Darkfeather
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ORIGINAL: FieryOpal
I acknowledged the points summersub made about Domme message responsiveness, but that was not the intent of my post and would have taken me off into more tangents.
Nevertheless, I can see this is of greater concern to males. My focus was on submissive males and not what approach Doms take and prefer.
What I'm hearing, though, is male hesitation and frustration in being ignored and/or rejected. Who wouldn't rather sit in the catbird's perch? (Is that how the saying goes?  )
Rejection is a fact of life. You go out on job interviews. If you're in the dramatic arts, you may go out for 100 auditions, get 3 call-backs if you're lucky, and still might not get the acting job.
Every woman on this site does things a bit differently according to their priorities. I won't say how I handle mine, but I don't do mass-deletes, and I rarely if ever block someone unless they start acting obnoxious, so you are jumping to the wrong conclusions that every woman has dismissive policies or won't ever bother to read your message anyway, so why even make the effort.
All I can say is this, not to get into male Dominants' business as to how they choose to go about connecting with a prospective partner. Correct me if I am wrong, but aren't many of you seeking a more old-fashioned, traditionalist type of submissive female of the '50s household variety? It is therefore counterintuitive for any of you to take a passive approach and expect women to take on the initializing, assertive role.
That's just my 2 cents' worth. 
All things being equal, I would say hell yes. You are right, I do enjoy being the "man". But that is in person, where things are on a more level playing field. In person, I can use body language, I can talk, I can joke. All things that us guys use to, ya know, charm. Things that help set us aside from the assholes of the world, and say "hey, I might be a potential mate, wanna fu... err, get some coffee?" Online, all we have are words. Simple pixels combined together to make a perceived intent. Now those words are only effective if, 1. the woman in question actually reads them, 2. the woman in question actually gets my perceived intent, and 3. the woman in question finds those words worthy of her time and effort to contact me back. Now, in person, I at least have some control over the outcome. If I am failing in some social interaction with my intended female, I can at least try to recover. Joke is failing, I can try another. She doesn't like the drink I ordered her, I can laugh it off as my mistake and try again. Online, we have no such recourse. We have no control over the interactions between us and females. We have to simply send out our little packets of email and hope that they get past 1, then 2, and lastly 3. Online interactions have nothing to do with being dominant or being "manly", but simple logic. Especially when the lion-share of complains about hate mail and annoying mail come from those very same women. We as men are asked to pursue, and yet we are also asked to wade through all the other flotsam that pours into the average inbox. To the sensible male, that just does not make... sense
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RE: Woman Contacts Man First - 
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. Whilst I accept that women in general are more coy, if they are forthcoming enough to make the first contact with me then why the sudden shyness when it comes to confirming who they are? 
not one man told me that I was being unsubmissive/unfeminine/bad for contacting them first. 
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