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babyboyk -> greetings for Dominants (7/9/2006 10:07:51 AM)
a question for owned submissives/slaves really, i was wondering how other Dominants are greeted, if not your owners, obviously Master/Mistress should be used if it is in their nick, but i go along with what my Owner wishes, was just wondering what other peoples thoughts were, im not sure if ther is a right or wrong answer for this, but ive been pondering this question for a while

hisforever -> RE: greetings for Dominants (7/9/2006 11:44:16 AM)
That is a question I have as well. I am currently doing a lot of net research at the moment, and there is a section on this topic in a lot of the websites. If I come across one I will give you a link!

mnottertail -> RE: greetings for Dominants (7/9/2006 11:51:06 AM)
Common courtesy works wonders. While I am extrememely reticent to call anyone Lord Vader or some other asswipe....I think Mr. Mrs. Mz. or just Ron will do for me. It is a matter of respectful and courteous acts..........whether one deserves that other than implied is ultimately the arguable notion.

littlelostbunny -> RE: greetings for Dominants (7/9/2006 12:00:17 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: babyboyk obviously Master/Mistress should be used if it is in their nick I do that... but anyone could put the word "Master/Mistress" in their nickname/screenname and not have actually "earned" the title. I feel that politely asking the person (or your master/mistress) how they would like to be addressed is the best idea. Otherwise, I simply call them "sir" or "ma'am" to be polite.

CrappyDom -> RE: greetings for Dominants (7/9/2006 2:51:14 PM)
I find it offensive when someone addresses me as Master, Sir is okay, but my name is quite fine.

porchia -> RE: greetings for Dominants (7/9/2006 3:02:31 PM)
i don't use Master/Mistress Sir or Ma'am. Master is reserved for my One and i use Sir as a less formal address for Him and other's He deems worthy of my respect.

Bluebird -> RE: greetings for Dominants (7/9/2006 3:07:21 PM)
I prefer "Ma'am" if I have not given someone my name, or while in a formal play setting. Otherwise, I just prefer my name. I do not call strangers "Master" or "Mistress" regardless of what they call themselves since I have not consented to be a part of their scene. If someone insists that his name is "Master XYZ", I just smile, thinking "oh, you mean Masturbater XYZ," and walk away.

ImpGrrl -> RE: greetings for Dominants (7/9/2006 3:07:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: babyboyk a question for owned submissives/slaves really, i was wondering how other Dominants are greeted, if not your owners, obviously Master/Mistress should be used if it is in their nick, but i go along with what my Owner wishes, was just wondering what other peoples thoughts were, im not sure if ther is a right or wrong answer for this, but ive been pondering this question for a while "Hi there! Nice to meet you."

Daddysredhead -> RE: greetings for Dominants (7/9/2006 3:17:32 PM)
Hi, BBK... I went to my first dungeon party last month and before it started, a bunch of us got there early to do the prep work for the party that was going along with it. All of us introduced ourselves by our first names. That maintained itself until later (playtime) when many of the fem subs called all of the male Doms by Sir. I still called them by their first names as I wasn't aware of the switch until it was almost time to go, but no one seemed offended at all, and Daddy said that it was acceptable, so I went with how they were introduced to me.

littleone35 -> RE: greetings for Dominants (7/9/2006 3:40:44 PM)
My own master of course i call Master. Others unless otherwises instructed by my Master i usually call them by their given name or Mr. or Ms.____ it is just being polite. Matt's littleone

juliaoceania -> RE: greetings for Dominants (7/9/2006 3:57:41 PM)
First of all, are you talking about in real life? On the internet? Or Both? If I was unaccompanied at a munch I would call everyone by their first name. You are not property to anyone, you are not expected to address anyone in any special way. In fact since you are new, and it is a vanilla restaurant I would think it would be improper to make a show of honorifics in such a public place. If I were to go to a dungeon unaccompanied I would still refer to people as either Sir or Ma'am, or their name. You are still not their property, but if you think it reflects on your manners then I would use a Sir or a Ma'am. If you were going to a play party I am assuming you know these people, or you are with someone that does, and they can inform you about the ettiquette that is desireable. All these things go out the window if you have a dom of your own, then he will tell you how he expects you to behave/speak.

