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collar me - 5/9/2014 3:38:54 AM   
mebeyourslave


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Status: offline 		hey, i am a new user here. the process of getting to know people here is taking a lot of time... and i aint even finiding a domme to dominate me. how hard can it be to find a domme? please help me figure out how to find the appropriate chats and people
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RE: collar me - 5/9/2014 3:40:49 AM   
mebeyourslave


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Status: offline 		it d be awesome if someone guided me to a naughty chat!?

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RE: collar me - 5/9/2014 10:57:44 AM   
RockaRolla


Posts: 1153
Joined: 1/20/2014
From: South Florida
Status: offline 		Are you looking for a domme or are you looking for a method to get your rocks off?

Meeting people for any sort of relationship, from friends to LTRs, will take time. If you don't have the patience for it, just find a pro-domme.

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RE: collar me - 5/9/2014 11:05:41 AM   
DaddySatyr


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Joined: 8/29/2011
From: Pittston, Pennsyltucky
Status: offline 		First and foremost; welcome to CollarMe and now, to CollarChat. This is a fun place (hopefully) where we can interact with other people in the lifestyle.

Second; I'm not so sure that this belongs in "events". You might find it moved to "Introduce yourself".

Now, to answer your question:

If you're looking for someone to hit you with a flogger, tie you up, make you lick their shoes, etc. without going through all the mess of even learning each other's first names, you might do better to look around for a dungeon or even some sex clubs that have a "BDSM Night".

If you're looking for someone with whom you can build a relationship that has D/s or BDSM as the basis for the relationship, your best bet is to stick around, ask some questions, "meet" some people (here), see if there's a "vibe", and then, see if you can meet them in person.

It's not really any different than what regular, garden variety, two-armed, two-legged people do every day.

If you're looking for kink; go to dungeons, etc. If you're looking for a lifetime fulfillment; join us and hopefully, you'll find it, here.



Good luck,







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RE: collar me - 5/10/2014 12:27:36 AM   
TuliTheUnruli


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Joined: 11/24/2013
From: Indiana, USA
Status: offline 		Hello and Welcome to the site

The first and probably best thing you could do to attract a Domme is to make a full and eye-catching profile. Write about your daily activities, main interests and hobbies (both kinky and ordinary), what you seek in a Domme and your limitations. And include a nice, honest , inviting profile photo. Your Mistress - even your potential Mistress - should have an opportunity to check you out so she can approach first or respond to your messages.

Good luck and I wish you well in your search.

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RE: collar me - 5/10/2014 3:31:53 AM   
MissKittyDeVine


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Status: offline 		If you just want sexy chat, pay a cam girl to play the dominant role.

If you want a fulfilling relationship, be prepared to put in a LOT of time and effort.

Contrary to apparently popular belief, there are not thousands of females on this site willing to domme any stranger who comes along. We are choosy about who we engage with.

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RE: collar me - 5/10/2014 5:07:04 AM   
AthenaSurrenders


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ORIGINAL: mebeyourslave

hey, i am a new user here. the process of getting to know people here is taking a lot of time... and i aint even finiding a domme to dominate me. how hard can it be to find a domme? please help me figure out how to find the appropriate chats and people


Really hard. It's like saying 'gosh I just want a wife without spending so much time on it! Why is that so hard?'

It's even harder for male subs online, because they massively outnumber the female dominants. Your profile, messages and picture must sparkle and show real personality. That is, not just kink.

On the other hand if you just want sex chat, you can pay a cam girl, or just go into any anonymous BDSM chatroom. You will probably be cybering with men pretending to be women if you do this, but you will get sex chat.

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RE: collar me - 5/10/2014 11:45:57 AM   
Killerangel


Posts: 1169
Joined: 8/3/2010
Status: offline 		It's pretty damn hard to find a Domme and it doesn't happen by finding the right chat - that's not the gateway to dick fulfillment. Unless you count getting sexy chat talk from another dude.

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RE: collar me - 5/17/2014 10:24:08 PM   
mebeyourslave


Posts: 5
Joined: 5/9/2014
Status: offline 		I Dont really know what I would like,I am curious right now... I can hope to have a relationship and talk to people only once I know exactly what my kiknks are!
Right now I am just curious:/

And I am in India..Lol
There ain't no dungeons bdsm clubs.. its all tabboo!
Thank you all for the help.. I will surely update my profile soon:)

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RE: collar me - 5/17/2014 11:42:39 PM   
NiceButMeanGirl


Posts: 2756
Joined: 11/4/2011
From: Bellingham, WA U.S.A.
Status: offline 		I agree that you need to have a full & eye-catching profile. Plus, when you write to Dommes, write them personalized letters because we can sniff out the copy & paste jobs a mile away. And DON'T lead with your kink, that's a big turn-off. It really is difficult to find a compatible D/s partner, I realize that. There are all the normal vanilla things like needing to have similar interests, compatible personalities, that spark of attraction, etc. Plus there is the power exchange thing, finding someone on the opposite side of the kneel from your own, and finding someone with compatible kinks.

iMale subs outnumber Dommes by the gazillions. You need to make yourself stand out from the rest with a sparkling profile, a fantastic approach & aa great first letter. You need to make us take notice of what a great impression you make on us compared to your competitors. None of those things are accomplished by having an almost blank profile and only one non-kinky interest listed on your Interests list. That just makes you look lazy and lacking initiative, neither of which are attractive traits in a slave/submissive.

NBMG

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