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RE: Unworthiness in BDSM? - 7/10/2006 8:36:49 AM

marksl

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Depends what you want i wouldent mind a Domme who is physical but if that all it is wont last very long. Also need chemistry something cant practice. Going to spend your time with someone at least like them first unless a real sadist.

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RE: Unworthiness in BDSM? - 7/10/2006 10:06:04 AM

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Years ago after I had been inducted into the Gorean Lifestyle bu my mentors and perr group I was introduced ito the Gorean Role Play.. For almost a year I stayed away from any concept of owning a slave.. Why? I felt insecure in the role play aspect even though it was a good training ground and I really had no idea what to do with a slave. In my own eyes although I was confident in myself as a Gorean Free man (in and out of R/P) I still knew I needed much training on how to be a Master thus in my own eyes I was unworthy of accepting the responsibility of slave ownership. later again I had this same crisis when I collared my first r/l slave on line in a LDR. I made huge mistakes but at the end I uderstood, had learned and in myself felt that I had become worthy. To some degree I am still this way with many BDSM techniques such as shibari and needle play for lack of practice and having some one to practice on. These days also I am secure in myself and abilities that I no longer feel the need to hunt down a suitable slave (if one exists in Queensland) although I may want one it is not necessary for my continuance.

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RE: Unworthiness in BDSM? - 7/10/2006 10:42:40 AM

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ORIGINAL: CrappyDom
I think I will die if I ever see an ad from a submissive saying something like "looking for inexperienced dominant to work with and grow together"!

Actually, when I got here that's exactly what I was looking for and the first couple of men I met from CM were both pretty new. I was (and still am to some degree) extremely intimidated by those with a lot of experience. It just seemed to highlight my total lack of knowledge and experience and to bring out my insecurities. I didn't ever feel unworthy (as a person) but I worried my lack of knowledge/experience would be frustrating and perhaps my beginner level would fail to keep his interest. I thought maybe a less experienced person would be less likely to have an end result in mind and less likely to grow frustrated and impatient with my learning curve.

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RE: Unworthiness in BDSM? - 7/10/2006 11:03:31 AM

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ORIGINAL: CrappyDom
I think I will die if I ever see an ad from a submissive saying something like "looking for inexperienced dominant to work with and grow together"!

Actually, I'm sure I have read quite a few female profiles saying almost exactly this, or at least that they are open to this particular option.

Of course, I might then be reasonably challenged to find them again and would probably fail.....And, perhaps (although I don't particularly see why there should be), there are more of these in the UK than elsewhere, since I often have my homepage set up to only show those online in the UK (not sure why I do, but I declare it as a possibly material qualifier of my own observations).

Laura

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