Wildfleurs -> RE: greetings for Dominants (7/9/2006 4:15:54 PM)
I say... hello

BitaTruble -> RE: greetings for Dominants (7/9/2006 4:17:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: babyboyk a question for owned submissives/slaves really, i was wondering how other Dominants are greeted, if not your owners, obviously Master/Mistress should be used if it is in their nick, but i go along with what my Owner wishes, was just wondering what other peoples thoughts were, im not sure if ther is a right or wrong answer for this, but ive been pondering this question for a while For me, it's situational. For the word "Master" to pass my lips (or keyboard) it is because I am owned by them .. or "I" have determined their worth according to my own standards that they are a Master. There are two exceptions to this rule: if Himself has deemed someone worthy and tells me to call them Master X ... or if there is a submissive/slave who I have a great deal of respect for, who I know would serve no one but a Master, I would refer to them that way as well if they so desired it and Himself did not forbid it. It would never be as 'just' Master though.. it would be as "Master so-and-so" .. the single honorific of 'Master' is for Himself and him alone. Online, I use someone's chosen screen name. If it contains the word Master and I don't see it, I drop the Master part and just use the rest.. if I do see it, I will keep it in unless there comes a time when I don't, personally see it anymore. (JalisMaster) is a good example. I can see clearly why slavejali would call him Master .. as I see it, it is no burden to include the honorific when addressing him or making statements about him. The recent troll who advocated nonconsensual play wouldn't get an honorific out of me if her life depended on it. Lady Hugs is another good example. It's quite obvious she is a lady and it is no burden to address her as such. Whether I agree with her or not on any given issue, lady fits her quite well. Off line, if I am introduced to someone new, they can let me know how they wish to be addressed and as a matter of course, that is how they will be address under the same criteria I use online. If I see it, I will include "Master" in speaking with them.. if I don't, I won't. I find it is very rare for someone whom I've just met to insist on the title.. and the second they insist will be the same instant they lose the right to receive it. YMMV Celeste

jonathan -> RE: greetings for Dominants (7/9/2006 4:22:58 PM)
i agree with the replies here, use a form of address appropriate to the level of acquaintance and social situation. Addressing someone as Mistress is something both of you earn, Her the right and you the privilege. Usually, if somone wishes to be addressed in a particular way, those wishes will be made known. Even though i am under very serious consideration by my Goddess, i may only address Her as Goddess, Ma'am, or Ms. 'Mistress' is reserved for after i have earned Her collar. She has made it plain how important this is to Her, reserving that form of address for those She feels deserve to use it. Bottom line: when possible, just show simple respect. A few well placed "Ma'am"s can go a long way.

Sab -> RE: greetings for Dominants (7/9/2006 4:34:40 PM)
I am Sab, anyone who calls me master is in for an earful - wife calls me what she calls me because that is how it should be. She does not refer to anyone as master etc - if she did that then she would be in for an earful. :) So, if you ever do see me around the boards - call me Sab. ;-)

Evanesce -> RE: greetings for Dominants (7/9/2006 5:53:28 PM)
quote: i was wondering how other Dominants are greeted, if not your owners, Most of the time, I will greet someone using the name by which I know them, even if others use a different name for them. "Master" is reserved for only one man (and only rarely, during scenes, because I usually call Him "Sir"), and "Mistress" isn't really in my vocabulary - even when referring to myself as a dominant. "Sir" and other such honorifics will be used when I feel comfortable in doing so, unless I am otherwise instructed by the Kaptin.

sublizzie -> RE: greetings for Dominants (7/9/2006 5:54:29 PM)
I'm not collared, but when I meet someone I try to determine what their preference is then that is what I use as their name. But generally I don't need to use someone's name or title. There are ways to get around it. I happen to know these ways because I am awful at remembering names. So I use the same tricks for both situations - not remembering someone's name or not knowing what title they prefer. Now, if the person is someone of importance to me, then they are called exactly what they have told me they prefer to be called. To me, that is being polite.

irishbynature -> RE: greetings for Dominants (7/9/2006 5:55:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: babyboyk a question for owned submissives/slaves really, i was wondering how other Dominants are greeted, if not your owners, obviously Master/Mistress should be used if it is in their nick, but i go along with what my Owner wishes, was just wondering what other peoples thoughts were, im not sure if ther is a right or wrong answer for this, but ive been pondering this question for a while I just go on the assumption that my Dom would not like me calling anyone else "Master or Sir" but Him. Therefore, I address everyone by their Nickname. Warmly[:)] Irish.

kisshou -> RE: greetings for Dominants (7/9/2006 6:48:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mnottertail Common courtesy works wonders. While I am extrememely reticent to call anyone Lord Vader or some other asswipe....I think Mr. Mrs. Mz. or just Ron will do for me. It is a matter of respectful and courteous acts..........whether one deserves that other than implied is ultimately the arguable notion. I call you mmmMaster! mmmGood!!

jezzabelle -> RE: greetings for Dominants (7/9/2006 7:10:32 PM)
If it's a dominant that I don't know well or have just met, then I address them as however they introduced themselves to me (Mr., Ms., Mrs. so and so or their first name). If it's someone that I respect, then I will address them as Sir or Ma'am if they are comfortable with that (some I know don't wish for others that don't belong to them to address them as such). Only one man is addressed as master and he is the one sitting next to me on the couch right now.[:)]

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