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RE: Domme / sub age difference - 8/22/2014 3:59:34 AM

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I don't think age matters at all when it comes to the bdsm part of the relationship! I am 61 and I have a 28 year old Fem Dom and we have a lot of fun and she is very hard on me! She does not let my age influence what she does to me. However we both agreed in the beginning that if we found another that was more of our own age then we would move on. She has made it clear she wants a child some day and a marriage. I told her it would not be fair for me to have a child or marry her due to our age difference. I feel she might be burdened with me at a later age and it would not be fair to a child to have a father that would not be able to do things with him like a younger father would. Plus a father my age would not be around for a longer life time with the child. But she does totally dominate me when we are together.

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RE: Domme / sub age difference - 8/28/2014 6:37:33 PM

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They have to be at least 21 and can't be older than me. I've never been into the older dudes thing.

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RE: Domme / sub age difference - 8/30/2014 1:45:44 PM

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A maximum of 20 years older is what I'm comfortable with for a play partner. I can't have a sub I find unattractive. A man over 50 who takes good care of himself might get a pass. I also need a certain level of physical fitness so he can do the tasks I assign to him.

If we are talking about a serious long term relationship and not just a play partner, then I need to be blunt. If I'm in a relationship with someone over 40, (as I have been before) I would need a younger sexual partner. I have had younger lovers before, and would have no problem with taking one or more again. When cuckolding, I would only ever have a bull of my age and younger. After all, women and men peak sexually at different ages.

Vanilla relationships are no different.

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RE: Domme / sub age difference - 9/3/2014 6:47:05 AM

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A more easier to answer question is. Would you be embarrassed for them to meet your parents/friends?

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RE: Domme / sub age difference - 9/3/2014 10:43:54 AM

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ORIGINAL: imtempting

A more easier to answer question is. Would you be embarrassed for them to meet your parents/friends?

We agree on this angle, which is if you'd be embarrassed to show off your boy (or girl) to others close to you, then that really wouldn't be fair to your sub.
(S/he might be into humiliation, but not that sort.) It would be even worse if you were ashamed to be seen out in public with your sub due to your age gap.

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RE: Domme / sub age difference - 9/3/2014 11:06:48 AM

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*puts on muh kilt to slide in here under the radar*

Of the many facets of attraction I need for compatibility, age is one of the facets that sits under the mount. I am a very picky prick, because I'm happy alone but can be happier in a good functional relationship, and the more facets of attraction that the little jewel I'm interested in has, the more compatible we are. Again, age is that facet under the mount, I date from legal to retired, it is the connection that matters to me. First and foremost it would be the substance of the girl. Sadly, most girls within breeding age generally lack substance, which creates quite a conundrum for me. If the boss would move the viable breeding age to seventy, all you bitches would be in my harem, and these other assholes can have the young twits.

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RE: Domme / sub age difference - 9/4/2014 1:51:28 AM

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RE: Domme / sub age difference - 9/4/2014 9:28:36 AM

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I'm not ever the dominant one. That being said , I think these all vary person to person and situationally . In my personal experience, I've never been willing to deal with a younger male as a domme , but I will allow a same age female. I think it's more a mental age thing. I don't care for immaturity, which is ridiculous since I revert to childlike tendencies myself..

I'd say age differences really depend on actual age anyway. When I was 15, I dated a 32 year old. Not so good maybe. Now If I date a 45 year old, that really doesn't seem so bad, right?

I would think this is more a relationship compatibility more than a lifestyle issue. It's basically the same as vanilla

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RE: Domme / sub age difference - 9/10/2014 9:50:41 PM

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ORIGINAL: imtempting

A more easier to answer question is. Would you be embarrassed for them to meet your parents/friends?

