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Jumping in with both feet - 5/13/2014 10:16:00 AM

miriamel

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I'm new here, so I thought I'd say hi and start with this;

I've seen other people posting to get profile advice so I thought I might as well give it a try. The problem I have is that I'm a very shy person, and I don't like to talk about myself because I'm always scared it sounds big-headed. It's awkward for me to even describe what sort of person I'm looking for, never mind something more... intimate because I hate the idea of being demanding. I'm cringing as it is just asking for help putting the right words in so I'm sure you can imagine what it's like for me to try and send someone the first message.

If anyone has any suggestions as to how I can improve my profile to better attract people, I'll be incredibly grateful. And awkward, but mostly grateful, because then I'll just need to get over my tendency to hide under the desk every time the 'new mail' button lights up.

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RE: Jumping in with both feet - 5/13/2014 10:44:28 AM

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Moved from Introductions to Off Topic, as Introductions is an area to welcome new posters and all else belongs elsewhere on the forum so that members can readily respond to the questions or needs of the new poster.

miriamel, I hope you get the assistance you need and welcome to the forums!

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RE: Jumping in with both feet - 5/14/2014 8:00:46 AM

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Having healthy boundaries is not the same as being demanding. If you're allergic to seafood, would you go along happily to a seafood restaurant knowing you would spend the night in the hospital as a result?

No, you would state that you could do an Italian or a Mexican restaurant instead and let him pick from the ones you could eat.

No difference here. You aren't demanding anyone change to suit you. You simply state what you need to be happy and look for someone who needs the same.

But expecting people to know without info what makes you happy means that you expect them to be mind readers, and that won't ever happen.

I would do some soul searching to figure out why, and from whom, you have learned that asking for your needs to be met is unsafe. And then address those issues. Because there are times your partner is going to want you to make a decision and refusing to do so when told is not going to be seen as submissive.

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RE: Jumping in with both feet - 5/14/2014 11:04:09 AM

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"No men. I mean it.

Not looking for online play.

A little broken, looking for a caring and nurturing domme if there is such a person out there. For me it's as much about intimacy as it is about sex. There's a big difference between the two.

Very shy."

The first two sentences could be replaced with "Looking for a Domme for real time interaction."

The "if there is such a person out there" sounds like a whine. I'd remove it.

"For me it's as much about intimacy as it is about sex. There's a big difference between the two." bugs me - I'd replace it with "I need both intimacy and sex, which to me are different things."

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RE: Jumping in with both feet - 5/14/2014 11:07:47 AM

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No men. I mean it.

Lose that sour shit and use mail controls to send males to bulk. you are still gonna get males posing as females wanna do whatever, but just block and move on.

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