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feminize me - 6/19/2014 2:14:14 AM   
sirsub91


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Status: offline 		What would be the best way to go about finding a lady to feminize me, dress me up and teach me how to be in touch with my feminine side?
This has alway been a fantasy. Sex isnt even sought after here, i just want to be trained to be fem, and maybe even serve her.
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RE: feminize me - 6/19/2014 2:47:26 AM   
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RE: feminize me - 6/19/2014 2:59:55 AM   
sirsub91


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Status: offline 		Sorry, sir, but this is a job for the truely superior gender.

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RE: feminize me - 6/19/2014 3:12:57 AM   
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What would be the best way to go about finding a lady to feminize me.

Well first, you have to find a woman that you are compatible with in areas outside of your fantasy. You know, like
dating, etc. It isn't as though you can walk up to a stranger and ask this of them, and I don't imagine many women
would cater to your fantasy without there being something in it for them, like a fulfilling relationship.

Of course, you could always pay someone to be your fetish delivery fantasy woman.

In the event there are women looking for exactly what you are asking for, they would have a better chance of
finding you if you changed the bit in your profile from Signification to Sissification.
Those darned phones and their spell check!

Best of luck to you.

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RE: feminize me - 6/19/2014 4:19:26 AM   
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Status: offline 		You start by being an awesome person and getting to know a woman until she likes you enough to want to join in. It could be a romantic partner, fuck buddy or friend, but pretty much no women will be interested in it unless they really think you're great as a person. Step two is making sure that you don't make the whole relationship about your kink. Make sure you are capable of talking about other things and doing the stuff that makes her happy.

There are some women into sissification but it is an overwhelmingly male interest. So it's not likely that you'll find a woman who is so excited by the prospect of feminizing you that's all she wants from the relationship. It might be that she wants a fun shopping partner, a lover, someone to go dancing with.... or payment. If waiting to find someone and building the relationship seems more than you can stand, there are professionals out there who will be willing to do this with you.

Get to know women, don't lead with your kink, and don't be pushy. You say no sex, but I assume this is sexual for you? Because I'd be quite happy to go shopping with a male friend for heels or teach him how to properly put on eyeliner, but it would be in the same sense I'd do it with a female friend. In other words, if you made me feel like I was serving your boner, it would be out. I'd have to be in an intimate relationship to be interested in that.

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RE: feminize me - 6/19/2014 4:58:24 AM   
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Sorry, sir, but this is a job for the truely superior gender.

That's a bit of a myopic and slanderous PoV if I may say.
Making such a sweeping and biased statement is liable to put people's backs up.
You may think they are the 'superior' gender, many will disagree with you.

Given your question, there are probably just as many 'qualified' and experienced sissyboys out there that could teach some females a thing or two.

That said, as per the other replies - be an awesome person first and treat the others as people rather than a one-way fetish delivery system. Either that or empty your wallet to a Pro-Domme.



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RE: feminize me - 6/19/2014 5:02:41 AM   
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Status: offline 		I am a prodomme, but when I was strictly a lifestyle domme, I always loved feminization. It is like a CINDERELLA story with a twist. I love make overs. I just ADORE and am THRILLED by the transformation. If you are a cross dresser, you can call a local sex store that also sells clothes and ask if they are receptive to cross dressers. I work at an adult alternative boutique in Cambridge, MA and CDs are definitely my specialty. Check out TinaRose8 on fetlife.com She is one of my favorite customers(as in store customers,I haven't sessioned with any CDs YET, sad to say!!!)--MISTRESS NEON, Boston,MA

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RE: feminize me - 6/19/2014 10:43:23 AM   
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RE: feminize me - 6/20/2014 10:36:36 AM   
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ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders

You start by being an awesome person and getting to know a woman until she likes you enough to want to join in. It could be a romantic partner, fuck buddy or friend, but pretty much no women will be interested in it unless they really think you're great as a person. Step two is making sure that you don't make the whole relationship about your kink. Make sure you are capable of talking about other things and doing the stuff that makes her happy.

