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What went Right? - 7/10/2006 1:57:47 PM

ArtimisBlack

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It was recently brought to my attention that too much focus on bad experiences not only distorts things in general, it also may be very discouraging to people who are just starting out. So on to the good (and yes I know there is a place to post good experiences, but it specifically asks for only CM experiences). What was the *best* BDSM experience you ever had? What made it great? Was it the person you were with, what you did together, or something else?

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RE: What went Right? - 7/10/2006 2:00:27 PM

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My best BDSM experience was with the first "REAL" dom I played with (after the SOB noted in the <bad experience> post... I met him and we talked about the fact that I wanted to know where my pain tolerance level really was since previous dude never really ever came close...

I think I ended up enduring a 2 1/2 hour long spanking and was in subspace for 2 days after.. woohoooo... He and I are still friends <grin>

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RE: What went Right? - 7/10/2006 2:02:16 PM

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Saturday night. I was set on fire. The end. I'm obsessed with fire, and to have a great friend who knows what he's doing to just tell me to lay down, yeah that rocked my world! I giggled a little too much at first though. Real simple, to find a favorite of anything is fun. The end.

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RE: What went Right? - 7/10/2006 2:05:46 PM

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I found a degree of intimacy that has proven addictive.

I learned that different lifestyles can seem strange, but can also be healthy.

And I learned that your reality will be what you make of it, and that dreams are the gateway.

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RE: What went Right? - 7/10/2006 2:54:38 PM

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When I decided to have an affair with a man who had been subtley eyeing me for months in an organization to which we both belong, and on our fist "date" I mentioned (holding my breath) that I liked to be spanked, and he said: "Oh, so you're interested in bdsm. Funny, I specialize in that." ....Yes!!! I said to myself.

- Susan

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RE: What went Right? - 7/10/2006 3:01:40 PM

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That incredible moment when you are kneeling in front of the one/ones you love and your entire body/brain/heart/soul suddenly realizes"Master or Mistress".

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RE: What went Right? - 7/10/2006 3:40:09 PM

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One of my good experiences was my first taste of the singletail. That rocked for me. I love it. It was the first time I'd bottomed for 2 Doms. The whole night (until midnight) was full of paddles, floggers, canes, singletails and more and everyone there was laughing and having a great time all around. Small crowd, maybe 10 of us there, but just a total blast and a really wonderful time with some great people.

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RE: What went Right? - 7/10/2006 4:12:54 PM

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My first will always stand out as virtually perfect. He found just the right mixture of domination, bondage, and light S&M. I could not have asked for any better. The mixture of fear of the unknown, a new person, and steadily building trust as the night wore on was hot as hell. At some point I totally relaxed into and just floated as he guided me through whatever he chose to do.

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RE: What went Right? - 7/10/2006 4:27:13 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ArtimisBlack

What was the *best* BDSM experience you ever had? What made it great? Was it the person you were with, what you did together, or something else?

I don't have any particular BDSM experience that stands out any better than many others. But, I do have some amazing experiences that do stand out. If I was to list them it would be a very long list, so I avoid giving a list but will give some common themes in them.

One it was with someone that is significant in my life for one manner or another at the time it occurred. I have not had any play that I would consider in my best group within anyone less that significant to me. Second, I was free to be the Sadist I am with the person I played with, however, that doesn't mean that I actually exercised that sadism. The play as very unihibited and I was able to ride the energy like a surfer on the waves and take action to prolong the play and maximize our enjoyment. What I did specifically is not a common theme. What is common is that what I did generated incredible pleasure and enjoyment for those envolved. The person I played with was always responding and contributing to the play. They where not a sponge to soak up what I did.... but seeked to contribute their own self into the experience and add to it.

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RE: What went Right? - 7/10/2006 5:13:15 PM

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I met some wonderfull people who are now close friends and are priceless...

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RE: What went Right? - 7/10/2006 7:18:11 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ArtimisBlack

It was recently brought to my attention that too much focus on bad experiences not only distorts things in general, it also may be very discouraging to people who are just starting out. So on to the good (and yes I know there is a place to post good experiences, but it specifically asks for only CM experiences).

What was the *best* BDSM experience you ever had?

What made it great? Was it the person you were with, what you did together, or something else?

Hi Artimis... and all...

The best, for me, is always
the intimate human connection...
... especially if it leads to long, deep friendship.

DD

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RE: What went Right? - 7/10/2006 8:13:26 PM

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Most of them are good.. but there are two that stand out in my mind as completely incredible due to the high levels of energy in the room.

One was a clothespin zipper/needle demo that I was fortunate enough to play pin cushion/clothesline for at APEX with an incredibly cute Lady. This was about 8 or 9 years ago. There were conga drums in the background and I was just flying the whole time.

The other (here's a surprise) was a needle demo for Aton's in which I did several piercings including my first ever scalp piercing on someone. Again, it was the high energy that makes the experience so memorable and the bottom who was 'my' pin cushion for a needle corset that day just had energy oozing outta her. She was great and made my time jabbing her loads of fun. ;)

::smiles with the happy memories::

Celeste

edited to add:: The first time Himself did a figging on me.. that was pretty damn cool, too. ::chuckles::

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RE: What went Right? - 7/10/2006 8:32:04 PM

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Hmmm... all my "bad" experiences have been connected strictly to power dynamics within relationships.

Outside of those relationships - all my BDSM, specifically SM/Bondage experiences - have been really good. There have been several incredibly intense/high inducing beatings at the local dungeon, including one this past weekend. Some fantastic wax play has taken place over the years - but I positively adore wax play, and would happily get dipped in a giant vat of the stuff nightly if I could.

Probably the most memorable "good" was a few years ago. I was playing one night privately with an aquaintance here close to home, which lasted about 5 rather intense hours. Most of the night was absorbed in rather heavy genitorture, combined with flogging, cropping, and a bit of electrical play. Needless to say, I was high from the endorphines produced for a good 2 or 3 days before I finally started to come completely down from it.

Best recently (as in, the past 6 months) has without doubt been a heavy flogging/whip session given by a play partner at the local dungeon. He and I play together frequently when we're both there - and he's the only one who has ever managed to produce bruises on me that lasted more than a day or two at best. (Nope, bruises don't bother me at all.) His tri-tip quirt left some rather interesting welts on my back and butt that lasted for about 8 days before they finally faded out completely. He's a darling, wonderful man and his lady is positively Da Bomb - I adore them both in scene setting, and have really started looking forward to the nights that the local dungeon is open because of them.

I've actually had a lot more opportunity to play with a wider variety of play partners over the past couple of years - and as long as I avoid ds/ms or any other sort of power exchange dynamic, life stays very good as far as the kink goes.

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RE: What went Right? - 7/10/2006 9:40:42 PM

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Hmm, the best. The very first time I knelt before Master, presenting myself to him. I haven't been the same since.

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RE: What went Right? - 7/10/2006 11:00:40 PM

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My best happened the night after I collared someone very special. No details will be offered, but I can say I never felt anything like that particular night before or since. I've had other good ones, but nothing like that. One can always hope, though.

Bob

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