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LordHeimdall -> Greetings from Lord Heimdall (4/27/2014 3:43:57 AM)
Greetings All and Sundry, My chosen name for this Forum is LordHeimdall. Lord to signify that I am the Dom and shall never be the Sub in any relationship. Heimdall is taken after Heimdall of Norse Mythology who is attributed with the Creation the Slaves, aka Thralls, as well as the Peasant Class, the Karls, and the Warrior Class or the Leading Dominants, the Jarls. He could therefore be said to have created the Doms/Dommes and Subs... I am new to the Lifestyle, and therefore am not totally familiar with the terminology, so if I use the wrong wording please correct me as I have joined this forum to learn. My non 'Kink' interests include Camping, Cooking (Gourmet Style), Hiking, Shooting, 2nd Amendment Rights, Carrying for self protection (hand in hand with Shooting and 2A Rights) and whatever catches my interest at the time. I work in a Prison Ordering others about. Hmmm. Fits in perfectly with being a Dom... I recently had a long talk with my Sub about us beginning this Lifestyle, when the subject of our sex life came up, to which she agreed. Our sex life had been non-existent for the past several years and she didn't know why, and this time I finally explained it to her. Normal Sex does not excite me. It does not arouse me, and if I go to watch a video without her knowing, or look at a magazine, or try to fantasize during, I loose the interest by the... Normalcy and am unable to... Perform. But I can get it with porn, No Problem. "What's the Problem?" she wants to know... I had tried to explain it to her over 10 years ago, but guess I didn't do a very good job. "I need to Dominate you..." "That's not Love" she said before, 10 years ago. This time before she could say that I told her "It's not that I don't love you any less." and went on to explain how the safe word could work for us. That if she go too uncomfortable, she could say it, tell me what was hurting / bothering her, so we could adjust and get back to it. Now in our 23 years of marriage, she had always refused to do Oral Sex, and I told her, as part of it, she would not be truly dominated without performing Oral Sex. She finally agreed and we went out to a local Lion's Den Adult Superstore near us and bought the Soft Velcro Restraints, a Riding Crop (for me) "What's That? Your not going to beat me with that are you?" "Not really... It's for direction. Maybe a little slapping but mostly for direction in your domination." and some Adult Toys to use on her and during our session(s) and flavored edible lube to make the Oral Sex more tolerable. God... $200 went quick and I was trying not to go cheap on the toys either. I had to go cheaper than I would have liked on some of the stuff, but I know I can replace it later. We didn't like the collars/chokers that said 'Slut' 'Bitch' etc... She's not my Slut, Bitch, Cunt, Whore or anything else I saw in stock, so instead I went to Claire's Boutique and bought her a couple of Cheap Choker necklaces to use as her 'Collar.' Meanwhile I found a website and special ordered her a $50 Collar with a Suede Lining and her 'Sub' Name on it instead. We had agreed that she can choose when she is going to wear her collar and when it is on I can call her out by her 'Sub' name when she will respond to 'Master' and do as told. If she's addressed as 'Wife' name, or not wearing her collar she responds to 'Husband.' I dominated her the next day after buying all our props. In all our 23 Years it was the BEST SEX I ever had. IN MY ENTIRE LIFE with all my previous partners IT WAS THE BEST SEX OF ALL. I dominated her at least 3-4 hours... I came 4 times before she took her collar off. Please understand my all time best before this was 4 times in an 8 hour period. And I'm sure I could have gone again after just a bit of a breather and a chance to drink some fluids... No, I'm not looking for another Sub. I'm just introducing myself and telling you my story, without too much detail I hope, to be counted as a story that should be in Stories... I told her afterwards I wanted to shout it to the World. But there is no one at work I would tell this to. I have no friends who would understand. I wouldn't dream of telling this to anyone in my family. And so, I have come to the anonymity of this Forum to introduce myself and my introduction into the Lifestyle, and Shout it to the World... LordHeimdall

AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Greetings from Lord Heimdall (4/27/2014 4:14:34 AM)
Hi, welcome to the board. Congratulations on finding the happy medium that suits both you and your wife, so many couples struggle to do that. I hope you have lots of continued success.

