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Maybe this is a dumb question..... - 7/20/2014 6:35:29 AM

smileforme50

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Why do people check you off as "Favorites"....so that they show up on your "Admirers" page.....

.....and then never make contact with you?

Someone told me once that he does it as a way to keep track of which profiles he has already seen and decided he wasn't interested. But if you decide that you're NOT interested in someone after you read his or her profile.....wouldn't it make more sense to "block" them?

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RE: Maybe this is a dumb question..... - 7/20/2014 7:33:04 AM

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Marking someone as a favorite *is* a way of making contact with them. Think of it as similar to the "Like" feature on facebook: not everyone who clicks "Like" will also comment on a post, and there's nothing wrong with that. Maybe they just wanted to let you know they found your profile appealing, but you're not a match. Maybe they are interested but wanted to be subtle about it and let you check out their profile and initiate contact if you are interested; less potential for outright rejection that way.

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RE: Maybe this is a dumb question..... - 7/20/2014 9:39:02 AM

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ORIGINAL: RareByrd

Marking someone as a favorite *is* a way of making contact with them. Think of it as similar to the "Like" feature on facebook: not everyone who clicks "Like" will also comment on a post, and there's nothing wrong with that. Maybe they just wanted to let you know they found your profile appealing, but you're not a match. Maybe they are interested but wanted to be subtle about it and let you check out their profile and initiate contact if you are interested; less potential for outright rejection that way.

So.....they are wusses?

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RE: Maybe this is a dumb question..... - 7/20/2014 10:48:02 AM

DaddySatyr

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Ya know, this doesn't necessarily have anything to do with ulterior motives.

While I agree with (and have posted about) the seeming incongruity of me, hitting "save to favorites" being read by the other person as my admiring them, it isn't always about a fear of rejection.

I may like the journal postings. I may like the profile, itself. I may like the photos. Whatever but if a lady is more than (for me) 100 miles away, it isn't going to happen so what is the point in "approaching" them?

Screen captures still RULE! Ya feel me?

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RE: Maybe this is a dumb question..... - 7/20/2014 12:56:10 PM

smileforme50

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Ya know, this doesn't necessarily have anything to do with ulterior motives.

While I agree with (and have posted about) the seeming incongruity of me, hitting "save to favorites" being read by the other person as my admiring them, it isn't always about a fear of rejection.

I may like the journal postings. I may like the profile, itself. I may like the photos. Whatever but if a lady is more than (for me) 100 miles away, it isn't going to happen so what is the point in "approaching" them?

Screen captures still RULE! Ya feel me?

What's the point in approaching them? How about some friendly conversation? There are quite a few Doms I have encountered here who live hundreds of miles away and I have very much enjoyed exchanging messages with them. One of us will introduce ourselves in a message and mention something we liked in the other person's profile and things take off from there. Sometimes we just banter and joke around. Sometimes we talk about different places we have traveled to and compare experiences. I "met" someone here who has a great love and knowledge of art and history and we talk about the museums we have been to. I started talking to another very nice man right about the time when my mother became terminally ill and he was a great friend being a wonderful support to talk to as I cared for her in the last weeks of her life. I don't know how HE feels about being the emotional dump of this woman he has never met, but I know....and I told him....that I was very glad that he was here when I needed someone to "listen". (Fortunately our conversation has turned to much lighter topics)

You make it sound like the only point and purpose of getting to know anyone else here is to get laid....and if you're not going to get laid....why waste your time?

I don't see it that way at all.

Yes....I have been very lucky and I have also met some great guys that I first met online and I've found some great play partners along the way too. But do you look at every woman as a potential play partner/submissive/slave, but if that's not going to happen, you think she's a waste of your time?

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RE: Maybe this is a dumb question..... - 7/20/2014 2:58:16 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: smileforme50

Why do people check you off as "Favorites"....so that they show up on your "Admirers" page.....

.....and then never make contact with you?

