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RE: pain lover - 7/12/2006 6:55:04 PM   
wandering4u


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Status: offline 		Positive reinforcement or to borrow from another thread, picking up after my dog. 
Or you can tie her and leave a belt in front of her. Leave her for awhile and put belt away without using it.

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RE: pain lover - 7/13/2006 10:32:17 PM   
shadevarr


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Status: offline 		If you want to be truly cruel, tie her up in the bathroom so she can go anywhere but can't really leave it. Whip her when you want to remind her that you are still there but only a single lash. I have done this with a past slave of mine and after a weekend of it she didn't want to upset me, the punishment and sexual teasing was unbearable, her words.

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RE: pain lover - 7/13/2006 10:36:04 PM   
Sasy


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Status: offline 		Kneeling in uncooked rice hand writing lines is extremely  effective .........  or so  I have heard. Just the thought  would make me think twice

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RE: pain lover - 7/13/2006 11:06:35 PM   
Noah


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ORIGINAL: tbear4759

My new slave (her name is cunt)
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Is that short for anything?

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RE: pain lover - 7/13/2006 11:52:57 PM   
shadevarr


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Status: offline 		The hand writing part I see as punishment, the thought of kneeling in the uncooked rice does not phase me in the slightest so I really can't see myself using that as a punishment.

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RE: pain lover - 7/14/2006 12:00:00 AM   
littlemissub


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RE: pain lover - 7/14/2006 12:31:56 AM   
BitaTruble


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ORIGINAL: tbear4759

My new slave (her name is cunt) loves being beaten.  I threaten her with a whipping and she grins.  any ideas for punishment besides a whipping?


Did you ever think about talking to her to find out why she misbehaves? Personally, I abhor being punished.. it means I've fucked up something, usually because I was thoughtless and/or unfocused for some reason. Find out the reason and maybe you won't need punishment to teach a lesson. Then the two of you can engage in pain because you enjoy it rather than because there's a problem.

I do disagree with those who have said to ignore her. Ignoring something won't make the underlying issues go away. Bringing them out into the light of day seems to be much more productive and ignoring her means that 'you' are also being punished by not having the access to your slave.

If and when punishment is called for, I'm a firm believer in letting the punishment fit the crime .. and the object is to get the behavior to change, not make a consequence so memorable that the crime is forgotten. I've found that works best for me are not punishments which I remember, but punishments which make me think about my crime, why it was wrong and what steps I can, personally, take to prevent them from being repeated.

YMMV

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RE: pain lover - 7/14/2006 1:27:30 AM   
leatherorlace


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Status: offline 		Have you shown her just how effective a single tail cab be atimprinting manners and class in some trashy slut. Dayummmm, I just luv 'em, want more of 'em, but, I find the majority of them lacking in stamina and resolve when they stand for Me.
  Send her to Sin City for a week or so and I'm fairlyy confidient that she could be included in some creative play, but, I don't want to hear any snivelin' if she decides to extend her visit and embrace more of My Magnifience, electrical, OB/GYN/PROCTO, clips clamps, canes and pain while she's indulged as a wet and wonderful lil' gal. lol
  Looking at your choices in the "Inerest Liat", I can kinda-sorta perceive why she's sticks her tongue ot at you and flips you off as she searches the 'puter for someone that luvs Delicious Deviance in heavy dosages. heheheheee
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RE: pain lover - 7/14/2006 9:27:48 PM   
Sinergy


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Littlepita

quote:

ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

put superglue on her nose and stick it to the wall until she can't stand any longer... they have stuff to unstick her after you are through



That is brilliant!!

I do think ignoring would be the best way to go. I know for me that would hurt much more then any pain he might inflict on me.


It works best at a play party where she hears all the activity behind her but cannot see it, and all her friends can see her and know she somehow pissed me, err, her Dominant, off in public.

Just me, might have been wrong, etc.

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RE: pain lover - 7/14/2006 9:49:26 PM   
OTKkindaGirl


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RE: pain lover - 7/14/2006 10:40:04 PM   
ravn


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Status: offline 		positive reinforcement means whipping her when she's good and sharing that.
as a masochist myself, i've found that an extended time of isolation works best to correct me. And small spaces. ::shudders::


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RE: pain lover - 7/15/2006 3:39:17 AM   
wandering4u


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Status: offline 		Nicely put Ravn.  Find what would be positive and negative to her and work from there!

