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So This Is How It Feels To Be Submissive - 5/3/2014 12:18:05 PM

CobaltRose

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Absolutely wonderful. It lets you unwind, not have to worry about messing up, you can put all your trust in your Daddy (what i would call my Dom) knowing He will take care of you. Just doing as He says, making Him happy, so wonderful. I hope I can find my Daddy one day. A Daddy who loves and cherishes his babygirl and makes her feel safe. Im sorry if this is the wrong forums. Is this how other subs feel as well?

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So I may fly,
Put me in chains
To set me free.

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RE: So This Is How It Feels To Be Submissive - 5/3/2014 2:29:17 PM

InHisHeart

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Our D/s relationship is not a DD/lg relationship but being in a D/s relationship just feels very normal to me, it's how it's supposed to be for me because being a submissive is a big part of who I am, it's how I'm wired and Master being a Dom is the same for him, it's who he is.

For me being in a D/s relationship is a very freeing feeling because I have the freedom to be who I am where in a vanilla relationship I would have to suppress a big part of me and that's not something I was ever able to do. My feelings on being a sub are freeing, comforting, loving, nurturing, challenging with always being aware of what is expected of me and knowing that at any given second he could give me a command be it sexual or non-sexual.

I've been in 2 long term D/s relationships (former for 20+ years), current for 7 years and I've been in short lived vanilla relationships (2 yrs or less). Speaking only for me, I have found the bond, closeness, love, trust and respect for each other in the D/s relationships I've been in far outweighed those things in the vanilla relationships I've been in. Not feeling the strength in those things being in vanilla relationships I have no doubt has to do with me being someone who can't "settle" for a vanilla relationship.

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RE: So This Is How It Feels To Be Submissive - 5/3/2014 4:16:46 PM

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Rand states "..humility is not a recognition of one's failings, but a rejection of morality. "

To recognize my own intrinsic worth through the eyes of another who knows Himself. To find one who compels you through 'intimacy' into-me-see to reject all identifications of good or bad so that you free yourself from the confines of your mind to feel freedom'.

Through this depth I feel submission as~
Freedom
hopefulness 'in life
Inspired
empowered
enthusiasm
eagerness
Positive expectations
Eagerness to live
appreciation
optimism
a contentedness
joy in life

It is a special person to bring this forth~~I feel humility through submission
humility to who I am

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RE: So This Is How It Feels To Be Submissive - 5/3/2014 5:12:38 PM

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Sometimes it's like that and sometimes it's being carped at for not having dinner ready the moment he comes in from working on the car, even though it would have dried out if it sat there in the oven for two hours.

Really, it's not all roses and things. It's a relationship between two people. Either or both of whom can be having a bad day at any given time.

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RE: So This Is How It Feels To Be Submissive - 5/3/2014 5:41:01 PM

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Very realistic. I have to say I'm only feeling this feeling through an online interaction. This online interaction may be all there is. It does not lessen the feeling.
I can only hope to feel this in real time at some point in my life. As long as I'm able to keep the main thing the main thing, I believe.

The main thing, which is true of my God,
To not hurt me intentionally
to not disappear
to know his primary concern is my well being

Knowing this transcends the mundane
though allowing this to become part of me willl hopefully impact the dynamic if ever I reach real time with " the one"

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Sometimes it's like that and sometimes it's being carped at for not having dinner ready the moment he comes in from working on the car, even though it would have dried out if it sat there in the oven for two hours.

Really, it's not all roses and things. It's a relationship between two people. Either or both of whom can be having a bad day at any given time.

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RE: So This Is How It Feels To Be Submissive - 5/4/2014 5:09:22 AM

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As DesFIP said, it's not all roses all the time. A D/s relationship has it's ups and downs, good times and not so good times, problems to sort out and all the other not so fun stuff that comes with any relationship. Being a sub doesn't mean you're just taken care of or you're not responsible for yourself at all.

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Just doing as He says, making Him happy, so wonderful.

Just doing as he says, etc. isn't always as easy as it sounds. There are days I'm tired or feel like doing nothing, I want to have a lazy day where I might not feel like doing everything he says but I do it without hesitation and without complaining to him about it (although I might be grumbling about it in my mind). With the exception of if I'm sick or my PTSD symptoms are bad, I'm expected to follow the rules and protocol he set that I agreed to and at times that can be challenging.

Don't go into a D/s relationship thinking every day is going to be blissful and everything is going to run smoothly, go into it with the realization that all relationships have their ups and downs.

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RE: So This Is How It Feels To Be Submissive - 5/4/2014 5:17:22 AM

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Sometimes it feels like that. Sometimes it feels like:

- Awesome there's a new episode of Hannibal on tonight, we can cuddle up on the sofa
- Jesus how hard is it to shut the cupboard doors? I can tell exactly what he's been doing in the kitchen because every drawer and cupboard is open.
- That sex was amazing. It's great to be with someone who gets off on the same things I do.
- How on earth do you expect me to pick a good present for your mother's birthday? You lived with her for 20+ years, I've met her twice.

Like Des said, it's still a relationship, with two imperfect human beings. Even the best D/s relationship (and I happen to think mine couldn't get much better) still involve little irritations or conflicts. Personally I think that I could have a vanilla relationship that was just as fulfilling, if I found a guy who was as committed to working with me and making sure we were both happy as my husband is. The sex might not be as amazing, but even that I'm sure we could figure out ways to both get what we need.

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RE: So This Is How It Feels To Be Submissive - 5/4/2014 5:19:42 AM

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I know it wont be perfect, nothing ever is. But like i said, i would like to have a Daddy whom i can put my trust in even in the darkest of times.

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RE: So This Is How It Feels To Be Submissive - 5/4/2014 5:43:49 AM

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I agree CobaltRose. Complete trust in each other is essential. I wouldn't be with a Dom that I didn't have the ultimate level of trust in, who I didn't trust completely with my physical and emotional well-being and with my life. A Dom also has to trust that his sub is in tune with herself, knows her boundaries, knows what is good for her and what can destroy her.

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RE: So This Is How It Feels To Be Submissive - 5/4/2014 5:55:22 AM

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Also since as a transgender anal will be the only kind of penetrative sex i can have, im gonna need someone i really trust. But its gonna be hard to find a guy whose comfortable enough with his sexuality that he doesnt care about being with a girl who just so happens to have something extra.

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