Someone told me once that he does it as a way to keep track of which profiles he has already seen and decided he wasn't interested. But if you decide that you're NOT interested in someone after you read his or her profile.....wouldn't it make more sense to "block" them?

I've favorited a profile when the profile is long but I want to read it or the journal. If I don't have the time I'll favorite it and come back later.

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RE: Maybe this is a dumb question..... - 7/20/2014 3:15:50 PM

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ORIGINAL: blacksword404

I've favorited a profile when the profile is long but I want to read it or the journal. If I don't have the time I'll favorite it and come back later.

Yes, it's a way to save a profile to go back to it later for whatever reason.

I don't do that, though, in case it sends the wrong message. I have "favorited" those I have regular correspondence with, but whom I might not necessarily want to add to my Circle of Friends.
It doesn't make them less of a *Friend* but in my case, I might be on friendly terms with someone, but not have contact with them very often.

Because you don't know the user's motivation for getting added to your Admirer's List, I would treat it the same way I do when I get multiple views by the same person.

If they don't have the kahunas to initiate contact with me, and want to play some silly-arse cat & mouse game, I don't have time for their foolishness.

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RE: Maybe this is a dumb question..... - 7/20/2014 5:24:42 PM

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because they can I guess

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RE: Maybe this is a dumb question..... - 7/20/2014 6:21:17 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: blacksword404

quote:

ORIGINAL: smileforme50

Why do people check you off as "Favorites"....so that they show up on your "Admirers" page.....

.....and then never make contact with you?

Someone told me once that he does it as a way to keep track of which profiles he has already seen and decided he wasn't interested. But if you decide that you're NOT interested in someone after you read his or her profile.....wouldn't it make more sense to "block" them?

I've favorited a profile when the profile is long but I want to read it or the journal. If I don't have the time I'll favorite it and come back later.

That's an idea......but then once you finish reading the profile and decide that you aren't interested.....why not uncheck the box and remove them?

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RE: Maybe this is a dumb question..... - 7/20/2014 6:39:48 PM

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Maybe they just like reading your profile and fantasizing.
Maybe they just like your pictures.

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RE: Maybe this is a dumb question..... - 7/20/2014 6:59:41 PM

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Maybe they just like reading your profile and fantasizing.
Maybe they just like your pictures.

I've decided to just not Favorite anyone anymore until the politically correct interpretation of the act is established.

K.

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RE: Maybe this is a dumb question..... - 7/20/2014 7:56:31 PM

playfulotter

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I think one of the reasons people "Favorite" others too is that they hope when the person who was "Favorited" sees the profile that "Favorited" them they hope they will either look at their profile or write to them....I think in most cases they are disappointing.

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RE: Maybe this is a dumb question..... - 7/20/2014 9:00:56 PM

LookieNoNookie

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quote:

ORIGINAL: smileforme50

Why do people check you off as "Favorites"....so that they show up on your "Admirers" page.....

.....and then never make contact with you?

Someone told me once that he does it as a way to keep track of which profiles he has already seen and decided he wasn't interested. But if you decide that you're NOT interested in someone after you read his or her profile.....wouldn't it make more sense to "block" them?

I do it solely for the mileage points.

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RE: Maybe this is a dumb question..... - 7/21/2014 12:13:09 AM

DaddySatyr

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Way to assume facts not in evidence! All I care about is getting laid? I think you could stand to re-read what I typed.

Now, if you wanted to say that I thought that there was no possibility of a relationship with anyone more than 100 miles away, that would be accurate.

While you were erecting your straw man argument in my honor, you forgot about the ladies that are within 100 miles who I might (or might not) contact.

Sorry but I take exception to your assumption that you know what goes on in my head. If my only reason for being here were to get laid, I'd have left, years ago.

Screen captures still RULE! Ya feel me?

< Message edited by DaddySatyr -- 7/21/2014 12:16:52 AM >

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RE: Maybe this is a dumb question..... - 7/21/2014 2:49:51 AM

RareByrd

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Wow, smileforme50, in reading your responses to people's suggestions, it comes out clearly that you weren't actually asking a question, you just wanted to complain about this particular behavior. You've argued with every response that I've read thus far.

