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RE: A couple rants if i may. - 4/29/2014 1:12:31 PM

Chwilfrydig

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ORIGINAL: metamorfosis

What we really need is a "rant" section.

GREAT IDEA, and put it down in the new Feisty section.

I will be the first there to rant about the English language. I was taught " i before e, except after c ", as in fierce. WHO MESSED UP FEISTY?

I know what someone will want to say, but please...don't even go there because my second rant would be on "the exception proves the rule". I never could get my head around that one.

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RE: A couple rants if i may. - 4/29/2014 1:31:37 PM

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Yup, on all such sites, a large percentage of the so-called female profiles are actually written by guys. Search the picture to find if it's been stolen off an actress or model's page. If they're local, ask them to meet for coffee on Sunday morning. If they show then maybe you make a friend. If not, you still get a cup of coffee and a pastry. That's a win/win solution.

Definitely a win/win as i love coffee and pastries...

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Beyond that, why the hell are you incapable of saying to someone at a party "No thanks" if he comes up and says "Hey cutie, want me to flog you"? What is wrong with your dom that his reaction would be to escalate it to violence? Honestly, between your inability to express your own limits and your admission of his anger problems, I wouldn't recommend that any woman agrees to play with you. You folks don't sound safe to play with from the third's point of view.

i apologize if i misrepresented the situation or you possibly misunderstood what i was stating. If the people here on the profile side of Collarme are representative of how people act at munches then that is the fear. I am sorry if you do not understand that; but i was not referring to someone asking to flog me or someone at a bar asking me to dance. W/we do go to bars and i often get asked to dance with other people, sometimes i even do. However, the attitudes represented here on the profile side is not one of "Hey cutie, want me to flog you?" rather "Hey slut, look at my penis and bow down to me."

Now, the second part of your statement is that i cannot express my own limits. Where did you get that from? i am fully capable of expressing my own limits, thoughts and opinions. my Master does not have anger issues; again there is a difference between the two statements listed above. The fear is the second one will happen. There is a saying where i come from, if you don't want something to happen then don't place yourself in a situation where it can.

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Do you also never go out to a bar for a drink for fear some guy might come on to you and your dom will wind up in jail? Most play parties have DMs who will shut things down if you simply call them. A munch is even safer, it's held in a public restaurant with all your clothes on. And trolling for sex is discouraged, it's designed for making friends. Of course, that means you folks don't get to troll for sex either.

You really want to try this, hire a sex worker. Because if you can't handle it and throw her out, you don't have to care about her feelings. You just have to hand over the cash.

Reading comprehension seems to be an issue with you at this point. At what point in any of my above posts did i state we were "trolling for sex?" Just because W/we may have an (ir)rational fear of what goes on in a munch does not mean i cannot state limits, my Master has anger issues, nor that we are "Trolling for sex."

< Message edited by PapaBearsSub -- 4/29/2014 1:32:52 PM >

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RE: A couple rants if i may. - 4/29/2014 1:36:22 PM

Darkfeather

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ORIGINAL: metamorfosis

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ORIGINAL: Chwilfrydig
... heck, IMO you can rant all you want.

What we really need is a "rant" section.

Can I rant about your suggestion for a "rant" section? Hey, that would technically go in the rant section...

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RE: A couple rants if i may. - 4/29/2014 1:42:19 PM

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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze

There was certainly never a shortage of sub men...

At one event a guy (the uber Dom) came up to H and asked me if I'm his property, H almost died laughing and said "I really wouldn't put it like that" and the guy misunderstood and tried to grab me and drag me to a cross, with really vile language, I removed his hand from my arm and might have accidentally twisted his thumb backwards (I was not "overly pleased"), a DM grabbed him and gave him a run down on protocol and what is OK and what not, it was hilarious, the guy really had such a hissy fit that somebody could suggest that not all women are submissives and he can't walk around and just "help himself", it ended with him being rather unceremoniously being shown the door.

So this is from another thread "Is it really a numbers game?" on the first page. This is the (ir)rational fear W/we have of things that happen at a munch.

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RE: A couple rants if i may. - 4/29/2014 2:03:01 PM

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The anger is large In this one...

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RE: A couple rants if i may. - 4/29/2014 2:11:13 PM

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If you are referring to the quote i posted, i agree. Having never been to a munch and reading things like that does not give one an easy feeling about going.

Realistically W/we would like to meet people around U/us that attend munches and then possibly attend with T/them. This would allow U/us to at least have someone there W/we know as well as the ability for T/them to explain to U/us the ropes before W/we go.

