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How about the GOOD? - 7/10/2006 5:15:52 PM

babysburnin

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Ok - I'm being inquisitive. I'm getting frustrated. I'm so tired of hearing about D/s relationships gone wrong. (I personally think they weren't really true "relationships" to begin with.)

Won't someone please share about the good? I know I'm not phrasing this in the best manner to encourage responses...

It's so much easier to complain than to compliment sometimes...Any compliments due out there?

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RE: How about the GOOD? - 7/10/2006 5:48:36 PM

Mercnbeth

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quote:

ORIGINAL: babysburnin

...Won't someone please share about the good? I know I'm not phrasing this in the best manner to encourage responses...

It's so much easier to complain than to compliment sometimes...Any compliments due out there?

personally, this slave finds it much easier to compliment Master and the fantastic relationship we have, because she has no complaints about it. come to think of it, this slave is willing to bet you won't find a post here or anywhere by this slave complaining about either one!! a search on posts by Mercnbeth should turn up a few odes to the wonderfulness of Master and our relationship authored by this slave...Master has even given quite a few positive reviews Himself!!!

posts and/or replies by this slave that border on gushing:
http://www.collarchat.com/tm.asp?m=215463&mpage=1&key=Master𴦧
"Celebrating Master's Birthday"

http://www.collarchat.com/tm.asp?m=249011&mpage=3&key=blessed𽊒
"Myths of submission":
exerpt from this slave's post:

"there might be some sort of a majority, but it bothers this slave when assumptions are made that everyone's experience is ultimately one of disillusion, insistance on self-gratification, difficulty obeying or orgasming, uncontrollable episodes of disrespect, urges to lie, cheat or steal, hidden feelings of anger or resentment, weight issues, childhood abuse issues, or the desire to whine "what about meeeeee" to one's Master and if every one of those things are somehow absent, you are a "myth", a "puple-painted elephant", in need of therapy or rescue or intervention...a robot, a drone, a liar, a doormat. it isn't just this post, but there have been quite a few this slave has seen that are along the same vein.

http://www.collarchat.com/tm.asp?m=227289&mpage=2&key=happy𸲗
"Happiness, fun, commitment, D/s"

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RE: How about the GOOD? - 7/10/2006 5:51:43 PM

ShiftedJewel

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I met my husband and co-dominant on alt. I can't say it was love at first meet... but we hit it off beautifully... so beautifully that after three dates we moved in together. We were married several months later. Since then we have found twicehappy here on collarme, we collared her on Valentines day of this year and we have never been happier. Good things do happen, sometimes it just takes a lot of patience.

Jewel

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RE: How about the GOOD? - 7/10/2006 5:54:45 PM

subjected2006

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i think you phrased it fine..
you're right,
i think that there is so much talk of Super Doms and Super Subs that we dissappoint each other when we show that we are only human after all.
my ExMaster made me truly happy on so many levels
He made me feel life
i was lucky enough to find a teaching Dom
His strict behaviour codes kept me off pain pills and booze.
He made me accept myself because He accepted my imperfections.
He made me "want to be better."
The D/s that i had with Him will remain with me forever.
being "marked" is a good thing.
sometimes i felt like that one tree in the forest that the resident grizz uses to mark his territory
and sometimes i was the hydrant..(ahem)...but it's all good...
i am apparently one of the lucky ones.
because my ExDom really does know what's best for me.
i know He will always be "Master"

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RE: How about the GOOD? - 7/10/2006 6:08:44 PM

mp072004

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My primary relationship isn't a d/s relationship gone right, but it's a very happy and content relationship of two dominants. That alone should indicate that we understand the word "compromise". :) Working for happy, not waiting for idyllic, has served us well.

I find it amusing that half of us happy-relationship-posters are co-doms. I must disagree with Shifted Jewel, though. Good things don't happen--you produce good things.

