|
Saint -> RE: Lower your standards for kink? (7/10/2006 7:24:23 PM)
|
quote:
ORIGINAL: AAkasha
I am especially interested to hear if submissive men have ever lowered their standards (consciously or subconsciously) in order to date/court/be in a relationship with a dominant woman.
For example, maybe you tolerated a woman that mistreated your friends, or smoked even though you hated it (and never would have been with a vanilla woman who did that), cheated on you (you forgave easily -- after all, she was dominant, and there aren't many of those around), treated you poorly or other things?
Because it's difficult to find a compatible kinky partner, are you guilty of worrying less about the compatibility and hoping that will work itself out? Did it, or did it not?
Akasha
Yes, its difficult as hell to find a compatible Domme in this lifestyle. I have never compromised my standards and perhaps thats the reason I am still alone. I only know of two Dommes between Traverse City and Detroit who truly make me want to be submissive to them. The problem is, I want someone who first and foremost respects themselves, has complete control over every facet of their life, can get inside my head and motivate me, and has compatible interests outside the lifestyle with mine. As I tried to explain to the Master of the House Im apprenticed to, I refuse to settle for anything less than someone who meets that criteria. Unfortunately, people such as that are few and far between and my submission is not to be bought cheaply at the expense of gratuitous one night stands or casual play. I refuse to demean myself by lowering my standards to the level of someone who wont care about my submission, who is abusive, and who cannot control their own lives to begin with.
|
|
|
|