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ORIGINAL: imtempting

The anger is large In this one...

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RE: A couple rants if i may. - 4/29/2014 2:11:38 PM

MasterCaneman

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ORIGINAL: metamorfosis

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ORIGINAL: MasterCaneman
First of all, hello and welcome to the discussion boards, and you've touched on a number of subjects we've gone over many times here. I would suggest researching the archives (accessible through the 'Search' button in the upper right of your screen) and delving through the innumerable threads dealing with all the issues you've raised...

I would suggest not making dismissive and condescending comments to someone voicing perfectly valid opinions. If someone expresses views that you, because of your longevity here, have already heard and find to be tiresome... I would suggest passing by the thread and posting elsewhere.

No dismissal or condescension at all there. Merely pointing out the fact this issue's been dealt with before, and attempting to direct the new user to a resource that may help. I may post anywhere I wish, irregardless of my 'longevity' here.

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RE: A couple rants if i may. - 4/29/2014 2:16:19 PM

InHisHeart

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A munch is a casual social gathering for people to meet other like-minded people and is usually held in a public place, a restaurant, bar, coffee shop. It's no different than any other group of people interested in the same thing getting together to meet others with the same interest. You won't find crosses, floggers, etc. at a munch, it's not the same as a play party. Eat, mingle, get to know people in your area and have a good time.

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RE: A couple rants if i may. - 4/29/2014 2:24:32 PM

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That sounds perfect.

W/we completely misunderstood what a munch was. i am so glad i posted today. i have learned quite a bit about the community from this one thread. As i stated before, W/we were never into the local scene and obviously do not have a grasp on all of the lingo used. Thank you InHisHeart.

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ORIGINAL: InHisHeart

A munch is a casual social gathering for people to meet other like-minded people and is usually held in a public place, a restaurant, bar, coffee shop. It's no different than any other group of people interested in the same thing getting together to meet others with the same interest. You won't find crosses, floggers, etc. at a munch, it's not the same as a play party. Eat, mingle, get to know people in your area and have a good time.

< Message edited by PapaBearsSub -- 4/29/2014 2:25:19 PM >

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RE: A couple rants if i may. - 4/29/2014 2:52:20 PM

freedomdwarf1

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ORIGINAL: Chwilfrydig

quote:

ORIGINAL: metamorfosis

What we really need is a "rant" section.

GREAT IDEA, and put it down in the new Feisty section.

I will be the first there to rant about the English language. I was taught " i before e, except after c ", as in fierce. WHO MESSED UP FEISTY?

I know what someone will want to say, but please...don't even go there because my second rant would be on "the exception proves the rule". I never could get my head around that one.

It's because those words for the normal rule sound like "eee".
Feisty has a sound like "eye" so the rule doesn't apply - same as word that start with the "eee" sound.

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RE: A couple rants if i may. - 4/29/2014 8:13:42 PM

Sexyladydee

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I can appreciate your need to rant and get it off your "chest" so to speak. You obviously haven't spent much time online dealing with the scammers, catfishes etc. I had an online lifestyle group for five years and out of the 500 regulars there were 50 men for every woman, at least five of those men were nothing like they presented themselves to be online and half of the female profiles turned out to really be men. Then of course the monthly deleting of people because they had done some offensive things (3 strikes was my rule). I say this just to reiterate that it comes with the territory. And don't get me started with the penis profile shots that I HATE (I would prefer to look at beautiful boobs any day). And to me a penis shot is as disgusting as a "kitty" vaginal shot. Boobs don't even factor into that equation.

You opened the door and unfortunately some of the trash is going to try to sneak in. Good luck on your search.

I'm not selfish, just stubborn and usually right.

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RE: A couple rants if i may. - 4/29/2014 10:50:52 PM

Pyramus

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ORIGINAL: Sexyladydee
You obviously haven't spent much time online dealing with the scammers, catfishes etc.

Catfishes?
I had to look it up! :)

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ORIGINAL: Sexyladydee
50 men for every woman... and half of the female profiles turned out to really be men.

Yup. It goes with the territory.

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ORIGINAL: Sexyladydee
it comes with the territory.

Yup.

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ORIGINAL: Sexyladydee
I would prefer to look at beautiful boobs any day

Interesting point that boobs are better looking than kitties (although I personally could never ever get bored with boobs OR kitties!). Ooops. Is that shallow of me to admit that? At least I also don't enjoy looking at penises. :)

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RE: A couple rants if i may. - 4/30/2014 5:30:57 AM

angelikaJ

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Since you are seeking another woman and are not seeking out men, it might be useful to set your bulk mail settings to exclude men.

