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Arianna92 -> RE: Definitions (5/14/2014 3:09:20 PM)
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Uhm, I'm a man, apparently.
I don't vent much and hardly share my problems, unless I'm actively looking for advice, I very much prefer engaging in abstract conversations about politics, society or the arts, I find them more entertaining and interesting than discussing my problems for the sake of connection, I'm just not wired that way, I guess, and most of my problems are so uninteresting anyways. Maybe if I had more substantial problems, I'd share more.
The thing, is, even when I'm looking for advice, if I tell you that I get sleepy in class, but we've already discussed about it and I've already made it clear that going to bed early is not a viable solution, a logical person should give, if they can think of it, different advice, not get pushy on a possibility that has already been ruled out. Or, speaking of something that actually happened, I smoke, I smoked when you met me, I don't live in a cave and I can read the writing on the package, therefore you must logically assume that I made the conscious decision, influenced my my culture which is different from yours, to possibly trade the last 20 years of my life for a physical pleasure in the present. It's ok if you want to give all the additional information you can give me, but once that's done, if you keep bugging me about it, I don't perceive that as dominant and hot, but as nagging. Nagging ain't hot. It makes shut down and turn into a bitch. I put up with it with my mum because she loves me to death, she made me and also she financially supports me, making that relationship structurally unbalanced, I'm not going to put up with it from a peer for long. Maybe, as someone said, it's an American thing, maybe you guys are just not there yet in terms of gender roles.
I also think is very admirable when men actively fight rape and violence, I don't know if I would consider it 'manly', that seems problematic on so many levels as a definition. I find it probably more admirable when women do it 'though, because it's category taking charge of a problem that affects it, fighting for its own survival. As far as men being protective, I feel the best way a men can be both protective and respectful of me is to be there and be on my team while I protect myself, in case I need support or back-up.
I'll look on the other websites, probably okcupid,as the others don't seem to fit me quite well in their population, I just felt like, since I haven't met anyone irl recently, it would have been a good idea to go look for the ideal, which very much includes this sexual dynamic,but I guess it's less common than I thought.
I fancy sensitive people, because I fancy artistic people, it doesn't mean you always have to wear your hearth on your sleeve, just possess a set of sensibilities and great depth. Even if you're a stereotypical man out of a 40s noir film on the outside.
I like toilets seat to be very clean as well, I just don't like the process of getting them clean. I don't like it in general - the cleaning service budget comes before the food balance as far as I'm concerned - I like it even less if it connects to a notion of unrequited 'service', which I know some people are into, but it's very much not my thing.
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