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to all of the Mistress close to me - 6/4/2014 7:53:20 PM

wadebarber9212

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What is it about me that no mistress want me ?

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RE: to all of the Mistress close to me - 6/4/2014 8:18:45 PM

MzArianaPA

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Well first of all....regarding your profile...it's "Dominant woman" not "Dominate woman".

Do you go to local munches? Do you socialize with other BDSM folks at all? Do you work on educating yourself about the lifestyle?

When you date vanilla, do you have trouble meeting women or is it easy for you? Do you know how to court a woman? Have you ever been in a long term relationship? Are you single now?

In general, do you take care of yourself? Eat well, exercise, actively learn new skills? Work full time or go to college full time? What is it about yourself that makes you an awesome, interesting person?

What role do you think a Domme should take in your life? Is it just someone to scratch your itch or do you see it as a long term relationship?

It's a lot of questions...but the answers to these will contain the answer to your own.

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RE: to all of the Mistress close to me - 6/4/2014 8:20:53 PM

RedMagic1

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You dont describe yourself at all in your profile. What are your positive attributes? Start there. In general, answer the question, "Who the hell are you anyway?"

Also, I recommend you read this.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_3057123/tm.htm

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RE: to all of the Mistress close to me - 6/4/2014 8:29:49 PM

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ORIGINAL: wadebarber9212

What is it about me that no mistress want me ?

What's there to want?

Your profile says you want a Dominant woman, and you don't want to pay. In other words, your profile says what you want, and not what you offer. What kind of Dominant woman will want that? You haven't even met her, and already it's more about your wants than hers.

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RE: to all of the Mistress close to me - 6/5/2014 2:39:30 AM

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You asked almost the same question in a thread a month ago and got the same responses. You don't seem to have taken any of the advice so far since your profile is still the same and you're here asking again, why would anyone want someone who won't do anything? Sitting there with your hand out for someone to Dominate you puts you in the same category as thousands of other lazy men.

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RE: to all of the Mistress close to me - 6/5/2014 3:13:44 AM

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You asked this question a month ago and ignored the advice given then. I have found that most mistresses like to be listened to. Why would they want someone who has already proven he can't listen.

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RE: to all of the Mistress close to me - 6/5/2014 4:35:48 AM

wadebarber9212

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To post comments I been going something about a month ago my mom find out she has beast cancer that y I haven't updated my profile

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RE: to all of the Mistress close to me - 6/5/2014 6:12:32 AM

Miyani

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I'm sorry to hear about your mom. Follow the advice you were given last time, before asking again. Because the comments above remain true - you asked, we answered, you didn't listen. DomiNANT women like to be listened to.

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RE: to all of the Mistress close to me - 6/5/2014 10:45:42 AM

AthenaSurrenders

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Please understand that I mean this in the kindest possible way...

If your mom's illness is causing you so much distress and/or taking up so much of your time that you are unable to spend an hour really working on a good profile to attract a partner, this is probably not a good time for you to be seeking someone. That same issue will prevent you from being available to a woman for a relationship.

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RE: to all of the Mistress close to me - 6/5/2014 12:23:38 PM

MzArianaPA

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I'm sorry to hear about your mother.

But if you don't have time to engage in conversation or follow up constructive advice or update your profile.....did you really have time to post this in the first place?

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RE: to all of the Mistress close to me - 6/5/2014 12:42:24 PM

RockaRolla

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The "I'm very new to the lifestyle" excuse gets old when it's used to justify a lack of effort. This goes double when you ask for advice and refuse to follow it.

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RE: to all of the Mistress close to me - 6/5/2014 2:25:54 PM

siouxsiecat

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quote:

ORIGINAL: wadebarber9212

To post comments I been going something about a month ago my mom find out she has beast cancer that y I haven't updated my profile

Very sorry about your Mom, how awful for both of you, I hope she is getting good medical care.

Did you not think about how it would look to say that you can't possibly spend the time to take any of the suggestions you received, but you're obviously spending time searching for a Domme? It's pretty easy to see that your interest lies in making your penis happy and not in being distraught over your Mother, or in actively working to get what you are seeking.

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RE: to all of the Mistress close to me - 6/5/2014 7:31:32 PM

SweetlySadistic1

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First of all, I'm sorry about your mom. I know that can be difficult, your mom having breast cancer. Mine did too.

As for your question: Your profile says what you want, but nothing about what you have to offer in a dynamic. Plus 100% of your interests listed are about kink. It makes you want a kink-delivery system & that's an instant turn-off for most Dominant women. If you don't want to pay for it, you'd better offer something also instead of just wanting your itch scratched.

Also, you need to tell the reader some about your vanilla self, what makes you you. How do you stand head and shoulders above the rest of the male submissives who are also looking for a Domme? With the numbers being what they are, you'd better believe we'll be looking for the cream of the crop.

Lastly, and this bugs the hell out of me: DominATE is a verb. DominANT is a noun. A DominANT woman DominATEs.

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RE: to all of the Mistress close to me - 6/6/2014 10:25:31 AM

MzArianaPA

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OP:

Here's where you show your manners and say "Thank you all for your concern about my mother"

You've figured out why you're having issues meeting someone now, right?

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