Monica

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RE: How about the GOOD? - 7/10/2006 6:11:46 PM

DiurnalVampire

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If you want to hear abuot the good, allow me to gush for a moment. I am thrilled to be able to colar my boy this weekend. He was an accidental contact, brought about by a smartass response to a journal entry he had made. We started talking online nearly every day after that, where he would coplain about how little success he had finding someone worthwhile, and I had much the same luck finding someone local and worth bohering with. We had no actual interest in one another, but we were good chat partners. Eventualy, he asked me to help him with an self-inforced chastity attempt, where he wanted to try and learn control for his eventual owner. About 2 weeks after I agreed to help, he left me a message saying he got found out on campus and had t be unavailable online fora bit. I called him to make sure he wasnt in trouble, and the conversation lasted nearly 8 hours that day. (thank godness for weekend minutes)
After that he started calling every night, and it moved from 20 minute conversations to our now normal 2-3 hour ones. He had to go on a trip overseas and was completely out of touch for 3 weeks. He recently came home to me, and we are going to be seeing one another this coming weekend. Being away has made both of us realize how much we enjoy being together, evne if it is limited to the phone and internet. If al goes well, he will be coming to me permanently after he graduates.
I believe this can defiantely be counted under the "good". I had given up on finding a et that I would have enough interest in to actually care to pursue, I had settled for playmates and toys. Finding angel has been a wonderful thing, and I am looking forward to making him mine, and as far as I know he is looking just as forward to becomgin mind.
Wish us luck this weekend... there is always that tiny chance things wont go the way you planned. but I am trying to ignore that.

DV

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RE: How about the GOOD? - 7/10/2006 6:58:24 PM

thisishis

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quote:

ORIGINAL: babysburnin
................Won't someone please share about the good?.................

i haven't anything negative to share regarding the relationship, and experiences shared between my Master and i. It all started out very good, and continues to only get even better.

Here's a direct link to the thread which shares a lot of good stuff about He and i (formerly known here as cynnacent1), which you may enjoy reading: http://www.collarchat.com/tm.asp?m=31865 .

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RE: How about the GOOD? - 7/10/2006 7:04:22 PM

litleone8620

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I met Master on alt, and we've been together for 6 months. I love him with everything i am and have. He knows it, and he loves me equally.

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RE: How about the GOOD? - 7/10/2006 7:05:56 PM

Littlepita

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My Dom and I were just talking tonight at dinner about how amazed we are that we are so good together. We met online and built a relationship for 10 months before ever meeting. He came for me on my 40th birthday and took me home. It was a big risk but one we are so very glad we took. It's been 4 wonderful months and I really can't say enough good about this man. He is my everything! I love him totally, I trust him completely, and I'm learning to submit my will to his everyday. We work at being good together. We know how easy it is to take someone for granted and we are determined not to do that to each other. I have nothing but good feelings about my future with my Master.

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RE: How about the GOOD? - 7/10/2006 7:26:45 PM

babysburnin

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ok - i feel better now. I adore my Dom, I'm not alone. It's good sometimes to hear good rather than trouble.

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- Jean Anouilh

"The highest proof of virtue is to possess boundless power without abusing it."
- Lord Macaulay

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RE: How about the GOOD? - 7/10/2006 7:30:31 PM

babysburnin

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I just don't want to be happy here all by myself...that's no fun! Well - yes it is...LOL!!!

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"Love is, above all else, the gift of oneself."
- Jean Anouilh

"The highest proof of virtue is to possess boundless power without abusing it."
- Lord Macaulay

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RE: How about the GOOD? - 7/10/2006 7:30:56 PM

sleazybutterfly

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Yes...don't faint..even I have a good story or two..lol

My first Dom.. he and I met on alt.. and talked a bit. We met in person for a play.. it was a great experience for me and I think he enjoyed it quite a lot also. He and I are still in contact to this day.. he has been a mentor and friend to me.

I also met several friends on here. I will probably meet some of them in person at some point. We have been thru a lot together...and we know we are there for each other any time.

~Andrea~

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Life is not a popularity contest, it's better to be hated for what you believe, than loved for a lie.

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RE: How about the GOOD? - 7/10/2006 7:43:01 PM

juliaoceania

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I adore my Dom too, and no there is not one drama I can see waiting to happen on the horizon. I cannot say anything negative, although if I ever did have something to say it would be to him directly and not to anyone on CM. I understand people need to talk to others about their problems sometimes.... I just am not so open about mine, I have my best buddy Irish if my thoughts are cloudy, and I end up talking to him if they are stormy.

My situation is brand new, we have only been dating a couple of months, I just got back from visiting him for a couple of weeks. I was only supposed to be there for a few of days... grinning. I didn't want to leave. He lives about 5 hours and a half hours away from me. I think I would still be there if my son wasn't missing me! I told him today I want to go back where the cool breezes blow, but mostly I just want to be where he is... ain't new romance fun?

