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Which is more satisfying to a Domme anyway? - 6/16/2014 10:44:32 PM   
CuriousAboutYou


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Status: offline 		I have these feelings which I can't ignore and when I try to learn more about them, I just get confused.
Which is more satisfying most times to a Domme?
Strapon where she doesn't have sensations but has power.
Or dildo mouth gag, where she has sensations but I do all the work.

Before you answer, please realize I've never done ANY of this before.
I just have these strange urges so I don't even know what I am yet.
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RE: Which is more satisfying to a Domme anyway? - 6/17/2014 12:48:00 AM   
AthenaSurrenders


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Status: offline 		You forgot option three: all women are different and like different things.

Call me old fashioned, but I like a bit of penis-in-vagina. Some women are less interested in penetration and would rather have oral. Others will be turned off by the idea of any sort of anal play.

Thing is, domination doesn't have to be a one-shot thing. There's no reason you can't do a bit of everything, so there's no point stressing about which is best.

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RE: Which is more satisfying to a Domme anyway? - 6/17/2014 1:34:34 AM   
piggylez


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Status: offline 		Although, I am a Switch Female, something that I have observed from switch/sub friends is that they are so fixated on all the physical tasks that they may offer a Dominant. Which is absolutely fine and dandy, you should have a good sense of yourself and capabilities. But on the other hand, I think you should take a moment or three to observe the perspective Dominant and see if what you have to offer fits in with their likes and desires.

It could be said so many different ways, but I think that it always hold true that it's about "different strokes for different folks." I hope I do make some sense. All in all, we all seek something different. If your submission is a gift, then maybe you should think about how you offer your submission while keeping in mind that the Dominant is probably/could possibly observing the same. best wishes to you and your ventures!

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RE: Which is more satisfying to a Domme anyway? - 6/17/2014 4:46:58 AM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		With women, asking which activity they'd like is barking up the wrong tree. They relate to people, not activities. They'd rather do an activity they don't care for with someone they like, than an activity they like with someone they don't care for.

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RE: Which is more satisfying to a Domme anyway? - 6/17/2014 5:58:24 AM   
CuriousAboutYou


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Status: offline 		I get it that everyone is different but that tells me nothing that is useful that I can do anything about.
For example, I went looking for toys to buy but I have to know if a strapon or a mouth gag is better since I can't afford these prices.
They are really high you know.

And, I have my own desires but that is mostly to make her whoever she is happy.
Last thing I want is an epic fail but I can't even ask my mains because they wouldn't understand nothing.


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RE: Which is more satisfying to a Domme anyway? - 6/17/2014 6:03:33 AM   
thishereboi


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Status: offline 		The most satisfying for me is the one who can clean a house without me having to follow around and supervise. The one that can see that something needs to be done and not have to be told to do it before taking care of the problem. Can't answer on the sexual part because I like a lot of variety and the answer will change depending on my mood. But I will tell you if the only thing they are interested in is getting off, they probably won't be around long enough to find out.

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RE: Which is more satisfying to a Domme anyway? - 6/17/2014 6:20:37 AM   
AthenaSurrenders


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ORIGINAL: CuriousAboutYou

I get it that everyone is different but that tells me nothing that is useful that I can do anything about.
For example, I went looking for toys to buy but I have to know if a strapon or a mouth gag is better since I can't afford these prices.
They are really high you know.

And, I have my own desires but that is mostly to make her whoever she is happy.
Last thing I want is an epic fail but I can't even ask my mains because they wouldn't understand nothing.




Honestly, neither. I'd rather buy toys with a partner than him build up his own collection. Call me paranoid, but things that touch bodily fluids are a one-relationship use so I want to pick them out with him so we both know they are fresh.

Besides, it doesn't matter if 99 out of 100 dommes prefer strap ons - you could buy one and then get together with the one domme who hates them. Or only likes a certain style. Or is too big/small for a good fit on the one you picked. Do you see what I mean?

So buy something if you really want to experiment with it yourself, otherwise save your pennies until you have someone to buy with.

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RE: Which is more satisfying to a Domme anyway? - 6/17/2014 6:24:34 AM   
thishereboi


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ORIGINAL: CuriousAboutYou

I get it that everyone is different but that tells me nothing that is useful that I can do anything about.
For example, I went looking for toys to buy but I have to know if a strapon or a mouth gag is better since I can't afford these prices.
They are really high you know.

And, I have my own desires but that is mostly to make her whoever she is happy.
Last thing I want is an epic fail but I can't even ask my mains because they wouldn't understand nothing.





I honestly don't see how anyone is going to be able to help you with that. Even if you could get a majority to say "I perfer strapons" there are hundreds of styles of strapons out there and although many may make the claim "one size fits all" they really don't. And you are correct, most of them are very expensive. Perhaps you should wait until you find someone to use it on you and then offer to buy one. And by this I mean after you have established a relationship. Don't bring the catalog to the first meet.

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RE: Which is more satisfying to a Domme anyway? - 6/17/2014 6:28:38 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: CuriousAboutYou

I get it that everyone is different but that tells me nothing that is useful that I can do anything about.
For example, I went looking for toys to buy but I have to know if a strapon or a mouth gag is better since I can't afford these prices.
They are really high you know.

And, I have my own desires but that is mostly to make her whoever she is happy.
Last thing I want is an epic fail but I can't even ask my mains because they wouldn't understand nothing.


Seriously fella, you've been watching too much FemDom porn. You don't even know whether a Dominant woman will want to use a strap-on or a dildo gag. Do you have any idea what type or size belt harness she would use, what size and kind of dildo she prefers?

You are way putting the cart before the horse. You don't find any advice given as helpful because you have your head up your arse, and you sorely need a reality check. We are not your kink delivery system. What makes you think you are entitled to have sex with a Domme in the first place? You have to earn that place and that right, usually among other subs, which she may or may not be having sexual relations with.

You don't get to dictate what your so-called submission priorities are. This is NOT submission. This is total b.s. You have anywhere from 30 or more other male "submissives" to compete with for the attention of a Dominant woman. Guys like you who have a written script to follow have to pay to get your fetish fantasies fulfilled, but guess what? You're still not going to get the fantasy sex you're hankering for because pro-Dommes don't offer sexual services, only role-playing "Dominatrix" call girls do, and they don't do this for free. You have to be in an intimate relationship just as you would with any other woman; and at your age, you probably don't know shite about winning a woman over, much less being a decent boyfriend.

I'm giving you no-nonsense advice because you need a wake-up call. You're nowhere near ready to take the next step in the right direction. Get out to a local munch with a TNG-The Next Generation BDSM group and unplug your ears, and stop polluting your brain with fantasy porn which in no way, shape or form resembles real life.

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RE: Which is more satisfying to a Domme anyway? - 6/17/2014 7:26:41 AM   
thompsonx


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Status: offline 		stop polluting your brain with fantasy porn which in no way, shape or form resembles real life.


Must you suck all the joy out of my life?

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RE: Which is more satisfying to a Domme anyway? - 6/17/2014 9:59:58 AM   
thompsonx


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Status: offline 		Don't bring the catalog to the first meet.

At my age a sample case might be more appropriate.

< Message edited by thompsonx -- 6/17/2014 10:00:38 AM >

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RE: Which is more satisfying to a Domme anyway? - 6/17/2014 11:43:44 AM   
MissToYouRedux


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Status: offline 		Asking questions is a good thing, op, but you'll probably get more useful information if you don't limit our answers.

For the record, I'm a "neither" as well.

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