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So I'm a little - 6/4/2014 8:44:37 PM

CrazyHarleyQuinn

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and I'm wanting a DD/lg relationship.
But let me clear up what DD/lg means to me.
I actually wouldn't use the word "Daddy" in a DD/lg relationship, I'd choose Sir...because I don't want there to be any confusion that I'm looking for a father figure. Because I'm not. I have a father and live with him, and love him very much.
I'm looking for somebody who will accept that I am still child-like, and encourage me to be who I am, and not tell me to grow up, and appreciate all of the child-like things that I could do, (all of the cute things).

I don't wear diapers, as that part just doesn't appeal to me.

Do I say in my profile these kind of things about what my version of DD/lg is? Because just the other night, I was talking to somebody I met on the other side...he visited my profile several times, we talked for a bit in messages, then exchanged yahoo IDs...and I just mentioned if he saw that I said I was a little, (which is at the very top of my profile), and he said he hadn't. Then he vanished.

Is this seriously something that I need to spell out for people?

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RE: So I'm a little - 6/5/2014 6:08:56 AM

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Yes. Yes it is. Everyone needs to spell out what form of X they're into, because these are broad categories that mean different things to different people.

That said, lots of people use free personals sites, especially with submissive women on them, as a place to look for free sex. They look at pictures, not profiles. I'd recommend talking with someone a bit before giving them ways to contact you off-site, and certainly don't turn on your cam on the first (or third) chat.

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RE: So I'm a little - 6/5/2014 9:36:30 AM

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Visiting your profile does not mean he read it.
He probably liked your photo or the fact that you list yourself as bisexual.

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RE: So I'm a little - 6/5/2014 12:26:33 PM

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Alright, I'll add that information in then.

I gave him a yahoo that I use the name Harley Quinn on. But still, I'll talk to people more (exchange more messages, ask more questions) on here, before going to yahoo.

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RE: So I'm a little - 6/5/2014 12:41:20 PM

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ETA! Sorry! Wrong thread! Please ignore this post!

< Message edited by RockaRolla -- 6/5/2014 12:42:07 PM >

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RE: So I'm a little - 6/5/2014 12:44:56 PM

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Now that my error's out of the way...

Yes, you should absolutely spell out something like that. Not only are you seeking a non-conventional relationship dynamic, but the kind that you want isn't what many people perceive as DD/lg. Not only will what YOU want come across clearly, you'll be able to weed out the ones looking for girls to wear diapers and call them "Daddy."

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RE: So I'm a little - 6/5/2014 5:07:32 PM

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If I may add a suggestion for you, when I read the title of this thread and looked at your profile, I still have absolutely no idea what "a little" is supposed to be. I have heard the term before but I have not had it explained fully nor have I looked it up. Of course I could look it up, but my point is simply that if I walk away not knowing what a "little" is, then I highly doubt that many others will understand exactly what that is either. Your explanation goes into what you "love" but if being a "little" is who you are and not a "playtime" personality then you should define it for someone so they know who you are.

Clarity is key. You are basically advertizing yourself and the more information you put out there, the more chances you have for someone to actually understand what it is you are looking for and whether or not they are into the same thing.

Just my two cents. Welcome to the forums.

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RE: So I'm a little - 6/5/2014 7:59:24 PM

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There's a horrible BDSM joke: "All littles are big." I mention this because I think there's a kernel of truth in that joke. I think a lot of heavy men and women want to be seen as cute, but society treats them as anything-but-cute, so some of them fetishize the cuteness desire.

My point is this. I noticed you posted on a different thread that you're hoping to find a relationship in which you are supported to lose weight. When you do, perhaps you will find that your desire to be little recedes. Once society considers you "officially cute," you may have less of an urge to be "cute through kink."

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RE: So I'm a little - 6/5/2014 11:46:06 PM

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I'll work on saying more about what it means for me to be a little. It's certainly more than a playtime thing, it's a part of my personality...

My weight has absolutely nothing to do with me being a little. Even when I was skinny(er) in middle school, (at that time, I was merely chubby), I still acted the same, and liked the same things as I do now. I haven't changed within the almost 10 years since middle school.
Changing my weight has absolutely no impact on who I am.

