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Vacation - 7/2/2014 5:57:46 AM

k790

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Jade (my sub) is going on vacation for 10 days without me. To keep things where they should be I need some ideas for her while she is gone. I'm already going to do O control but I am looking for any other ideas. Anyone?

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RE: Vacation - 7/2/2014 7:09:25 AM

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I am owned by [my] Master.
Were I to go on vacation, I am fairly certain that He would not need to implement anything to "keep things where they should be".
I am His whether He is with me or not.
He is going on vacation in a few weeks without me.
He may assign me a task while He is away but that is more so I will be keeping myself busy, rather than asserting His authority.

Perhaps You could request her to keep a journal to document her vacation and she would share it with you when she returns?

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RE: Vacation - 7/2/2014 10:03:03 AM

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Well.... what's important and meaningful to you?

I don't believe in tasks for the sake of tasks.... if a short holiday is likely to upset the dynamic no amount of busy work will fix that, and if not, why not let her enjoy herself?

Now that said, if something is actually important to you, then it should be a no brainer. Without knowing what you care about and what the boundaries of your relationship are, it's difficult to suggest anything. Maybe you require her to wear sunscreen every day. Maybe you want a text when she turns in for the night to let you know that she's ok and thinking of you. Maybe you want her to sample as many local dishes as possible so you can recreate them together later.

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RE: Vacation - 7/2/2014 5:42:22 PM

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Way to go ace. She's been saving and planning this for an entire year and you're trying to figure out how to make it unpleasant and more stressful than her daily life. Really think she'll ever forgive you for passive aggressively punishing her for having fun?

Do things that will endear you to her instead of the opposite. If where she's staying has a spa, call up and buy her a massage. Ask her to send you funny postcards from the places she visits. Remember to buy her a pack of postcard stamps first.

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RE: Vacation - 7/3/2014 7:17:24 AM

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I'm going to assume you know each other well enough to know that she wants you to assert that level of control and that it would please you.

Do you have any rituals you could reference and have her do while she is away that would benefit both of you? I assign rituals for several things - getting dressed, showers, makeup, eating, etc. Having those rituals completed and observed over the phone or recorded on WhatsApp is a fantastic way for me to hear that ritual being completed. Very pleasing to me.

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RE: Vacation - 7/3/2014 12:00:11 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: k790

Jade (my sub) is going on vacation for 10 days without me. To keep things where they should be I need some ideas for her while she is gone. I'm already going to do O control but I am looking for any other ideas. Anyone?

Why is there a compelling need in your eyes to maintain control over her while she is away?

While my slut is on vacation the only single expectation I have for her is that she enjoy herself. I enforce that expectation by letting her enjoy herself. I have no insecurities that she is fully and wholly mine and therefore I do not need my ego stroked, ever.

I would suggest that if there is a need to keep her in line, that need springs solely from your mind and not hers and is therefore useless. The perception that you must inject yourself into her daily life in order to exercise control to prove you are dominant is an illusion. You either trust her or you do not. If you trust her, then let her go on her vacation. If you do not trust her, then you have bigger problems than attempting to maintain control over her while she is away.

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RE: Vacation - 7/3/2014 12:17:26 PM

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Meh, my guy and I go for a month or two sometimes between our time together...don't give each other tedious little tasks during these times to "keep things where they should be"...and our relationship has done nothing but increase exponentially in its strength and connection over our 2 1/2 years together so far.

Not to label, but this posting of yours seems to have a huge air of insecurity associated with it, OP. But laying that aside, why would you ask a bunch of strangers what things that you (as the "dominant" of YOUR relationship) should put in place? Doesn't that make both she and you submissive to the collective?

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