There are some women into sissification but it is an overwhelmingly male interest. So it's not likely that you'll find a woman who is so excited by the prospect of feminizing you that's all she wants from the relationship. It might be that she wants a fun shopping partner, a lover, someone to go dancing with.... or payment. If waiting to find someone and building the relationship seems more than you can stand, there are professionals out there who will be willing to do this with you.

Get to know women, don't lead with your kink, and don't be pushy. You say no sex, but I assume this is sexual for you? Because I'd be quite happy to go shopping with a male friend for heels or teach him how to properly put on eyeliner, but it would be in the same sense I'd do it with a female friend. In other words, if you made me feel like I was serving your boner, it would be out. I'd have to be in an intimate relationship to be interested in that.

sirsub91, I don't want to be one to try to discourage you from what you know you want. But I do want to prepare you in advance for rejection. I'm sure you're a fine boy, and you shouldn't take it personally. There just aren't many not-for-hire straight Dommes who are remotely interested in sissification or feminization. You'll really have to get your A game going in all aspects of your life, and being the kind of friend that others would want for a close friend. It sounds to me that your optional no-sex position is actually because you're not really interested in having sex. This would rule you out as a suitably intimate partner for a Dominant woman. Personally, I have no need for another girlfriend. This would simply not be a priority in my life. The kind of male sub that I find attractive has to be a manly man, not a man who wants to share my clothing and takes more time primping and getting himself ready than I do.

You will have to be patient in your quest. It's doable, but please understand that what you want isn't what most women want from a man. If we did, it would be far easier to turn to other women instead.

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RE: feminize me - 6/20/2014 8:32:33 PM   
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What would be the best way to go about finding a lady to feminize me, dress me up and teach me how to be in touch with my feminine side?
This has alway been a fantasy. Sex isnt even sought after here, i just want to be trained to be fem, and maybe even serve her.


Do a search. I'm sure you know how.

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RE: feminize me - 6/21/2014 9:05:57 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: sirsub91

What would be the best way to go about finding a lady to feminize me, dress me up and teach me how to be in touch with my feminine side?
This has alway been a fantasy. Sex isnt even sought after here, i just want to be trained to be fem, and maybe even serve her.


You say you're looking for this woman to do things for you as it will fulfill your fantasy; you list what you want her to do, you take sex off the table, then say you will "maybe" even serve her. What exactly would this woman get out of being with you? You seem to be iffy on giving her anything other than the joy of having her give you exactly what you want, how you want it. Does this sound like a good deal to you? Would you do it yourself?

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RE: feminize me - 6/21/2014 9:15:22 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: sirsub91

What would be the best way to go about finding a lady to feminize me, dress me up and teach me how to be in touch with my feminine side?
This has alway been a fantasy. Sex isnt even sought after here, i just want to be trained to be fem, and maybe even serve her.



Open your wallet and hire a pro because you aren't offering anything of value in return.

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RE: feminize me - 6/21/2014 6:09:38 PM   
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In 10 years you will know the answer to the question. This is a male driven impulse, and not a female driven one. That's what makes the project complicated. The sub question you need to ask yourself now is: what's in it for her?

Luckily there are women who who are kinky, game, and experimental. Depending on your approach -- you can connect with this kind of female and explore stuff that works for you.

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RE: feminize me - 6/21/2014 10:24:36 PM   
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Status: offline 		Damn I was 89 days into the challenge and then I saw this post.

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RE: feminize me - 6/22/2014 2:12:13 AM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		I know one man who did it, sort of. OtterSwim.

He did it differently, though. He didn't need his woman to feminize him. He was willing to do that himself. He just needed a woman to accept that part of him.

Do a search for his writings and you'll see how he did it. His writings show a blend of intelligence and cheerfulness, and genuine interest in what other people are writing.

Too many crossdressers are driven by their own fetish. In his case, it wasn't so much a fetish as it was realizing a part of himself. And he's not fixated on sharing his dressing with someone else, but sharing all of himself, dressing included.

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RE: feminize me - 6/22/2014 7:55:57 AM   
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Status: offline 		I was reading a sex-kink feed / tumblr thingie (whatever it was - a quasi blog maybe) and there was this treatise there on getting your partner into kinky stuff.

(1) Introduce the subject as something you want and are interested in. State what your interest is, why you have it, and how you feel about it. (In this case, dressing.)

