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Gauge -> RE: feeling unwanted and ugly (5/28/2014 7:06:35 PM)
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ORIGINAL: ivone57
thank you all for the words of encouragement .... your awesome all of you...
yes i have joined the gym here in town... but i need to do this for me and not for him....
thank you again... [:)]
Any change that we make for ourselves has got to be based on what it is we want and not what anyone else wants.
As far as your statement about feeling unwanted and ugly, well, ugly is a damn strong word. I could stand to lose some weight, but other than that, I am a fairly OK looking guy. I certainly won't be a cover model on GQ, but I wouldn't want to be either. A long time ago I had to learn to be comfortable with who I was, I had to get used to the idea that my physical appearance was what I was stuck with and I had better learn to like it. More importantly, I had to address the things within me that were making me feel that damn insecure and preventing my happiness. Losing weight would be a great thing for me to do, and I have been researching the best way for me to do that, I am sure that I will feel better physically, but I am still happy with who I am. My suggestion is that you lose the weight and learn to love yourself and learn to be kind to yourself. Also, I would take a good hard look at who you are with because frankly, if they are being shitty to you because you gained a few pounds, then they obviously have their priorities all wrong. Looks fade eventually, and what you are left with in a partner is who they really are and if there are problems now, they will only get worse over time. Talk to them, express your feelings and whatever you do, do not fight over this, discuss it calmly and rationally. They might not realize they are being a jerk.
I wish you the best.
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