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AthenaSurrenders -> RE: My First Real Caning (6/26/2014 1:39:12 PM)
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Um yeh, what Gauge said.
I can't even give you close to a reasonable answer. Your pain tolerance, your mood on the day, the type of cane, the thickness, the length, the type of swings, the rest time in between, how well warmed up you are, whether it's a type of pain that suits you, whether you are prone to sub space, whether you're in a comfortable position, the part(s) of the body being caned, the dominant's skill, and of course the force all change this. You can play with a light cane while well warmed up and have 100 quick taps with little length of swing or force and it be a breeze. You could take one heavy hit and safeword out.
Go to some demos and watch some public play, see how different it is for everyone and what styles they use.
Discipline or not is irrelevant. In fact, it's a terrible idea to use an untested implement for the first time during a discipline session since emotions are heightened and communication and body language might be hampered, meaning more likely to accidentally go too far. Anyone who wanted to give you a severe caning for the first time as discipline is probably not a safe dominant to play with.
My first was probably 20 strokes, but we are NOT talking a public-school style full arm swing here. We started with a short length for ease of control (which I would definitely recommend if the dominant hasn't had a ton of experience - canes are pretty solid implements, you do not want them to miss their target and do you some damage). It was in a relaxed and playful setting, which helped. I was pleasantly surprised - I am a huge wimp but it turns out that it's a type of pain that suits me so I could handle it pretty well. I think we've gone past a hundred maybe twice? And that was with a degree of gradual warm up and YEARS of playing together - I was confident in his technical skills, he was confident in knowing what I could take and we're both good at communicating.
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