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RE: So I'm a little - 6/6/2014 3:22:18 AM

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@crazyHQ. I've read your new profile, and it's not bad. I see you've changed nics, so I'm going to give the same advice I gave you when you were here your first go around a few months ago.

You are young. You've been through some stuff. You are still defining who you are. Please please just take some time for yourself, grow and love yourself. If you don't do this first, any man ( Daddy or not) that you attract may very well take advantage of your vulnerability right now. I really did care last time. I care now, and I'd hate to see you start a thread this time around very similar to the last time.

Slow down, be careful, and have fun. You are doing great.

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RE: So I'm a little - 6/6/2014 4:08:21 AM

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CrazyHarleyQuinn,

Hi there. :-) This is a subject I do know a bit about. I used to be a little and, as I switched & became a Domme, now I'm a Mommy & have a little boy of my own.

Yes, sometimes you do need to spell out more in-depth whatever your kink is. Especially if it's one like DD/lg because a lot of people have some weird misconceptions about it for various reasons. A lot of people who don't understand DD/lg and MD/lb think it has to do with fucked up incestuous desires which, usually, could not be further from the truth.

Some littles mostly age play for fun & games, some regress and yet others do neither but being little is an innate facet of their personality. Also, not all littles wear diapers. A little's "age" can range from baby in diapers to preschool or grade school age(littles) to adolescence/teens(middles). Add to that that some littles fluctuate between more than one age. Not all littles "dress the part" and some do. And, unlike some seem to think, not all littles are "big." They come in all sizes, I've seen littles who are anything from tiny to way plus-size, both little girls and little boys.

It can be a wonderful thing for those who enjoy & like the dynamic, both the littles and the Daddies/Mommies. For those who don't enjoy and/or like the dynamic, some of them will never understand it & may even squick at the thought of it. C'est la vie.

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RE: So I'm a little - 6/6/2014 12:31:53 PM

CrazyHarleyQuinn

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Blonderfluff

@crazyHQ. I've read your new profile, and it's not bad. I see you've changed nics, so I'm going to give the same advice I gave you when you were here your first go around a few months ago.

You are young. You've been through some stuff. You are still defining who you are. Please please just take some time for yourself, grow and love yourself. If you don't do this first, any man ( Daddy or not) that you attract may very well take advantage of your vulnerability right now. I really did care last time. I care now, and I'd hate to see you start a thread this time around very similar to the last time.

Slow down, be careful, and have fun. You are doing great.

Alright.
I'll quit searching...I'll take a break until like December...maybe I'll be ready by then. Besides...I am on "the hunt"...and everybody always says when you're searching, nothing of value comes up (usually).

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RE: So I'm a little - 6/6/2014 12:33:10 PM

CrazyHarleyQuinn

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SweetlySadistic1

CrazyHarleyQuinn,

Hi there. :-) This is a subject I do know a bit about. I used to be a little and, as I switched & became a Domme, now I'm a Mommy & have a little boy of my own.

Yes, sometimes you do need to spell out more in-depth whatever your kink is. Especially if it's one like DD/lg because a lot of people have some weird misconceptions about it for various reasons. A lot of people who don't understand DD/lg and MD/lb think it has to do with fucked up incestuous desires which, usually, could not be further from the truth.

Some littles mostly age play for fun & games, some regress and yet others do neither but being little is an innate facet of their personality. Also, not all littles wear diapers. A little's "age" can range from baby in diapers to preschool or grade school age(littles) to adolescence/teens(middles). Add to that that some littles fluctuate between more than one age. Not all littles "dress the part" and some do. And, unlike some seem to think, not all littles are "big." They come in all sizes, I've seen littles who are anything from tiny to way plus-size, both little girls and little boys.

It can be a wonderful thing for those who enjoy & like the dynamic, both the littles and the Daddies/Mommies. For those who don't enjoy and/or like the dynamic, some of them will never understand it & may even squick at the thought of it. C'est la vie.

