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Daddy Issues - 5/26/2014 5:36:36 PM

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I am interested in hearing from those with "daddy issues". You may be attracted to older daddy types. I am interested in learning more about the emotions that come into play and what you feel led you to have this attraction.

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RE: Daddy Issues - 5/26/2014 5:43:41 PM

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Gender doesn't matter, right?

Where's the couch, I'd like to get comfortable before we start.

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RE: Daddy Issues - 5/26/2014 5:48:26 PM

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Not all of us who have Daddies have daddy issues and not all of us who have been with substantially older men have (or had) daddy issues.

I had the privilege of being the last great love in someone's life.
He was 74 and I was 37.
No daddy issues were in play.

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RE: Daddy Issues - 5/26/2014 5:49:28 PM

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Not all of us who have Daddies have daddy issues and not all of us who have been with substantially older men have (or had) daddy issues.

I had the privilege of being the last great love in someone's life.
He was 74 and I was 37.
No daddy issues were in play.

You've got it kiddo.

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RE: Daddy Issues - 5/26/2014 5:51:45 PM

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(Geez, I put out good money for this session, and in strolls a pixie with a guy wearing a cardigan...this better not cost extra.)

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RE: Daddy Issues - 5/26/2014 5:56:35 PM

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To further murk things up: in the aforementioned relationship, he was not my "daddy".
I now have a Daddy (who is also [my] Master and Owner) and that person was born 27 months after I was.

edit: to fix calender math.

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RE: Daddy Issues - 5/26/2014 6:09:47 PM

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To further murk things up: in the aforementioned relationship, he was not my "daddy".
I now have a Daddy (who is also [my] Master and Owner) and that person was born 27 months after I was.

edit: to fix calender math.

I don't see a thing wrong with that but then again my last daddi was 13 years younger than me and female.

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RE: Daddy Issues - 5/26/2014 6:16:41 PM

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To further murk things up: in the aforementioned relationship, he was not my "daddy".
I now have a Daddy (who is also [my] Master and Owner) and that person was born 27 months after I was.

edit: to fix calender math.

I don't see a thing wrong with that but then again my last daddi was 13 years younger than me and female.

There isn't; I just figured that since the OP was focused on older daddies, that perhaps the idea of younger daddies hadn't occurred to him.

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RE: Daddy Issues - 5/26/2014 6:23:50 PM

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In general there is typically an age difference were she is attracted to, but not always an older man. But age ready doesn't matter with my questions. Hopefully I can get it back on topic. Thank you all for your input so far.

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RE: Daddy Issues - 5/26/2014 7:00:36 PM

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In general there is typically an age difference were she is attracted to, but not always an older man. But age ready doesn't matter with my questions. Hopefully I can get it back on topic. Thank you all for your input so far.

Translation: "Someone tell me you're single with attachment issues so I may wiggle my wiener at you. Thanks."

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RE: Daddy Issues - 5/26/2014 7:17:19 PM

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ORIGINAL: caringShrink

In general there is typically an age difference were she is attracted to, but not always an older man. But age ready doesn't matter with my questions. Hopefully I can get it back on topic. Thank you all for your input so far.

Translation: "Someone tell me you're single with attachment issues so I may wiggle my wiener at you. Thanks."

^That made me giggle. Thank you for the smile and giggle =p

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RE: Daddy Issues - 5/26/2014 7:23:06 PM

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Ok that was a waste of time

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RE: Daddy Issues - 5/26/2014 7:46:13 PM

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Maybe you could have made the question less agenda driven?

Such as: For those of you who have Daddies or have had Daddies, what does that specific type of dynamic do for you?

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RE: Daddy Issues - 5/26/2014 7:49:54 PM

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Ok that was a waste of time

Wait

People came in and made comments about their take on Daddy issues.

So. You didn't really want a discussion? Ahh

It was a thinly veiled attempt at attracting attention to your "daddy" status because the profile side isn't working fast enough ?

Yup. It was a waste of time. Thanks for playing

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RE: Daddy Issues - 5/26/2014 7:54:41 PM

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Thank you, I probably should have worded it differently. But in reality I was hoping to just gain more knowledge and have no other agenda. I guess i'll try to look elsewhere for the information.

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Maybe you could have made the question less agenda driven?

Such as: For those of you who have Daddies or have had Daddies, what does that specific type of dynamic do for you?

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RE: Daddy Issues - 5/26/2014 7:55:39 PM

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(I still haven't received a reply about gender.)

OP, tongue in cheek aside - and I was only gently teasing you - your profile is all about looking for girls with daddy issues and clearly states at the bottom that you have no clinical qualifications. If you have no qualifications but wish to know what may actually cause someone to have Freudian daddy/mommy issues, I can gladly point you to several well-written, comprehensive books that can speak to the layman without being too technical, and without being too dry.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with expanding your knowledge base.

If, on the other hand, this is a ploy to get someone to publicly air deep-rooted emotions that may require actual clinical qualifications, you may wish to reconsider the practicality and ethical ramifications. Group support has its merits, but this is not quite the venue for anything that might, in fact, have serious significance to someone who struggles with or truly doesn't understand the driving forces behind their interests.

Really, only you know your intent here, and only you can know what that intent says about you.

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RE: Daddy Issues - 5/26/2014 8:04:34 PM

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ORIGINAL: caringShrink

Thank you, I probably should have worded it differently. But in reality I was hoping to just gain more knowledge and have no other agenda. I guess i'll try to look elsewhere for the information.

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Maybe you could have made the question less agenda driven?

Such as: For those of you who have Daddies or have had Daddies, what does that specific type of dynamic do for you?

You misunderstood me.
By attaching the premise of "daddy issues" to your query, you limited your discussion to people who have daddy issues.
Why is that essential to your discussion?
If you want to discuss it (a more than reasonable assessment since you put it in there), then why is that important to your discussion?

Otherwise, you could have opened your question up to a more general discussion of the topic.

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RE: Daddy Issues - 5/26/2014 8:08:05 PM

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Maybe you could have made the question less agenda driven?

Such as: For those of you who have Daddies or have had Daddies, what does that specific type of dynamic do for you?

I'm going to answer this question by angelikaJ, instead of your question OP, as the way it's worded, it bugs me.

What a DD/lg does for me (as I don't speak for all littles) is give me the type of attention that I feel I need. If I have a Daddy, then I have somebody who can chase all of my fears away, and also let me be who I want to be, wear what I want to wear, and use sippy cups and pacifiers because they're cute, without telling me to "grow up".
Because I like being adorable, and I like having somebody who can encourage my adorableness.
But I'm not looking for a cookie cutter Daddy. I don't want somebody who just wants me because I'm a little, (or because I'm this or that, fill in the blank), and I won't want somebody who I have nothing in common with.

Every little is going to like this dynamic for different reasons, though.

Also, I don't have father issues. I live with my father, and I love him very much. =] DD/lg =/= father issues

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RE: Daddy Issues - 5/27/2014 7:38:20 AM

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I am not "a little".
I do have a Daddy (who as I've mentioned is also [my] Master and Owner).
He does celebrate the childlike parts of me.

Some people who have daddies may have daddy issues, just as some who are not attracted to the D/lg dynamic may have plenty of daddy issues.
This is not a one-size fits all world.

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RE: Daddy Issues - 5/27/2014 2:02:41 PM

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I have a very healthy relationship with my father.

And I wouldn't be a "little" (although I don't like using that word to describe what I am) to anyone who thinks otherwise, or is into me because they think I have daddy issues.

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