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I think I am crazy - 6/22/2014 3:30:00 PM   
StrongSub4U76


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Status: offline 		If any of you have read my other post you will also think I am crazy. I have decided that I was trying to hard too fast on finding a Dom or relationship, so thought it would be better to explore and learn more about my kinks with just some type of play partner(s). Now I have clearly stated in my profile, and in my last tread that I do not like to share and am not poly even with just playing. But from the time I started coming on this site, I keep finding myself drawn to one profile, one person that is in fact married. Yup the things he has wrote and pictures I see make me HOT and I can not help but think a great time could be had by all. Of course I am not so crazy to think that if I let him know he would want to even play with me.

I know that this makes me seem a bit crazy. I know it might seem as me being wishy washy. No I am not thinking about stealing anyone away from anyone. I could not live with myself doing something like.

Just do not know what to do. I am sure their are other people here that has all their buttons pushed like this, right? Please someone say yes.
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RE: I think I am crazy - 6/22/2014 5:08:51 PM   
InHisHeart


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Status: offline 		Since this guy is married, do you know if he and his wife play with others or are they monogamous? If they do play with others, you don't want to share so having you and he as each other's only play partners I don't see as an option.

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I am sure their are other people here that has all their buttons pushed like this, right? Please someone say yes.


I've run across some Dom/sadists that I find interesting by their posts or profile. Master pushes all my buttons very well and my mind just doesn't go off into fantasy land about others. If I weren't taken and very happy with Master, I could see reading some posts/profiles and them pushing my buttons.

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RE: I think I am crazy - 6/22/2014 5:40:27 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Yeah, sometimes you can be attracted to someone where it won't work.

Just use this to identify what are the traits he exhibits that are so attractive to you. And then look for guys in the future that also have those same traits.

The other thing that may be happening, is that when someone is in a good relationship, their needs are met, and they are happy - then that happiness of theirs is very attractive to others. It doesn't mean that if in five years you meet him and he's divorced that you would find him nearly as desirable. Even though he would be the same person, because he would no longer be that very happy person he now is.

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RE: I think I am crazy - 6/22/2014 5:45:47 PM   
StrongSub4U76


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Status: offline 		I get what you are saying. There is a different mindset that I have with FWB, if it is understood that is all that would ever happen, so there would not be the jealousy issue. In a real relationship, the whole not sharing thing would be in play. Because I would still like to have a relationship one day, I put only single men apply warning. Because I want that option of something developing.

The whole point being I guess it sometimes, someone can come along and make you want to throw your rule-book out the window, for a least a night or two.

Of course this person does not even know I am alive as far as I know, so mostly just talking.

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RE: I think I am crazy - 6/22/2014 5:49:51 PM   
StrongSub4U76


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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Yeah, sometimes you can be attracted to someone where it won't work.

Just use this to identify what are the traits he exhibits that are so attractive to you. And then look for guys in the future that also have those same traits.

The other thing that may be happening, is that when someone is in a good relationship, their needs are met, and they are happy - then that happiness of theirs is very attractive to others. It doesn't mean that if in five years you meet him and he's divorced that you would find him nearly as desirable. Even though he would be the same person, because he would no longer be that very happy person he now is.


These are very good points thank you! Of course it might just be that I haven't had any in so long I don't care anymore

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