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RE: pain lover - 7/15/2006 7:35:02 PM   
HouseofBear


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Status: offline 		Positive reinforcement has always seemed to work the best for us.  We let a slave know that play is something that is earned or a reward, not something that can be expected.  As we happen to enjoy masochism on the part of our slave, we do not use corporal punishment as a negative reinforcement.  Usually just letting one know we are disappointed is correction enough.  On the rare occasion we have had to do something a little stronger, the use of cornertime or being denied a privilege (such as accompanying us to a public function) got the point across.

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RE: pain lover - 7/17/2006 10:05:59 AM   
Slipstreme


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Status: offline 		unownedredhead This slave should be able to ask her Master for the whip. Honestly, in her experience, the whip can only be a reward, or something shared for the sake of mutual enjoyment. If she is disobeying to be whipped, that habit should be destroyed. After all she would continue to do so.

Wouldn't it best in both their cases to be able to simply ask for the whippings, instead of disobey the rules for them? Would provide less headaches all around.

What you are inferring is that he shall give into her desires, in which case, one has to ask, who truely is the Dominant in the relationship.

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RE: pain lover - 7/17/2006 10:20:58 AM   
Bearlee


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Status: offline 		Personally...I agree with erin and Celeste.  Why would a serious submissive 'disobey'?  I doubt it would ever be on purpose; so wouldn't a 'sit down conversation' be in order?  As far as a brat 'insisting' on a beating; I never much approved of topping from the bottom.  I agree with Slipstreme; tell her to ask like a grown-up!
 
And...unownedredhead; I think many DO 'get it'...but they 'get' The Power Exchange not brats who go off the deep-end in hopes of play.  Bah!
 
MOO

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RE: pain lover - 7/17/2006 5:54:17 PM   
kyraofMists


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ORIGINAL: mistoferin

Whenever someone comes on to ask for punishment ideas I always have to wonder why there is such a need for punishment. The last thing that someone coming from a submissive or slave perspective usually wants to be seen as is disobedient or less than pleasing. So is there some "acting out" or something that is taking place that creates a need for this punishment? If so...punishment ideas are most likely not the answer to the underlying problem.


Especially since this relationship can't be more than two weeks old since about 12 days ago he started a post about an "Initial Meeting" with a girl.

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RE: pain lover - 7/17/2006 6:36:32 PM   
heartfeltsub


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RE: pain lover [?] - 7/17/2006 8:31:11 PM   
amayos


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ORIGINAL: tbear4759

My new slave (her name is cunt) loves being beaten.  I threaten her with a whipping and she grins.  any ideas for punishment besides a whipping?



Sit her down at the kitchen table while you bake her some cookies.



But in all seriousness, there is "good pain" and "bad pain"; a whip is but one implement in the arsenal of torture, which in of itself is never enjoyable when delivered in high enough quantity and force. If a slave displeases me enough, I have been known to use needle nose pliers and dental extractors in conjunction to extend the tongue fully, whereupon it may be cut along its length with a blade. After, she is to slosh lemon juice around in her mouth for an hour. Usually an excellent deterrent, especially to back talking.

Industrial strength clothespins (with teeth) placed directly upon the clitoris and labia for thirty minutes to an hour elicit a level of pain that is often considered infernal.


Edited to add: A horse crop struck hard to the bottom of the feet creates a form of pain that is unusual and difficult to reroute into pleasure, or so said an older, self-avowed masochist I once had the pleasure of enjoying for the evening.

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RE: pain lover - 7/17/2006 9:36:08 PM   
Submotive


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Tie her to a tree, beat the tree and walk away.


OMG MH - You are soooooooo evil  

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RE: pain lover - 7/17/2006 11:38:40 PM   
crouchingtigress


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Status: offline 		Watch her, ....study her,...... learn her.......what motivates her, ......what abhors her....get creative.....get sadistic.....(not all pain is physical).....for me i think that is the very best part of wiitwd....because unless she was born with that name... it show that you have some imagination...no?
 
 
 

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