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Curious about transgenders, hypotheticals as well - 5/9/2014 11:01:43 AM

Crouchingtiger77

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First, a transgender, female to male, but their genital area is not changed. and they upon completion of said changes claims to also be homosexual, wanting sex and relationship only with a male dom.

If the male dom / master is indeed homosexual would they accept a transgender female to male if that person still has a vagina? Im just curious about this and yes, I guess the question be turned to speak of males who are transgender to female but still have a penis. Yet, they claim as a transgender to be female and lesbian but with an operating penis.

Would a Lesbian Mistress accept this transgender?
I'm just curious.
How does this work itself out in the world of D's
I am also and have worked to keep this respectful in nature.
If my grammar lacks a bit, sorry. That is my weakness, or one of many , that being written English. That's why I only taught conversational English in China. It's much easier.

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RE: Curious about transgenders, hypotheticals as well - 5/9/2014 11:27:42 AM

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Sexuality is way too complex to say 'lesbians would do X and gay men would do Y'.

For some, the private parts would be an issue. For others, it would not. For yet another group of people, the fact that he or she was born the opposite gender would still be a deal breaker even if the surgery had taken place.

And that's without factoring in the fact that both gender and sexuality can exist on a spectrum. Just because your hypothetical trans-woman identifies as a lesbian, doesn't mean her partner couldn't identify as genderfluid and bisexual.

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RE: Curious about transgenders, hypotheticals as well - 5/9/2014 11:48:11 AM

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quote:

And that's without factoring in the fact that both gender and sexuality can exist on a spectrum. Just because your hypothetical trans-woman identifies as a lesbian, doesn't mean her partner couldn't identify as genderfluid and bisexual.

Thank you for all of what you wrote.

I am just thinking this has been discussed at some point but perhaps from different perspectives. I appreciate your response. Tiger

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RE: Curious about transgenders, hypotheticals as well - 5/9/2014 12:44:25 PM

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This isn't an issue that's exclusive to the world of S&M, either. And like AthenaSurrenders suggested, it doesn't have a clear-cut answer. We don't like to admit it, but many people in the S&M community, just like many people in the LGBT community, have their own particular hang-ups. That's okay. But there are also people for whom the trans would be a non-issue. As a trans person, they have to find the right partner for them--someone who will accept their body--the same way that we all have to find someone who fits our particular dynamic. Relationships and people are a lot more complicated than we usually give them credit for being, and it's hard to find the exact right person for your particular dynamic. But that's what makes it so exciting when you get there, right?

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RE: Curious about transgenders, hypotheticals as well - 5/9/2014 1:03:36 PM

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As someone with personal experience in the matter I would say AthenaSurrenders is right in this matter however I will say she maybe doesn't go into the extreme cases on either end. For example, I know lesbian women who are willing to have sex with men just because they aren't attracted to men doesn't mean they wont sleep with men. Now these lesbians as far as I'm aware are rare and the only one I've personally met was a sex addict and while she didn't find men sexually attractive she would be over taken by her urges and if she couldn't find a girl she'd find a guy. Now however there are lesbians out there who are of the other end of the table who will not only not date a transgendered but might be verbally/physically abusive towards them because they define as a lesbian. There is actually a website ran by a lesbian woman (I forget the name of it) that is dedicated to finding transwomen who identify as a lesbian and shame them by saying they are really just men.

I have a bit of knowledge from the gay/FtM side too but a lot less I will however say I've never seen gay men be as mean to FtMs as I have seen lesbians be to MtFs but that might just be because I am an MtF. I have however met a gay man who would once a year have sex with a woman.

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RE: Curious about transgenders, hypotheticals as well - 5/9/2014 1:14:36 PM

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Very individual circumstances. There are people who accept the identities of trans people and there are people who do not. Yes, there are gay trans men, and yes there are Lesbian trans women, BUT sexuality is very fluid. There are some people that will be able to handle being with a trans person, and there are others who can not. There are those who will question their sexuality if they are with a trans person. However a trans person's identity should be respected every bit as much as your own, and in being with a trans person you will still be straight/gay/bi etc respectively. Genitalia does not play a role in that regard. Only in regard to the preference of genitals on behalf of the potential partner of said trans person.

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