My girlfriend and I have dealt with this, but we find that refusing to feel embarrassed about it tends to shut down the silly comments real quick.
Some of her friends used to make silly (and oh so original) cracks about her being my babysitter yet we found that the more we reacted the more it happened. Fuck em!
We are both happy, and if they can't see our relationship as anything more than some novelty or joke then neither of us have time for them. Same for any of my friends at school.
Most people tend to be quite mature about the whole thing however and have nothing but happiness for us. As for the others I care not about their opinions.

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RE: Domme / sub age difference - 9/13/2014 5:30:56 PM

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There is a 9 year age difference between my submissive and I. He is the older one. We have successfully been together in a D/s capacity for over a year now. No problems except sometimes we get funny looks... Even my mother says I still look like a teen sometimes (although I am 23!)

we were the same when we were plain vanilla. Personally I like older subs... My last one was a year older than me... Right now he's running through mistresses like the flavor of the week and avoiding commitment like the plague! Very immature if you ask me.

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RE: Domme / sub age difference - 9/13/2014 6:20:30 PM

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Eh. I'm flexible on age...but they have to be at the same place in their life as I am- and thats harder with someone super older than me.

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RE: Domme / sub age difference - 9/16/2014 10:59:21 PM

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I've seen very few older woman - much younger male scenario work out. There are exceptions but the ones I know lasted maybe 2 - 5 years before he was looking for someone his own age. While I may be open to younger there's not going to be a vast age difference. My daughter would give me the look.

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RE: Domme / sub age difference - 9/16/2014 11:17:13 PM

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While not a submissive, age difference is something that has come up for me, quite a bit, lately.

I recently celebrated a "milestone" birthday and I went back to school, three days later. Obviously, I'm old. I'm so old, I fart dust. The campus is crawling with very attractive young ladies.

A couple of these young ladies have shown some interest in varying degrees of "relationships" with me. I cannot act and the discussion came up, today while a bunch of us were sharing a cigarette break.

A guy asked me something to the affect of: "You have to be in heaven, here. All of these beautiful, young girls and a lot of them think you're really cool."

My answer was along the lines of: "There is no doubt that there are a lot of beautiful young ladies, around here, but to give you an example: Do you know _________?"

He said he did.

I said: "She's in my Mass Comm class and today, I greeted her with: 'How's my favorite "forbidden fruit"?'."

He looked at me, with a puzzled look on his face.

I said: "Dude, a fifty-year-old man, hanging around with any young lady under the age of thirty, starts out at 'creepy' and can only go down from there."

I understand that it may be a pretty close-minded view but, the truth of the matter is (for me): while there are plenty of ladies (of all ages) that I am physically attracted to, once the fucking is over, what do we have? Common interests in music? Highly unlikely. Similar world/life view? Next to impossible.

The truth is: some of them are a lot closer to my grandson's age than to my own. Now, there is this thirty-eight-year-old young lady in my journalism class ...

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RE: Domme / sub age difference - 9/17/2014 2:25:50 AM

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I have tended to date/own younger, usually around 15-20 years younger in the past. I wouldn't want to date/own someone younger than 30 at this point, and that's really starting to seem far too young. I would date someone older only if he was as young at heart as I, and could be a man in the bedroom when I demand it, which is regularly. I think more about settling down and perhaps even getting married these days and at that point I wonder if perhaps it would be better with someone older, who is ready to settle down as well, who is perhaps ready to enjoy retirement with a same-age or younger demanding woman who is in charge.

I've met parents of younger men I've dated, had no issues, at least not to my face. My last LTR of 8 years was with someone 20 years younger and I was considered a member of the family. I don't have family but when I did I never lived my life to please anyone but myself.

As much as I like younger men, there still has to be that spark of intelligence and ability to converse and express himself on a higher-than-average level. Age rarely is a sure indicator maturity, but life experience is a big help, as well as being pretty sure he doesn't want kids. Often that 30th birthday is one that triggers that urge, so if they get there and are sure, it's a little safer bet, but I let them know that children with me is a big NO.

I don't date vanilla so I can't answer #3.

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