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Rewards - 5/27/2014 7:07:53 PM   
MsNymph


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Status: offline 		I know some do, and some don't use a reward system in their dynamic....I am one that does. When it's a physical/local dynamic, rewards are easy to figure out. When it is strictly an online dynamic is another story though.

Can anyone help me out here, and give me some ideas for rewards for male submissive/slaves please?

MN
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RE: Rewards - 5/28/2014 5:51:57 AM   
thishereboi


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Status: offline 		Normally I would suggest some kind of play that they really like but that doesn't work for online where you don't actually play with them. So the only thing I can think of in an "online support me like my daddy used to" kinda relationship is to give them some kind of a break on fees that week.

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RE: Rewards - 5/28/2014 8:33:33 AM   
MsNymph


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Status: offline 		probably it would be the other way for them, since their fetish is to give give give. Thank you though for replying and trying to help me.

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RE: Rewards - 5/28/2014 9:19:58 AM   
Vgsjohn


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Status: offline 		a "good boy" and a special picture with their name.
a mailed hand written card.
a cheap toy for them to use and take more pictures to send to You.

i dont know Y/your dynamic, yet their are many things You can do

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RE: Rewards - 5/28/2014 10:00:12 AM   
MsNymph


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ORIGINAL: Vgsjohn

a "good boy" and a special picture with their name.
a mailed hand written card.
a cheap toy for them to use and take more pictures to send to You.

i dont know Y/your dynamic, yet their are many things You can do



Thank you for your suggestions!

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RE: Rewards - 5/28/2014 10:27:00 AM   
Blonderfluff


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Status: offline 		Let me get this straight. You get paid, but we give you the ideas??

Fucking brilliant business plan. Sign me up.

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RE: Rewards - 5/28/2014 12:26:55 PM   
Spiritedsub2


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ORIGINAL: Blonderfluff

Let me get this straight. You get paid, but we give you the ideas??

Fucking brilliant business plan. Sign me up.

Haha! Like a pyramid scheme, or Herbalife :)

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RE: Rewards - 5/28/2014 1:52:36 PM   
SeekingTrinity


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From: The 'burbs of Portland, OR
Status: offline 		~FRing it~

Not going to do your job for you, OP. There is also no one-size-fits-all reward system. What someone else may find rewarding might be a huge fuckng letdown to me. Maybe you should get this stuff figured out BEFORE you hold out your hand for their money? Since they are paying for it, shouldn't you be giving them what they are paying for...rather than stuff you scrap together for others on an Internet forum who don't know you and don't know your clientele?

< Message edited by SeekingTrinity -- 5/28/2014 1:56:46 PM >

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RE: Rewards - 5/28/2014 2:33:47 PM   
MsNymph


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Status: offline 		How very cruel some of you can be. Do you attack other Doms when they come in asking any type of questions?

Shame on you and your uninformed judgmental attitudes.

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RE: Rewards - 5/28/2014 2:37:14 PM   
LafayetteLady


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From: Northern New Jersey
Status: offline 		People wonder why findommes get a bad rap and nasty emails. Does it occur to you that you basicalyy wanting to put your hand out and haven't a clue whatt you are doing has sometthing to do with it?

There is not one woman on this site beautiful enough (beyond her owwn opinion) that deserves to be paid merrely for her existtance. The OP is certainly no excepttion.

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RE: Rewards - 5/28/2014 3:39:28 PM   
SeekingTrinity


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Status: offline 		Oddly enough, OP. I really don't feel the need to feel ashamed for speaking the truth. I personally think a person should know what the hell they are doing before expecting to get paid for it. And to, God forbid, tailor a reward system based on what you *gasp* bother learning about what motivates the person paying you.

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RE: Rewards - 5/29/2014 12:07:31 PM   
evesgrden


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsNymph

I know some do, and some don't use a reward system in their dynamic....I am one that does. When it's a physical/local dynamic, rewards are easy to figure out. When it is strictly an online dynamic is another story though.

Can anyone help me out here, and give me some ideas for rewards for male submissive/slaves please?

MN



Buy him a gift if you're close. If not, a gift card will work too.

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RE: Rewards - 5/29/2014 1:35:50 PM   
thishereboi


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsNymph

How very cruel some of you can be. Do you attack other Doms when they come in asking any type of questions?

Shame on you and your uninformed judgmental attitudes.



You asked a question which as others pointed out there really is no answer to. Subs are not identical and everyone will have a different answer.

But to answer this question, if I walked into a coffee shop and asked for a coffee and they said "that will be 2 bucks, now can you show me how to run this machine" I would laugh in their face, leave and never come back. I wouldn't be half as nice as the folks here have been. You are charging for a service. You should already know how to do it.

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RE: Rewards - 5/29/2014 1:41:46 PM   
RedMagic1


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ORIGINAL: evesgrden
Buy him a gift if you're close. If not, a gift card will work too.

This made me happy. I picture you delivering the line totally deadpan, and then innocently saying, "What?" when everyone in the conversation starts cracking up.

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RE: Rewards - 5/29/2014 1:44:16 PM   
mnottertail


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsNymph

I know some do, and some don't use a reward system in their dynamic....I am one that does. When it's a physical/local dynamic, rewards are easy to figure out. When it is strictly an online dynamic is another story though.

Can anyone help me out here, and give me some ideas for rewards for male submissive/slaves please?

MN


allow them to actually sip their cum off a black spoon, or stick a pencil in their penis, or vicegrip their nuts, stuff cheetos or doritos up their ass, or whatever it is they wanna do, and watch it on cam, as they desire, and don't say, ICK.

That would be hawt for them, I am thinking, a good reward.

Or show a bit more cleavage, casually take off your panties and show them the cotton panel.....raise the skirt a smidge, allow them to see you sensually putting on lipstick, show them your black anaconda strapon and name it after him on cam, and chat and visit about it.......

(if that other stuff would happen) and it is impossible to not say ICK.


< Message edited by mnottertail -- 5/29/2014 1:46:14 PM >

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RE: Rewards - 5/29/2014 1:49:55 PM   
dcnovice


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Status: offline 		FR

A cow or some chickens in FarmVille?

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RE: Rewards - 5/29/2014 2:12:03 PM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		Perhaps a fruit basket; something from pottery barn?

(semicolon is ok there to indicate a sort of aposiopesis, an't it dc?)



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RE: Rewards - 5/29/2014 3:31:05 PM   
dcnovice


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something from pottery barn?

I actually thought of that post as I was writing!

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RE: Rewards - 5/29/2014 3:37:39 PM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		I was actually gonna have you sign and frame a copy of that post and send it to me. I fuckin think about that post more than my dick. That should speak volumes, tomes, and operas.

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RE: Rewards - 5/29/2014 4:46:09 PM   
CrazyHarleyQuinn


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Joined: 5/17/2014
Status: offline 		I'm a sub, but even I know, if somebody is paying you for something, they expect you to know your shit, not to ask other people for help.
For example, getting your car fixed. If you pay a serviceman to fix your car, how would you feel if they asked people on a forum what to do? They wouldn't know what the car needs to be fixed. =p
Same with people, we don't know what each individual person needs or wants. If you're a findomme...then you should pretty much figure everything out on your own. They're your subs to figure out and get to know, not ours.

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