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How do you make it up to your dominant? - 5/29/2014 8:37:48 AM

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If your dom has to spank you, how do you make it up to them later? I figure mouth pussy ass are a given. What do you do besides that?

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RE: How do you make it up to your dominant? - 5/29/2014 8:46:28 AM

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Mouth, pussy, ass, and everything else are already a given at all times.

You don't need to "make it up", that's what the punishment/discipline was for.

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RE: How do you make it up to your dominant? - 5/29/2014 8:56:17 AM

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I take whatever discipline he gives me without complaining, without pouting and I don't repeat whatever I did/said that gave him the need to discipline me. I rarely get any type of corporal punishment, I enjoy it too much so it wouldn't be discipline, it'd be fun.

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RE: How do you make it up to your dominant? - 5/29/2014 9:10:01 AM

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InHisHeart makes a good point. Accepting discipline without complaining or pouting is important.

Too many "I'm sorry"-s are annoying. Altering your behavior too much after punishment is sort of a different method of pouting.

Administering discipline is not something I enjoy. Changing your behavior for the rest of the day/week just serves to remind me of that unpleasantness.

Although I think it's rare that anyone actually enjoys corporal punishment. Hard strokes of the paddle or cane without warmup are usually just painful with no pleasure mixed in.

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RE: How do you make it up to your dominant? - 5/29/2014 9:29:05 AM

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If your dom has to spank you, how do you make it up to them later? I figure mouth pussy ass are a given. What do you do besides that?

There's something really weird about this question. Why does the dom have to do anything? Ok, if you're bleeding profusely, the dom has to take you to the emergency room. Or if you have a broken leg, maybe he has to pick up your kid from soccer practice. But I can't imagine a situation where a dom would have to spank a sub.

Maybe you could "make it up to him" by explaining why you did whatever it was you did, letting him know whether you thought you behaved appropriately or inappropriately, and (if you think you behaved inappropriately) explain what you are going to do, and what help you might need, to ensure you never do the same thing again.

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RE: How do you make it up to your dominant? - 5/29/2014 9:41:57 AM

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In our relationship, for the most part, spankings are a reward that He gives me as He sees fit.

So there wouldn't be anything to make up on my part. I would just keep being the same sweet and devoted slave I have always been.

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RE: How do you make it up to your dominant? - 5/29/2014 10:12:47 AM

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If your dom has to spank you, how do you make it up to them later? I figure mouth pussy ass are a given. What do you do besides that?

Welcome to the forums!

1. Not all spankings are for discipline.

2. You don't "make it up to him." The spanking itself should be the punishment, followed by forgiveness. If he's still angry after he punished you, the dynamic has problems.

3. It's not the sub's place to reward or punish her Dom with sex or lack thereof.

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RE: How do you make it up to your dominant? - 5/29/2014 3:00:29 PM

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Spankings here are for fun. We don't have a punishment dynamic. Sex is also for fun, not something for me to suffer for in order to make him feel better.

It's recommended you folks act like normal adults. Discuss what happened and what caused it, and figure out a way not to repeat it in the future.

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