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Profile review - 6/6/2014 11:31:45 AM

Dave123123

Posts: 3
Joined: 6/16/2013
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Is it possible for a Domme to review my profile for me please? I don't get a lot of luck on here!

Thanks,

Dave

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RE: Profile review - 6/6/2014 12:04:55 PM

igor2003

Posts: 1718
Joined: 1/1/2004
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I'm not a domme, so I hope you don't mind if I throw in my two cents.

I get the impression from the last paragraph of your profile (...I am very grateful for even an email! So, if you like what you read and it tickled something inside of you, please do get in touch.) that having posted your profile you are now hoping that femdommes will read it and come flocking to you. Well, that probably ain't gonna happen. I think that over all your profile is okay. But where your profile will help you is, you first have to write to them. If they are interested in what you wrote they will go check out your profile, THEN decide whether to write back or not.

Now, maybe I'm wrong, and maybe you are conducting an active search for finding the domme of your dreams. If so, don't just write one-liners. Give some thought to what you write and make it specific to the domme you are writing to. Unfortunately you will still get a lot of non-responses to your inquiries. There is a pervasive attitude around here that "no response is a response" despite how much time or effort you put into your message to them. But it is still going to be the well thought out, personal message that eventually WILL get a response.

Other than that, all I can say is be patient and be persistent in your search. It isn't likely to happen over night.

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RE: Profile review - 6/6/2014 12:19:51 PM

Miyani

Posts: 248
Joined: 12/4/2007
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Honestly, your profile's not that bad. You seem sincere in what you're saying, and talking about how your main focus is pleasing others is nice.

A couple of things.

You say nothing about yourself except that you're new, and want a domme. And then you say that a LOT. Tell us something about things you like doing, especially in your vanilla life. Pets, hobbies, things you're passionate about that we can engage you on. And we know that you're new, but tell us what you think you'd like to do for us. And keep it to things that make our lives easier and more pleasant. What are you good at? What has made you a good boyfriend in the past?

Be careful of going overboard. Politeness and respect is great. But treat dommes like people, not like these fantastic beings that deserve pedestals and sacrifices. We're human. I promise. And just like princes and movie stars enjoy the company of people who DON'T treat them like princes and movie stars, sometimes we just want to be able to have a conversation, dangit!

Generally, though, well done. You're thinking with the right head. Make sure your opening messages respond to the lady's profile, and what she says she wants, and I'd say your chances are pretty good.

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RE: Profile review - 6/11/2014 5:42:56 AM

pleasemsbliss

Posts: 18
Joined: 8/23/2013
Status: offline

Yes and also, what's up with your picture?
It's unclear whether you are a cross-dresser (hard limit for me, and for some other lifestyle Dommes). It's true that the only way to discern among submissives online is to find out about who they are in their vanilla life. So the more info you have the better, but in the end it's your call to contact women since (lifestyle) Dominant women generally speaking don't tend to contact men, since we get so many messages all the time. That tends to be the first newbie shock: there just aren't that many dommes out there.
I guess we'd be more helpful if you told us what your strategy has been so we can determine what has "not been working" and why.

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RE: Profile review - 6/11/2014 7:32:03 AM

angelikaJ