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Is it still femdom submissiveness if only one thing is ... - 4/23/2014 11:40:59 AM

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My main focus is to be a pussy slave.

But, does that qualify me for femdom submissive status?

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RE: Is it still femdom submissiveness if only one thing... - 4/23/2014 11:53:37 AM

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I would argue that you are a fetishist, rather than a submissive. You don't actually want to submit to her will, because you're not interested in obeying or making her happy beyond your one big kink. I'm guessing if she only wanted to do your thing one session out of fifteen, and the rest of the time she wanted to play different things, you'd be disappointed.

There's nothing wrong with being a fetishist (so long as it's not affecting the rest of your life or your ability to connect with people) but it's not really the same as giving power to another.

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RE: Is it still femdom submissiveness if only one thing... - 4/23/2014 12:00:13 PM

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No. But you already know that through posting similar questions via your other sock accounts. Your socks change, but the answers never do. Why keep asking?

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RE: Is it still femdom submissiveness if only one thing... - 4/23/2014 12:43:48 PM

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My main focus is to be a pussy slave.

Not only does this make you a fetishist, as AthenaSurrenders astutely pointed out, but how you are classifying yourself needs to be defined more closely.

(a) If you were truly a pussy slave, then your focus would be on servicing all aspects of a woman's vaginal & clitoral needs.

(b) This would include stud service. If it does not, then you are more of an oral slave, performing oral worship.

(c) However, if you are specializing in oral worship, then you will more than likely be expected to do a good rim job.

(d) Therefore, your oral worshipping skills need to expand to ass worship.

(e) You would still be an oral slut, but you could not rightfully call yourself just a pussy slave.

I personally would have no use for a pussy slave who does not provide (b) stud service and who isn't also (d) into ass worship, nor would I want ass worship at the expense of neglecting my genitalia, not to mention the rest of my body for full-on body worship.

This is the problem with being a fetishist, your erotic repertoire becomes so limited, that you do women an injustice by objectifying them into body parts, instead of subjectifying women by putting them and their needs on a pedestal to worship - as you fetishists profess to be doing - instead of worshipping your own fetishes.

This is why any submission on your part or submissive feelings you experience are entirely self-serving to feed your fetish and therefore you are posturing as a submissive only to gratify your fetishes in the name of servicing your Mistress, or any woman for that matter.

Since your avatar suggests that you are also a foot fetishist, is this assumption correct as well?

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RE: Is it still femdom submissiveness if only one thing... - 4/23/2014 1:33:05 PM

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~FRing it~

In all honesty, OP...it pretty much makes you a one-trick pony. You don't even need a femdom for this because honestly any pussy would do, right?

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RE: Is it still femdom submissiveness if only one thing... - 4/23/2014 1:58:38 PM

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Really! Who doesn't love pussy and what pussy owner (that would be Gyno-American, using the politically correct term) doesn't love their pussy worshipped by someone?

I'm here to tell you: If the good Lord made anything finer, He kept it for Himself!

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In all honesty, OP...it pretty much makes you a one-trick pony. You don't even need a femdom for this because honestly any pussy would do, right?

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RE: Is it still femdom submissiveness if only one thing... - 4/23/2014 5:25:42 PM

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Really! Who doesn't love pussy and what pussy owner (that would be Gyno-American, using the politically correct term) doesn't love their pussy worshipped by someone?

I'm here to tell you: If the good Lord made anything finer, He kept it for Himself!

We're speaking of apples and oranges here, Satyr. A red-blooded American male loving pussy and wanting to please his lover is not the same as treating a woman's pussy like a fetish object. I'm sure your dealings with women extend beyond her possessing female sex organs. Men like you in general would be analogous to an apple in the apple cart.

The OP specifically refers to "femdom" and to himself as a "pussy slave," which in Femdom terms translates to oral servicing. Granted, an apple could still be a slave to pussy, but OP has an orange's PoV. Possibly tangelo, if he does have a foot fetish. This would make him a two-trick pony, then.

(If he's any good at what he does.)

Femdom and having a D/s dynamic with a Dominant female does not even have to enter into the picture. A vanilla woman could do. A female Switch would do, and so would a female submissive. Therefore, the issue OP raises about whether he "qualif[ies]" for "submissive status" is an utterly absurd notion.

Unless he comes back to explain where his actions, behavior and/or mindset would reflect his submissiveness apart from his fetish(es) or kinks, D/s does not apply.

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RE: Is it still femdom submissiveness if only one thing... - 4/24/2014 6:33:14 PM

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ORIGINAL: PutMeAnywhere

My main focus is to be a pussy slave.

But, does that qualify me for femdom submissive status?

I'm not sure what it qualifies you as.

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RE: Is it still femdom submissiveness if only one thing... - 4/24/2014 6:46:55 PM

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Really....don't just about all straight men lust after pussy? What makes you "different"?

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RE: Is it still femdom submissiveness if only one thing... - 4/24/2014 7:43:58 PM

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Really....don't just about all straight men lust after pussy? What makes you "different"?

Well, now that you mention pussy....I'm a bit stummilmufririgied.

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RE: Is it still femdom submissiveness if only one thing... - 4/25/2014 8:07:39 PM

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While I live this topic, for me oral ( any contact with Women ) is awesome, from a sub space excellent, and providing that O under order apex. Just seeing assertiveness, or aggression breathtaking. But all of that did arrive in levels over time.

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