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Autum39 -> How rare women who need real privacy are. (4/20/2014 4:09:00 PM)


i had no idea how rare i seem to be.


For some reason when i began exploring sexuality and kink between women i thought there might be lots of women like myself who want to do this in a safe and secretive way. Women like me who are in the closet and have to stay this way who still want to explore this fascinating lifestyle and maintain anonymity and privacy.


Some women can do this openly and i do see some of them here but it's incredibly rare to find women who want to do this safely in online only relationships.





Most want to end up meeting or talk on the phone or texting by exchanging numbers that gives them complete access to identity which is a hard limit for those of us who cant and wont risk our privacy. That kind of information potentially exposes us or in the worst cases could be used against us by a lost phone or stolen computer being found with our secrets and phone number included!





There are those who would say that if the risk is too big dont be here. dont do this....


i dont agree that the only choices are be willing to risk exposure or dont be kinky.


Lots on here use names or pics that are not our own in an effort to do this but posting someones else's pic is not an option i would use.





Given how rare women who need to keep this private are there seems to be many profiles that say they are doing this in secret, then post face pics...lol...


Do you think those might be fakes? ...lol





i am so glad to see how many of the real "seeming" women are out and open in this realm. Good for all of you who do this openly.





i am just amazed at how very few do this in real secrecy.





i am very rare on here.





i was truly surprised how rare.





number one...i'm really the woman in my pics and number two, i do this in true secrecy for my own safety.





am i the only one?

oh and please dont include the ones who claim to be real and wont verify even in safe faceless pics.
sadly with the high percentages fo fakes on all fetish sites it does come to being thought of as a fake until we prove ourselves real. I do not get offended when people think i may be fake. i welcome it. It gives the perfect chance to ask to trade real verification photos made to exacting poses to insure it was taken for the person who asked for it.
Exact requested photos and web cam are the only real proof. old pics in a collection mean nothing for verification.



anniezz338 -> RE: How rare women who need real privacy are. (4/20/2014 4:25:43 PM)

Online relationships have their own privacy issues. They could put your video online for all others to see, you could be entertaining a stag party and not know it, use your pics for other profiles or just be sent around to the boys.

What it comes down to is how safe do you feel? Myself, I would rather meet for a cup of coffee and actually meet than take the risk of my junk hanging out all over the internet.

I think people have different ideas of what is safe and private.



angelikaJ -> RE: How rare women who need real privacy are. (4/20/2014 4:26:14 PM)

There are many of women who keep their kink private, who don't go to munches and play parties and who are content to explore kink in the safety of their own bedrooms with their intimate partners with whom they have built long-term trust based relationships.

So, I don't think what you want is all that unusual.
I just happen to think how you are defining secrecy to be a bit different than how many other people may.

Having done both, from my experience, I don't think anonymity that one has from online is more secure than having a relationship with a real person.
Anonymity can certainly be exciting if you are wired that way, but until you meet someone who ever is on the other end of the internet cable (so to speak) is a stranger.
Personally, I don't find strangers to be a safer option.



Blonderfluff -> RE: How rare women who need real privacy are. (4/20/2014 4:30:26 PM)

I think that most of the regular posters over here on the Forum side live this in real life, and if they are not already in a committed dynamic, then they can and do meet people in real life. I'm not very clear on what you mean by secrecy and privacy, but I am surmising that you mean to keep your kink to on-line only?
If I have assumed correctly (and I may not have) than there are many on the profile side that are only interested in online. You can always find someone that matches your kink. You just have to be patient.



DesFIP -> RE: How rare women who need real privacy are. (4/20/2014 4:35:25 PM)

You think your secrets are safe here? This site does not have the latest in privacy protection. It would be incredibly easy to hack in and start identifying people.

Except that there's no money in that.

If you need online only so your wife doesn't find out, then why would you expect any woman here to be any different than any other woman who doesn't want to be the 'other woman'.

Meet for coffee knowing only each others screen name is probably safer. You don't have to exchange info until and unless you choose to move into a relationship.

Me? If I can't call him when the car breaks down for help, then I don't want to be the person he goes to only when he wants his rocks off.

What have you to offer someone online only? Can you clean the house? Help her organize the garage? Come with her to talk to the mechanic? No, all you're offering is to do cyber sex that is designed solely to get you off. You haven't anything to offer a real person. And that's what you're missing, these women aren't bots, they're real people.



KyttynTheMynx -> RE: How rare women who need real privacy are. (4/20/2014 4:36:29 PM)

I feel like I should point out that if you want total secrecy and anonymity, you wouldnt even be online. You think you are anonymous and untraceable, but even IP addresses are a personal calling card that you leave EVERYWHERE you look at a page. Here. Facebook. A blog. A cooking website. IT is there. And in certain cases, it is traceable.

Just saying.



RedMagic1 -> RE: How rare women who need real privacy are. (4/20/2014 4:55:54 PM)

At least 90% of female profiles who (a) want to talk to women only, and (b) want to keep their identity completely private, are men.

OP, whether it's true or not, you sound like a horny guy, not a cautious woman.

Best of luck.



MistressDarkArt -> RE: How rare women who need real privacy are. (4/20/2014 7:16:14 PM)

OP, nothing rare about you. My money's on you being a dude, HNG and sock here to incite riot and malcontent.

I think your journal is imaginary hooey. On the VERY off chance it (and you) are legit: anyone who solicits strangers in a public market to involve with your "mistress's" phone games then takes the action into a public restroom where anyone, including underage minors can see/hear has a lot of nerve talking about privacy.

Fail. Next thread, please.