Then when you have a few minutes, you can always go through your bulk mail.
You do not have to open a message to read the beginning: You just have to place your cursor over it and hover. If they are over the line block the sender.

Deleting things unread tends to curb the HNGs somewhat.
If you get abusive messages, by all means report them and block the sender.

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RE: A couple rants if i may. - 5/2/2014 5:34:14 AM

LordHeimdall

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I'd like to start by saying that I don't think the OP's original 'Rant' is all that untowards.

PapaBearsSub, in having read your Profile, I agree that Doms shouldn't be sending you rude photos or speaking to you in rude manner, but I would like to suggest that you make it more explicit that you are seeking a FEMALE sub. You wait all the way until the end to say:

quote:

Though i share everything with Master, i would like a girlfriend that i can share girl issues with.

Where you say:

quote:

my Master has recently given me permission to seek out a secondary sub for our household.

I would suggest "my Master has recently given me permission to seek out a secondary FEMALE sub for our household.

And for:

quote:

there are certain physical attributes W/we are looking for in O/our potential new partner…

Might I suggest you add Sex: Female?

And Enlarge the text of your first paragraph where you tell them to hold up a sign and add the verbiage "non-explicit photo" instead of just photo.

I'm not saying this will stop the twits from answering, but it will make your Profile Post a little more explicit as to what you are looking for.

Next, I'd like to say that I also didn't know exactly what a 'Munch' was until just yesterday when in another forum I saw this link posted on What's a Munch? so I thought I'd pass the link on to you. After reading this it got me into wanting to find one in my area for me and my Sub to attend just to get to meet and greet some people in the local BDSM Community, not that we are wanting to go Poly.

And I totally get her being concerned how her Master would handle another Dom coming up to her and acting too Dominant, but in reading the What's a Munch? I see that such a thing is supposed to be Taboo in the Community. These people that are messaging her are Internet Twits, and not true practitioners.

Hell, I'm just entering the Lifestyle, and am still reading lots of back posts working on gaining insight. But one underlying theme I've picked up so far, new or not, acting with respect, integrity, and honor works in the BDSM Culture as well as in Vanilla.

I wish you and your Master good luck in your search.

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RE: A couple rants if i may. - 5/2/2014 10:46:33 AM

PapaBearsSub

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LordHeimdall,

Thank You very much for that response. i have edited O/our profile as you have suggested. Those were very good suggestions and i am always open to feedback.

-lindsay

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ORIGINAL: LordHeimdall

I'd like to start by saying that I don't think the OP's original 'Rant' is all that untowards.

PapaBearsSub, in having read your Profile, I agree that Doms shouldn't be sending you rude photos or speaking to you in rude manner, but I would like to suggest that you make it more explicit that you are seeking a FEMALE sub. You wait all the way until the end to say:

quote:

Though i share everything with Master, i would like a girlfriend that i can share girl issues with.

Where you say:

quote:

my Master has recently given me permission to seek out a secondary sub for our household.

I would suggest "my Master has recently given me permission to seek out a secondary FEMALE sub for our household.

And for:

quote:

there are certain physical attributes W/we are looking for in O/our potential new partner…

Might I suggest you add Sex: Female?

And Enlarge the text of your first paragraph where you tell them to hold up a sign and add the verbiage "non-explicit photo" instead of just photo.

I'm not saying this will stop the twits from answering, but it will make your Profile Post a little more explicit as to what you are looking for.

Next, I'd like to say that I also didn't know exactly what a 'Munch' was until just yesterday when in another forum I saw this link posted on What's a Munch? so I thought I'd pass the link on to you. After reading this it got me into wanting to find one in my area for me and my Sub to attend just to get to meet and greet some people in the local BDSM Community, not that we are wanting to go Poly.

And I totally get her being concerned how her Master would handle another Dom coming up to her and acting too Dominant, but in reading the What's a Munch? I see that such a thing is supposed to be Taboo in the Community. These people that are messaging her are Internet Twits, and not true practitioners.

Hell, I'm just entering the Lifestyle, and am still reading lots of back posts working on gaining insight. But one underlying theme I've picked up so far, new or not, acting with respect, integrity, and honor works in the BDSM Culture as well as in Vanilla.

I wish you and your Master good luck in your search.

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