SweetlySadistc1

I tried to explain myself a little bit more? I don't know what else I'd need to say to explain it further lol

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RE: So I'm a little - 6/7/2014 5:15:44 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: CrazyHarleyQuinn

and I'm wanting a DD/lg relationship.
But let me clear up what DD/lg means to me.
I actually wouldn't use the word "Daddy" in a DD/lg relationship, I'd choose Sir...because I don't want there to be any confusion that I'm looking for a father figure. Because I'm not. I have a father and live with him, and love him very much.
I'm looking for somebody who will accept that I am still child-like, and encourage me to be who I am, and not tell me to grow up, and appreciate all of the child-like things that I could do, (all of the cute things).

I don't wear diapers, as that part just doesn't appeal to me.

Do I say in my profile these kind of things about what my version of DD/lg is? Because just the other night, I was talking to somebody I met on the other side...he visited my profile several times, we talked for a bit in messages, then exchanged yahoo IDs...and I just mentioned if he saw that I said I was a little, (which is at the very top of my profile), and he said he hadn't. Then he vanished.

Is this seriously something that I need to spell out for people?

I find that regardless of what one's profile says, meeting a person and developing a relationship is a journey of exploration that is not unlikely to take both of you to a place neither of you thought possible.

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RE: So I'm a little - 6/20/2014 1:01:32 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: CrazyHarleyQuinn

and I'm wanting a DD/lg relationship.
But let me clear up what DD/lg means to me.
I actually wouldn't use the word "Daddy" in a DD/lg relationship, I'd choose Sir...because I don't want there to be any confusion that I'm looking for a father figure. Because I'm not. I have a father and live with him, and love him very much.
I'm looking for somebody who will accept that I am still child-like, and encourage me to be who I am, and not tell me to grow up, and appreciate all of the child-like things that I could do, (all of the cute things).

I don't wear diapers, as that part just doesn't appeal to me.

Do I say in my profile these kind of things about what my version of DD/lg is? Because just the other night, I was talking to somebody I met on the other side...he visited my profile several times, we talked for a bit in messages, then exchanged yahoo IDs...and I just mentioned if he saw that I said I was a little, (which is at the very top of my profile), and he said he hadn't. Then he vanished.

Is this seriously something that I need to spell out for people?

I find that regardless of what one's profile says, meeting a person and developing a relationship is a journey of exploration that is not unlikely to take both of you to a place neither of you thought possible.

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RE: So I'm a little - 6/20/2014 1:12:29 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: CrazyHarleyQuinn
Alright.
I'll quit searching...I'll take a break until like December...maybe I'll be ready by then. Besides...I am on "the hunt"...and everybody always says when you're searching, nothing of value comes up (usually).

Bummer, I think you rock.

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RE: So I'm a little - 6/20/2014 1:55:35 AM

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Wow, you're 29, 5 years older than me, and you're STILL acting like a high school bitch.
I'm so excited for the subs you'll have, because clearly you're mature enough to handle them.

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RE: So I'm a little - 6/20/2014 7:49:21 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: CrazyHarleyQuinn

quote:

ORIGINAL: GoddessManko

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ORIGINAL: CrazyHarleyQuinn

Alright.
I'll quit searching...I'll take a break until like December...maybe I'll be ready by then. Besides...I am on "the hunt"...and everybody always says when you're searching, nothing of value comes up (usually).

Bummer, I think you rock.

Wow, you're 29, 5 years older than me, and you're STILL acting like a high school bitch.
I'm so excited for the subs you'll have, because clearly you're mature enough to handle them.

I think she meant that in a nice way, OP, as in it's too bad you're planning on taking yourself off the market until year's end.

FYI, elsewhere she's said that she's 31, so 7 years older.

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RE: So I'm a little - 6/20/2014 8:03:51 AM

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*giggles* Here's hoping I don't forget my age around my thirties =p
Also...I did find a Friends with Benefits guy...and he's a Daddy. I'm actually going to visit him in December lol Finances don't allow for me to see him sooner. But I'm excited for this relationship - just so I can have my sexual frustrations taken care of =p Just until I can figure everything out on my dating side lol

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RE: So I'm a little - 6/20/2014 10:13:30 PM

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Not to sound de motivating , but you will meet a lot of odd people online. I have not personally had much success with any online dating sites. Last time I went on a date with someone I met online, she turned out to be crazy and seriously emotionally unstable. I am glad I didn't have more to do with other than that one date and thank god ophobes have a block caller feature. Lol

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