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LunaBlu3 -> can I be playful/cheeky (6/13/2014 7:55:49 AM)

So I'm a 22 year old female. I'm fairly confident, quite driven in my vanilla life and I like to have fun. To those who I click with I am a very submissive person. I have the desire to be dominated and have my limits pushed to please someone else. However along with it I am quite playful. I am always respectful, but if I have a connection with someone I like to push my luck a little to find out where the boundaries are. I'm not talking being rude or impolite, just slightly cheeky and disobedient. It's just who I am and it shines through even into my kink persona. I have spoken to a few people at munches who say they enjoy a challenge from their sub, and it shows personality, equally I have spoken to some who see the slightest hint of disobedience as disrespect and enjoy hugely subservient subs. Just curious to get some opinions!



angelikaJ -> RE: can I be playful/cheeky (6/13/2014 9:02:12 AM)

[My] Master does not enjoy disobedience.
But then again, punishment is not an objective for us.

Funishment is another matter, although we haven't done much of that.

For me, spankings are a reward and actual punishment is rare.
And for me, there is a big difference between the sweet sting of a good girl spanking and one for actual punishment.



SeekingTrinity -> RE: can I be playful/cheeky (6/13/2014 9:03:46 AM)

~FRing it~

I think you will probably find that the answers you receive here will match what you have been given at the munches you have attended. It's really going to depend on the D as to whether or not something like that would fly. For me personally, I don't like it. It feels too much like the sub is attempting to manipulate and drive my reactions or actions. But again, this is just me. I don't presume to speak for all D-types.



DarkSteven -> RE: can I be playful/cheeky (6/13/2014 9:05:24 AM)

Tasha and I tease the hell out of each other.

I once explained to her that, as a submissive, she is not legally permitted to enter into contracts. Only subcontracts.

At one party, I told the people there that my usual punishment for her was to tell her jokes and leave off the punch lines. She replied, "Sir, isn't that what you do anyway?"



LunaBlu3 -> RE: can I be playful/cheeky (6/13/2014 9:16:18 AM)

That's a very good point. Something I enjoy so much can't really be classed as punishment, and what I have experienced so far can only be considered as fairly gentle.

Makes sense that a punishment would be something I don't like or that irritates me. I suppose to an extent I do push my luck to get a reaction, but that's mainly because of the relationship I have with my gf/Domme, and sometimes it takes a little pushing.

I can appreciate with those less amateur than us, who have set clear rules and guidelines with what's acceptable between them, being disobedient then is more like a betrayal of trust then anything else.



InHisHeart -> RE: can I be playful/cheeky (6/13/2014 12:54:04 PM)

Master would not like it. Disobeying him would be challenging his authority, testing him. I know where his boundaries are and I know what I will get if I try to push them.



FieryOpal -> RE: can I be playful/cheeky (6/13/2014 2:15:19 PM)

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However along with it I am quite playful.... I am always respectful, but if I have a connection with someone I like to push my luck a little to find out where the boundaries are. I'm not talking being rude or impolite, just slightly cheeky and disobedient....


Your playfulness is part of your personality, as it is with mine as well. Cheekiness and disobedience are a whole other thing. There's some latitude with cheekiness, because that can be pulled off with jesting instead of with sass. Being sassy-mouthed and disrespectful usually go together, and I won't tolerate it. Being willfully disobedient is a zero-tolerance zone. You should watch out that you don't get perceived to be a "bratty" sub, because I don't believe there are many Dominants who will go for that.

I had one sub who mistook my playfulness for not having to take me seriously as his Mistress after just a few months. Not a smart move on his part. My last sub was prone to lean on the serious side, but I was able to get him loosened up to where we could joke around with another, and yet he was careful not to show any disrespectfulness. It sounds to me that you would be better suited with a Domme who has a good sense of humor, but who will be strict with you when you need to be kept in line, otherwise you might be tempted to take advantage of her kindness. If you already have this kind of relationship with your Mistress, then that's great, but make sure you aren't crossing over the line or cause her to feel her authority is being usurped.

[Edited for gender]



shiftyw -> RE: can I be playful/cheeky (6/19/2014 1:14:47 PM)

I don't really identify as a "sub" or "slave" and certainly not 24/7 but...I'm cheeky as shit.
Sarcasm is a trait I like in myself. I make sure to be with D types whose fragile ego's won't be wounded by sarcastic comment I make.

I've found it depends on the D. Personally- I can't be serious all the time. Its so much...work. We tease and mess with one another all the time and I think its one of my favorite aspects of our relationship.



FluidandFlame -> RE: can I be playful/cheeky (6/21/2014 7:35:23 AM)

It depends on your relationship and your partner.

Some of us like cheeky subs and slaves, of course situation dependent. While others might not like that quirk so much.

~Flame



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