping" my dominant at his direction rather than dominating him as he is submissive to me if I were not in that type of headspace (being a switch). It would allow much more freedom in my mind.

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RE: Domming my Master - 7/10/2006 6:27:19 AM

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Topping from the bottom is not unusal. But, it sounds a bit more like Switches. Helk, whatever floats the boats...have fun...explore limits!

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RE: Domming my Master - 7/10/2006 3:20:50 PM

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On ocassion my Master likes me to Domme him, is that unusual should I enjoyn the control

I think a lot of Doms want to experience some of what they are putting their sub through. My first Dom had me cuff and flog him with his riding crop because he wanted to know what it was like. I hated doing it, couldn't make myself hit hard enough, I know i'm not a switch. Hubby has never asked me to do that. If you both enjoy it then like the others said, maybe you are switches. Have fun.

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RE: Domming my Master - 7/10/2006 7:46:12 PM

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this girl has never been told to top her Master, until now.
at first it made her very nervous as she is aggressive naturally and was fearful of going over the line, but Master keeps a short leash on this girl when W/we play like that and she is beggining to enjoy herself.
you should always remember to never use those times to "get back" at your Master/Mistress/Dom/me. actions like that will always come back to bite you on the ass.

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RE: Domming my Master - 7/11/2006 5:25:49 PM

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how easily it can go from serving to "topping"... probably a lot more common than we know.

give master a backrub
give master a very hard backrub
master lies prone while sub sits on his butt so she can really throw some body into it
add some elbow rubbing and digging and deep muscle thumping
deep muscle slapping
slap it, harder!
hell, get a flogger..

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RE: Domming my Master - 7/13/2006 3:27:50 AM

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I request it from time to time from my subs, I let them try as hard they can to push me to use a safe word. That is what I order them to do and I enjoy giving in to my masochistic side form time to time. I never give them an inch of control though, not even the freedom to decide what to use.

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