(2) Do not expect the other person to embrace it.

(3) Give them time to think about it.

(4) Respect their response (assuming it's not an asshole response.)

The author pointed out a semantical thing about personal kinks.

(a) Shame --- this is a worry about what others will think of you.

(b) Guilt -- this is a self acceptance thing.

The one goal in Kink revelation / sharing is to at least overcome (a) shame. To learn that another person will accept you - even if they don't want to share and participate in it. Men have to be particularly brave about this with women regarding this particular subject. There's no real equivalent for women and so they can lack empathy and be particularly judgmental.

Game of Thrones last episode had an exchange between Brianne and Aria -- "masculine" women who want to wear Armor, brandish swords, and become a Knight (Brianne) or an assassin (Aria.)

What helped Aria was that her father accepted her interest, gave her a sword, and offered her instruction. She then had a series of male mentors. She had to assume the role of a boy for a time. She also stands in contrast to Sansa -- a classic girly girl.

Brianne and Aria had fathers who helped them out -- crucial acceptance and guidance that helped launch them forward. I've been in this forum for about 10 years. Cant' say I recall one woman who was much of guiding light here for any man in this regard. As you note with Otter, a man must find his own way here. It is not easy. It is also socially isolating.

The old default here was to ridicule and chase CDs away or give a response similar to post #12. Moderation here improved the bigotry men experienced -- but still, there are few if any guiding lights. You have to really search for them.

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RE: feminize me - 7/14/2014 12:05:58 PM   
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Status: offline 		@OP Your problem is that you are all about yourself. Your post is unbelievably selfish. You end your post with "And maybe even serve her." Newsflash buddy, most women don't want to spend an afternoon JUST dressing you up. If a lady takes time out of her day to help you, the least you could do is serve her for the afternoon.

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RE: feminize me - 7/14/2014 12:38:01 PM   
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@OP Your problem is that you are all about yourself. Your post is unbelievably selfish. You end your post with "And maybe even serve her." Newsflash buddy, most women don't want to spend an afternoon JUST dressing you up. If a lady takes time out of her day to help you, the least you could do is serve her for the afternoon.

I think this is the most common complaint that I have heard about sissyCDs. They can be incredibly narcissistic. Not all, of course. Even my CD friend and I don't do things together very often because all he wants to do is shop and obsess about how *passable* he is.
Not one of my female friends is as self-obsessed as he is, and yet he is in everyday life an executive who pilots his own plane, has profiles as a never-been-married, available-for-LTR professional man on a couple of vanilla dating sites.
Yeah, he's about as available to make room for a significant other in his life as Dorian Gray was.

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RE: feminize me - 7/14/2014 3:29:04 PM   
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RE: feminize me - 7/15/2014 8:17:20 AM   
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What would be the best way to go about finding a lady to feminize me, dress me up and teach me how to be in touch with my feminine side?
This has alway been a fantasy. Sex isnt even sought after here, i just want to be trained to be fem, and maybe even serve her.


You have caught a little bit of undeserved flack for asking a simple question. If you are thin skinned we will cure that affliction
I have a friend with the exact same problem as you except that she is a girl. She grew up tomboish...big soccer phreque... lived for the game...boys were just long haired gurlz without the hole in the middle. She was past 21 when she figgured out that that hole had more uses than to pee out of. Her wardrobe consisted of shorts and levis,sweat shirts and tank tops. The only bras she owned were sports bras. When she discovered bois she was clueless as to how to dress or undress... how to put on war paint or mow the lawn. All of her g/f refused to help because this woman is pretty attractive and they were not interested in allowing that sort of talent into any game they were playing.
Her solution was to hook up, as friends, with a cross dressing gay guy that took her to v/s and showed her what to buy and how to put it on and how to display it to her best advantage... and oh yes how to take it off.
That you would offer service in return for make up and clothing advice is only fair...but do you have any other talents that you might also bring to the table...computer geekness, motorhead geekness or what ever? Make your offer for fair compensation extensive enough to merit consideration. Plese keep in mind that I am 70 years old and have made all of your mistakes so many times it hurts to remember.

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