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Dealing with a Master's absence. - 5/13/2014 11:23:46 AM

Trisha26

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Does anyone out there have a Master or Domme that are gone more then home? My husband is a private pilot for a large corporatio . He spends weeks and even months away from home at times. I have desires that can't be fulfilled at all times. It gets sexually frustrating at times to need more then you can get from your Master and husband. How do you deal with the lonelinessand frustrations without cheating or bbetrayingthem?

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RE: Dealing with a Master's absence. - 5/13/2014 11:59:48 AM

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I do with the exception of it's me who travels often and for long periods of time, sometimes I'm gone up to 2 months at a time. We both get frustrated and lonely when we're apart sexually and non-sexually. We've been together for 7 years, neither of us has any desire to get our needs met elsewhere.

How we deal with being apart, we accept 'it is what it is'. We talk by phone at least once a day, take care of ourselves sexually (although not anywhere near the same as together, it does take some of the edge off), focus on other things going on in our lives and look forward to when I'm home again.

There are rules and protocol I have to abide by even when we're not together and that helps keep the D/s part of our relationship alive and strong.

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RE: Dealing with a Master's absence. - 5/13/2014 12:19:29 PM

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RE: Dealing with a Master's absence. - 5/13/2014 12:44:28 PM

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I skim read your autobiography.... I mean profile, and here's what I got from it.

You married young. Your husband has been working these very long shifts away for pretty much the entire time. You don't need to work because of his good wages. You identify him as your Master, but it seems that this is mostly driven by your own kinks and desires rather than his - you'd like him to spend more time dominating you and include more of your public humiliation kink.

You're bored and frustrated and horny.

How badly do you want this marriage to work? Serious question. If these long months away from home are already getting to you so badly that cheating sounds like a good choice, the two of you need to sit down and figure out a solution. Maybe he gets a different job with shorter away times. Maybe you change your schedule so you can join him on some of these trips. Either way, it sounds like this is a big issue to you. In the mean time, you keep your connection however you can. Phone calls, letters, journals. Get a job that interests you. Study. Improve yourself. If he's your Master, think about ways you can serve him better. Maybe you learn to cook while he's away. Maybe you learn how to do home repairs. It's not as good as being face to face, but at least you can focus on your relationship and your dynamic while he's away.

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RE: Dealing with a Master's absence. - 5/14/2014 6:29:07 AM

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Maybe you change your schedule so you can join him on some of these trips. Either way, it sounds like this is a big issue to you. In the mean time, you keep your connection however you can.

Is that an option? Can you guys afford round trip airfare for you to go out to one of his locations where you can meet up with him? Does he have private living accommodations at his stopovers where you could stay with him for the night or two that he is there? Try to arrange to fly out at his longest stop overs...

You said it's a private corporation, so it might even be a possibility he could ask them for you to ride along and 'Stewardess" and share his living accommodations.

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RE: Dealing with a Master's absence. - 5/14/2014 2:29:56 PM

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And when you're not together, there's always skype. Phone/cam sex with him directing you to use various toys on yourself while he watches.

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RE: Dealing with a Master's absence. - 5/14/2014 4:51:08 PM

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It is hard to be without him. I now but my Master does not go away for that long the longest was a week. Things i did was i read(love to read) exercised, took walks Even if you don't have to work you may want to get a job somethug to distract you from missnig him. I know it is tough in this economy. We also alked on the phone every day, just hearing his voice helprd. Just a few ideas.

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RE: Dealing with a Master's absence. - 6/7/2014 5:16:46 PM

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masturbation if a guy jilling if your a girl...lol

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RE: Dealing with a Master's absence. - 7/1/2014 7:39:44 AM

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My D is like that... we get one or 2 days a week. I cant meet all his needs nor does he have the time to meet all mine either so we see other people too. No rubbing it in each other's faces though. Life is too short to be frustrated or abstinent and you don't own someone even if you're married to them. The betrayal comes from the LIES.

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