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Scrumhalf9 -> Trying to get into this is proving to be near impossible. (5/12/2014 2:36:08 PM)
Hi. I'm Andrew and I'm very new to this scene. I have been into bdsm for a while but I'm now trying to experience it and it seems impossible. After hours of trying to find someone to teach me or at least talk to me about my curiosities i didnt find one person who offered to help. All i seemed to find were online financial dommes, who are most likely bots any way, trying to suck every penny i had out of me. (luckily they didnt get one). But its just frustrating. Im 21 im straight and im a sub. Has anyone else had similar problems and how did you get past them.

freedomdwarf1 -> RE: Trying to get into this is proving to be near impossible. (5/12/2014 2:51:25 PM)
Patience, grasshopper!!! Like any sort of relationship, BDSM or 'nilla, it can take years to find the right partner. If you are expecting a result in a few hours (or weeks, or months), the only people you'll find that will accommodate your desire for insta-domliness will be those selling professional services.

MistressDarkArt -> RE: Trying to get into this is proving to be near impossible. (5/12/2014 3:15:59 PM)
Hi Andrew, and welcome to the boards. Part of the problem is your profile states you're 'currently owned'. If it means you're married or part of a couple, many folks will shy away from that. If that's no longer the case, you might want to delete it from your profile. Generally, sub males new to the life style find more doors opened to them in their local community. You're in an area where there are likely many lifestyle groups, activities, and munches. Do a search for these and check FetLife. Volunteer, offer to help with whatever's needed and get to know other lifestyle people. Wowing them with your great personality will get you farther faster than anything you can do online (besides pay, which isn't what you're into.) Best of luck on your journey.

sandyTheSub -> RE: Trying to get into this is proving to be near impossible. (5/12/2014 3:33:20 PM)
It also may be easier to bond with subs first - as there is no "pressure" of a possible relationship and so it is much easier to communicate.

RedMagic1 -> RE: Trying to get into this is proving to be near impossible. (5/12/2014 7:59:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Scrumhalf9 Hi. I'm Andrew and I'm very new to this scene. I have been into bdsm for a while but I'm now trying to experience it and it seems impossible. After hours of trying to find someone to teach me or at least talk to me about my curiosities i didnt find one person who offered to help. All i seemed to find were online financial dommes, who are most likely bots any way, trying to suck every penny i had out of me. (luckily they didnt get one). But its just frustrating. Im 21 im straight and im a sub. Has anyone else had similar problems and how did you get past them. Dude, it is easier now that at any other time in human history. By far. Don't believe me? Watch this clip from a daytime talk show. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JOdNFx9kg0c Find a woman you like, via normal vanilla dating, and tell her gently on the first date that you're interested in exploring the whole Fifty Shades world, what does she think about that? If she likes and trusts you, 99% likelihood she'll be willing to explore together.

orgasmdenial12 -> RE: Trying to get into this is proving to be near impossible. (5/12/2014 11:17:47 PM)
Your post seems to suggest that you are looking for someone to help you explore your curiosities. In other words, you are looking for someone to do something for you. Try to think about what you could do for them, in order to make it more mutual and complementary, and less one-sided. Another option is to go to local events and meet people there, who might be willing to carry out your wishes.

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