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Reality has a well known Liberal Bias ~ Stephen Colbert

Great minds discuss ideas; Average minds discuss events; Small minds discuss people. Eleanor Roosevelt

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RE: How about the GOOD? - 7/10/2006 8:24:02 PM

ownedgirlie

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~ Grin ~

If I start, I might not ever stop. I am totally in love with him and enamored by him. He is my purpose and reason. I just told my brother today, He makes me feel like the world is mine.

Like Beth, I have never said a disparaging remark about him in all my gazillion posts here. And I never will. He is indeed the hand that feeds me and I would kiss that hand all the live-long day if I could. He is the first person in my life who ever cared if I was happy. He has made me strong by pushing hard. He has taught me to stand strong and steady (okay I do wobble at times, but we're getting there), and to have confidence and to feel joy and love. He makes me giggle and laugh and squirm and melt, and one look has me falling to the floor at his feet. He corrals me back in when my mind strays or I get confused. He disciplines me when I need a shorter leash. He ignites my spirit. I do adore him...

Well see I started. I could go on...and on...but you get the idea....

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RE: How about the GOOD? - 7/10/2006 8:48:54 PM

babysburnin

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Thanks.

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-Babysburnin

"Love is, above all else, the gift of oneself."
- Jean Anouilh

"The highest proof of virtue is to possess boundless power without abusing it."
- Lord Macaulay

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RE: How about the GOOD? - 7/10/2006 8:56:18 PM

babysburnin

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Thanks for the smile. All the best...my love is "relatively" new, but seems like we've know each other forever. I'm not naive...it's really like that! I laugh at myself! At 40, should a smart woman think such things? Who made the rules anyway... I know what I know, and what I feel. As long as I am smiling....

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-Babysburnin

"Love is, above all else, the gift of oneself."
- Jean Anouilh

"The highest proof of virtue is to possess boundless power without abusing it."
- Lord Macaulay

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RE: How about the GOOD? - 7/10/2006 9:00:57 PM

justheather

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I met my dom here.
I adore him.
He adores me.
Neither of us adores drama.
Life is good.

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I want the scissors to be sharp
And the table perfectly level
When you cut me out of my life
And paste me in that book you always carry.
-Billy Collins

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RE: How about the GOOD? - 7/11/2006 5:08:49 AM

firstsub

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Recently this slave has moved to live closer to her Master. This is her first full time slave experience with a Master that has made har dreams cum true. After years of searching and dealing with doms that seek out those that are in experienced. a smart sub can use those experiences to learn alot about themselves. i had met some kind , loving, teaching doms along the way and they had done a lot to help me. Yet none allow this slave to grow and mature as this Master does.
Master is loved.

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RE: How about the GOOD? - 7/11/2006 5:43:22 AM

SirCumsSlut

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quote:

ORIGINAL: babysburnin

Ok - I'm being inquisitive. I'm getting frustrated. I'm so tired of hearing about D/s relationships gone wrong. (I personally think they weren't really true "relationships" to begin with.)

Won't someone please share about the good? I know I'm not phrasing this in the best manner to encourage responses...

It's so much easier to complain than to compliment sometimes...Any compliments due out there?

Sir and I met through a mutual friend while I was visiting in Chattanooga back in 1996. In January of '97 Sir arrived here in PA and by February I was not only happily collared but also engaged. Sir and I just celebrated our 8th wedding anniversary and we have been together almost 10 years. We have two beautiful unmentionables and are getting ready to move back to his home state of Alabama.

Now we did have our rough times for about 6 months back in 2001, but even with those rough times, he was always my Sir. And those rough times brought us closer together as Sir and slave and as husband and wife. We never gave up on our committment to each other.

I would not change anything over the past 9 1/2 years. And we both have found(at the ripe ages of 43 and 49) that we are happier each and every day. We continue to grow and learn from each other and the world around us.

That is my "how about the GOOD" and I am stickin' to it.......LOL

< Message edited by SirCumsSlut -- 7/11/2006 5:46:30 AM >

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RE: How about the GOOD? - 7/11/2006 5:50:32 AM

gardenbluebird

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i met my Master on alt late last year. It has been a wonderful relationship and i cherish the times we have together. i love the fact that we have similar careers and personalities. He is more outgoing and dominant than me, but the similarities are more striking than the differences. It really does seem that we are flip sides of the same coin.

i had been through a hard time in a previous relationship and He went out of his way to make me feel safe. He has always taken his time. He never rushed me, never pressured me. It didn't start off as Master/slave, but one day fairly early on i started calling him Master and He started calling me slave. It seems so natural and right that i wouldn't want it any other way.

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