LafayetteLady -> RE: How rare women who need real privacy are. (4/20/2014 7:47:56 PM)

I agree with what MDA ssaid. In a public bathroom with a stranger you consider private? Its about as private as being a truck stop hooker.

There is ZERO rare about you. I will give you the benefit of the doubt of being truly female, but I know people who could trace your location based on those pictures alone, so there goes your safety net.

I get it. You want online only fun. For most of us regulars on the boards, not our thing. But to think that gives you more privacy and safety? Utter foolishness. Your "verification" photos can turn up on every porn site in less than ten minutes.

I keep this part of my life VERY private. No photos here, and only shared when interested in someone. I don't do public scenes or munches. For ME, "private" indicates between me and a partner in a committted relationship in the privacy of my own home.

Interent and private are pretty much the exact opposite of each other. So I'm sorry to burst your bubble, but you are as common as ragweed.



NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: How rare women who need real privacy are. (4/20/2014 9:34:16 PM)

I'd be willing to bet the OP is a HNG dude.

NBMG



MistressDarkArt -> RE: How rare women who need real privacy are. (4/20/2014 9:59:09 PM)

^^^And with all the journal jive about fakes, methinks he doth protest too much. Buh bye, dude.

Anyone wanna bet "Rick" has too much time on his hands again?



SeekingTrinity -> RE: How rare women who need real privacy are. (4/20/2014 11:22:46 PM)

~FRing it~

In my honest opinion, people who think they are special snowflakes rarely are.

The funny thing with the anonymity of the interwebz is that a person can be whatever they want to be...as opposed to what or who they really are. How rare can smoke and mirrors honestly be?

It's not difficult for my guy and I to maintain our private world from our public one. If online is your thing, so be it and rock it if that makes you happy. However you are no more safe or private strictly because you keep this online only.



Chwilfrydig -> RE: How rare women who need real privacy are. (4/21/2014 6:03:01 AM)

I read the OP several times, trying to make sense of it.

You are a rare woman who does secret kinky things in your closet? While online? Do I have that right?

And what are all those long gaps between your sentences and paragraphs? Are those breaks so another rare woman can do secret kinky things in between reading your thoughts? Is this how online super secret kinky sex works?

For the record, I drank my coffee and baby-talked to my male vanilla cat during those gaps.

Good luck to you in your search for fulfillment.



thishereboi -> RE: How rare women who need real privacy are. (4/21/2014 6:23:36 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: angelikaJ

There are many of women who keep their kink private, who don't go to munches and play parties and who are content to explore kink in the safety of their own bedrooms with their intimate partners with whom they have built long-term trust based relationships.

So, I don't think what you want is all that unusual.
I just happen to think how you are defining secrecy to be a bit different than how many other people may.

Having done both, from my experience, I don't think anonymity that one has from online is more secure than having a relationship with a real person.
Anonymity can certainly be exciting if you are wired that way, but until you meet someone who ever is on the other end of the internet cable (so to speak) is a stranger.
Personally, I don't find strangers to be a safer option.




While I agree that there are a lot of women who like to keep their sex life private, they still have sex with their partners in real life. From what I have read of the OP's profile she is looking for an online only relationship and I honestly can't think of a single women I have met who would be willing to settle for that. Now I know a few who don't mind starting off online but they want to eventually meet and start a life together. Now she might find a guy who is willing to pretend he is female and play with her online but even that probably won't last longer than it takes for him to get off. But then again, she is here so all she has to do is find someone who thinks the same way.



thishereboi -> RE: How rare women who need real privacy are. (4/21/2014 6:31:13 AM)

According to her profile, she's a lesbian. So, do you know something we don't know or are you just assuming she is really male and married?


And just for the record, I totally agree with everything else you wrote.

Edited to add: ok so everyone is making the same assumption and you are probably right.



DesFIP -> RE: How rare women who need real privacy are. (4/21/2014 7:13:39 AM)

If she's looking to do online kinky shit only, that usually involves a cam. I don't see how spreading pics across the net of your face while sucking a dildo is being private. But hell, what do I know? I only do stuff with him in the bedroom.

The other thing is no woman is going to have trouble finding someone to order her to do kinky shit over a cam. So that whole thing of she can't find someone makes no sense.

If your postulate that the op is male, then yes, all of it makes sense. And the op reads as though written by a guy.



yourmissjoanna -> RE: How rare women who need real privacy are. (4/21/2014 4:55:52 PM)

I don't really believe that there is such thing as privacy online - someone is going to see something sooner or later.



MistressDarkArt -> RE: How rare women who need real privacy are. (4/21/2014 5:16:44 PM)

nm



Greta75 -> RE: How rare women who need real privacy are. (4/22/2014 8:25:53 AM)

Um, I don't understand. You mean you are too afraid to ever venture into the real thing because you can never trust anyone to keep your secret?

I think many women on here do this on private including myself, but to me, online is not satisfying at all and a waste of time to even bother, just as good as just wanking myself to sleep while fantasizing.

It's the real thing, in the real world, with a real human being that is the amazing experience!

Of course, I've become very good at developing instincts on who is trustworthy and who is not. Trust takes time to built.

You should definitely interact with people online with the intention of filtering who you think can potentially be a safe person whom you can trust to meet with. Not everybody are monsters on here.

You will meet someone else like you who values his privacy just as much and will protect yours.



seekingreality -> RE: How rare women who need real privacy are. (4/22/2014 7:30:13 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Autum39


i had no idea how rare i seem to be.


A guy pretending to be a woman who wants to have cyber sex isn't so rare. Seriously, guy, you need to up your game here



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