Rasciallymisty -> RE: Greetings from Lord Heimdall (4/27/2014 7:22:36 AM)
Hello and welcome its nice to have you both here. Congrats on finding the happiness you both have been seeking. Hope you enjoy your time well here.

librasub24and7 -> RE: Greetings from Lord Heimdall (4/27/2014 7:34:46 AM)
actually nothing was said about what the wife thought or felt about being dominated...let's hope it was equally a turn-on.

Rasciallymisty -> RE: Greetings from Lord Heimdall (4/27/2014 8:04:38 AM)
Well since the op does say that she left her collar on for 4 hours, I would tend to think she was liking it.....or I would think she would have removed her collar before then. LOL I would also think if it was not enjoyable to them both he would not have sought out a site like this to ..." YELL from the ROOF TOP" how wonderful it was. I could be wrong....but I have been here awhile so from what others have posted over the years I will stick with my congrats to them both. [:D] Also since we are in the intro section libra, if you wish to hijack the ops thread, the proper thing would be to at least say hello and welcome to them. [:D][:D]

AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Greetings from Lord Heimdall (4/27/2014 8:07:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: librasub24and7 actually nothing was said about what the wife thought or felt about being dominated...let's hope it was equally a turn-on. True but it sounds like they have a good method of making sure she's into it - she gets to pick when the collar goes on, signaling that she's open to it.

MasterCaneman -> RE: Greetings from Lord Heimdall (4/27/2014 8:07:28 AM)
Hello and welcome to the forums. That was easily one of the most interesting and detailed intros I've ever read here. Enjoy the forums, and feel free to add to or even start a thread here. I sense you will find the Gorean Forum of great interest to you, and I respect you shunning the 'Bitch' and 'Slut' collars. I too feel they're somewhat crass expressions, especially if one makes their partner wear them. Enjoy the forums!

NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: Greetings from Lord Heimdall (4/27/2014 1:20:28 PM)
Hi LordHeimdall, Welcome to CM and the forums. Hope you enjoy your stay. NBMG

LordHeimdall -> RE: Greetings from Lord Heimdall (4/28/2014 2:33:15 AM)
Hello Again All... Just checking back again. Thank you all for your welcomes. quote: ORIGINAL: librasub24and7 actually nothing was said about what the wife thought or felt about being dominated...let's hope it was equally a turn-on. To address librasub24and7 post, I told my Sub about this site and have suggested she create an account of her own. I had also told her I would not be referring to her by name, either wife or sub, as I felt that was a privacy issue for her to come here herself and use if she chose. I read my Intro to her, but that is about it, so no, we are not both on the site at the moment. That doesn't change the fact that I am talking to her about things and pulling her in to see some posts... As to her enjoyment... So far she has been putting the collar on daily to be dominated and when she is back in 'Wife' Mode had indeed told me she enjoys pleasing me. Without adding the quotes, it is as Rasciallymisty and AthenaSurrenders said... Since I didn't want to frighten her away I gave her a measure of control as to whether or not she will be subservient and be dominated. She puts on her collar to show she is willingly to be dominated. And I thank them for their welcomes. quote: ORIGINAL: MasterCaneman Hello and welcome to the forums. That was easily one of the most interesting and detailed intros I've ever read here. Enjoy the forums, and feel free to add to or even start a thread here. I sense you will find the Gorean Forum of great interest to you, and I respect you shunning the 'Bitch' and 'Slut' collars. I too feel they're somewhat crass expressions, especially if one makes their partner wear them. Enjoy the forums! Thank you again for your welcome. Before I start a thread I want to follow the sites User Agreement and read through the old postings. I have a lot to read. Since you brought it up here though, What is Gorean? I chose my Avatar from the Gorean Folder simply because it was the closest to my Forum Name. I am glad to know that there are others that share my sentiments on shunning the disrespectful collars. Of course, I equally am sure they fit in with some people's Play, so that they should exist, but I question why they make so many disrespectful ones and make them easy to get and so few 'decent' ones that are not carried or in stock? After all... the stores wouldn't carry them if they didn't sell.