It's so tiresome to think someone is actually asking a question, and spend time answering it in good faith, only to find that the poster didn't really want any input, they'd already decided exactly How Things Should Be, and were just going to argue with any suggestions to the contrary.

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RE: Maybe this is a dumb question..... - 7/21/2014 4:29:19 AM

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Well, now she knows why people don't contact her.

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RE: Maybe this is a dumb question..... - 7/21/2014 8:05:33 AM

DesFIP

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lol

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RE: Maybe this is a dumb question..... - 7/21/2014 4:05:38 PM

LookieNoNookie

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quote:

ORIGINAL: smileforme50

Why do people check you off as "Favorites"....so that they show up on your "Admirers" page.....

.....and then never make contact with you?

Someone told me once that he does it as a way to keep track of which profiles he has already seen and decided he wasn't interested. But if you decide that you're NOT interested in someone after you read his or her profile.....wouldn't it make more sense to "block" them?

My admirers do it because it's less expensive.

If you become an admirer, but don't make contact....that's 30 cents.

If you become an admirer, but do make contact....that's 7.50 cents.

(It's all about the Benjamins).

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RE: Maybe this is a dumb question..... - 7/21/2014 6:09:18 PM

smileforme50

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DaddySatyr

Way to assume facts not in evidence! All I care about is getting laid? I think you could stand to re-read what I typed.

Now, if you wanted to say that I thought that there was no possibility of a relationship with anyone more than 100 miles away, that would be accurate.

While you were erecting your straw man argument in my honor, you forgot about the ladies that are within 100 miles who I might (or might not) contact.

Sorry but I take exception to your assumption that you know what goes on in my head. If my only reason for being here were to get laid, I'd have left, years ago.

From your original response:

"I may like the journal postings. I may like the profile, itself. I may like the photos. Whatever but if a lady is more than (for me) 100 miles away, it isn't going to happen so what is the point in "approaching" them? "

So....exactly WHAT isn't going to happen? What do you need to be within 100 miles of a woman before "it" can happen? You said: "Now, if you wanted to say that I thought that there was no possibility of a relationship with anyone more than 100 miles away, that would be accurate".

So ....you won't contact a woman who lives more than 100 miles from you because "there was no possibility of a relationship". You mean you can't be FRIENDS with a woman who lives more than 100 miles from you? Isn't "friendship" a relationship?

Which brings me back to my original point that you claim is a "straw man argument". It sounds to me like you don't think there is any point to having a nonsexual friendship with a woman. Which is why I said that it sounds to me like all you care about is getting laid.

"Straw man set on fire...."

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“I’m so fucking wet! Give it to me now!”

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RE: Maybe this is a dumb question..... - 7/21/2014 6:33:23 PM

smileforme50

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Well, now she knows why people don't contact her.

Except you missed what I said earlier....

"What's the point in approaching them? How about some friendly conversation? There are quite a few Doms I have encountered here who live hundreds of miles away and I have very much enjoyed exchanging messages with them. One of us will introduce ourselves in a message and mention something we liked in the other person's profile and things take off from there. Sometimes we just banter and joke around. Sometimes we talk about different places we have traveled to and compare experiences. I "met" someone here who has a great love and knowledge of art and history and we talk about the museums we have been to. I started talking to another very nice man right about the time when my mother became terminally ill and he was a great friend being a wonderful support to talk to as I cared for her in the last weeks of her life. I don't know how HE feels about being the emotional dump of this woman he has never met, but I know....and I told him....that I was very glad that he was here when I needed someone to "listen". (Fortunately our conversation has turned to much lighter topics)"

"Yes....I have been very lucky and I have also met some great guys that I first met online and I've found some great play partners along the way too."

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“Give it to me!” she yelled
“I’m so fucking wet! Give it to me now!”

She could scream all she wanted…..I was keeping the umbrella.

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