Rasciallymisty -> RE: Greetings from Lord Heimdall (4/28/2014 4:07:38 AM)
Heimdall, I am sure as you read you will find that many sub/slaves like to be called those names. Actual when my first Master called me cunt, slut, whore and so on......it was with great love and caring that he did so. I loved when he would call me such...but with that said, when I meet my second Dom those names did not hold the same feelings for me. So those collars are out there because for some of us they are endearing names and we are proud to wear them.....though I never wore it out in public but only in our home. As DJ said I was his slut no one else's. [:D] Not sure why MC brought up the Gorean Lifestyle, because nothing in your post would make me think you wished to travel that path. In the Gorean lifestyle the slave has no rights......you give your wife the right to choose when to wear her collar and when not to. So maybe it was just your Avatar that made him think that. I will not even begin to try and explain Gor as I have never been a huge fan of it. My suggestion would be if you are interested in learning anything about it, go into that section and ask a some questions. It's best to learn from those that know what they are talking about. [:D] Hope your day is a sunny one.

Toysinbabeland -> RE: Greetings from Lord Heimdall (4/28/2014 4:44:37 AM)
Hello L.Heimdall, Welcome. I particularly enjoyed reading your compromise regarding the wife being able to choose when she puts her collar on, as a signal. Sometimes innovation can be inspiring. I do not have a choice and wear my collar 24/7 (luckily I am very happy with this arrangement). I think that your idea shows thought and understanding, which is why I applaud your efforts.

ResidentSadist -> RE: Greetings from Lord Heimdall (4/28/2014 10:22:55 AM)
What a lovely story and introduction. Welcome to the wild side. I see you have already established some protocol . . . I hope you find all your adventures fulfilling.

LordHeimdall -> RE: Greetings from Lord Heimdall (4/29/2014 4:17:01 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Rasciallymisty Heimdall, I am sure as you read you will find that many sub/slaves like to be called those names. Actual when my first Master called me cunt, slut, whore and so on......it was with great love and caring that he did so. I loved when he would call me such...but with that said, when I meet my second Dom those names did not hold the same feelings for me. So those collars are out there because for some of us they are endearing names and we are proud to wear them.....though I never wore it out in public but only in our home. As DJ said I was his slut no one else's. [:D] Not sure why MC brought up the Gorean Lifestyle, because nothing in your post would make me think you wished to travel that path. In the Gorean lifestyle the slave has no rights......you give your wife the right to choose when to wear her collar and when not to. So maybe it was just your Avatar that made him think that. I will not even begin to try and explain Gor as I have never been a huge fan of it. My suggestion would be if you are interested in learning anything about it, go into that section and ask a some questions. It's best to learn from those that know what they are talking about. [:D] Hope your day is a sunny one. Like I said, I figured there had to be some market in the collars, and I am sorry if I came across as to judgmental. They just don't feel right to me or my sub. As for the Gorean Lifestyle, I did a quick Bing Search on it and came up with a Wiki reference to it coming from a fictional book series and touched a bit on the BDSM aspect. Since I was at work I didn't want to click into the more explicit BDSM links I found on Bing, and will look into it a bit more on my days off again. Same as this is one site I can't access from work :( And indeed, no, This does not appear like a lifestyle that will suit my sub and me. As to whether or not the Gorean Lifestyle could appeal to me personally, who can say? But my love for my Sub will not allow me to consider it if the slave has NO RIGHTS. As the undertone seems to say, a Master must care for his Sub... And do what is right for his Sub. The Gorean Lifestyle would not be Right for her. And BTW, it rained... /sigh quote: ORIGINAL: Toysinbabeland I particularly enjoyed reading your compromise regarding the wife being able to choose when she puts her collar on, as a signal. Sometimes innovation can be inspiring. I do not have a choice and wear my collar 24/7 (luckily I am very happy with this arrangement). I think that your idea shows thought and understanding, which is why I applaud your efforts. As I said above, although I am new to being a Dom, I do believe and hope I am picking up correctly on the basic premise and undertone. Both parties must get pleasure out of the relationship, and the Master, or Dom, must care for his Sub. While I would prefer a 24/7 arrangement, that would not be best for my Sub as she is also new to this. I have relinquished some of the TPE (am I getting that right? Total Power Exchange?) some of the time, but when she puts her collar on, she is willingly relinquishing it to me.

Rasciallymisty -> RE: Greetings from Lord Heimdall (4/29/2014 4:57:36 AM)
Heimdall, You in no way came across judgmental. I just wanted to explain why there are so many of those kinds of collars out there. Yes TPE means total power exchange. You are doing great. Sorry to hear it was rainy, its going to be rainy here for the next 7 days. [:D]

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