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RE: What should i do - 7/11/2006 10:26:25 AM

Tikkiee

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The things that we agreed on and that i need are not getting meet.

That should tell you everything right there. However, your comment here

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I guess i have no choice but to stay and if he throws me away then i am again lost.

Tells me that you have already made you decision. Pity that you think so little of yourself.

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RE: What should i do - 7/11/2006 11:14:10 AM

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Lost,

A review of your posts reveals something other than 20 years of doing this stuff at least not in any sort of healthy way. You don't have the emotional skills and strength to choose a healthy partner, that is pretty clear.

My advice is to work on those things a lot until you can learn to make healthy choices.

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RE: What should i do - 7/11/2006 12:00:22 PM

agirl

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ORIGINAL: CrappyDom

Lost,

A review of your posts reveals something other than 20 years of doing this stuff at least not in any sort of healthy way. You don't have the emotional skills and strength to choose a healthy partner, that is pretty clear.

My advice is to work on those things a lot until you can learn to make healthy choices.

Hello Lost,

Being 20 yrs *in* means 20 yrs of what?.....It can mean 20 yrs of *learning important and meaningful things* or 20 years of the *same old, same old*.

You are capable of listing your positive attributes...thats much more than I've been able to at times.

No-one else needs to know that you have *things to offer* except YOU ......and you are also the one that gets to offer them.

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RE: What should i do - 7/11/2006 1:51:10 PM

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Alright, lets just call this what it is. A bunch of self pitying bullshit. You're educated and well spoken but you can't get you head out of your ass long enough to realize that as long as you sit in this situation, the more right you give him to us you?!? Come on!! If your going to allow yourself to be stepped on and used like a wet nap at an orgy, don't come looking for pity.

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RE: What should i do - 7/11/2006 3:06:51 PM

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Ohhhhh, and I thought I was blunt. I likes it... I likes it... lol

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RE: What should i do - 7/11/2006 3:47:33 PM

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This is a tough situation that you are in but some times we al have to take a reality check and look at where we are. You are in a situation that you have given up your independance which of course is natural to your nature being a submisive. Some times though for self preservation we have to go against our own normal nature. If you think this is some thing you can salvage then I wish you the best of luck. If you know for a fact that you are going to be tossed aside and have nothing to call your own then that is exactly what you need to change. Claim your independance, get a job, get a bank account all your own, work towards self preservation so that you can move on rather than to be tossed aside. Some times we have to face a short term furture that is totaly going to suck in order to allow for a better life.

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RE: What should i do - 7/13/2006 4:03:22 AM

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*fast reply*

Being a slave doesn't mean you have no choices. He's breaking agreements you made four years ago. His actions are not making you happy, in fact, they are adding to your unhappiness. While your happiness doesn't depend on another person, that other person can damn well affect it.

You have worth. You are a valuable human being. Even in slavery, you can and should remember and realize this. You and only you are responsible for your happiness and personal well-being. If your man is making you feel weak, making you feel worthless, if he is making you feel less than...it's time you take control of yourself and make decisions for yourself. Find yourself a job, find a place to live, even if that place is with friends or parents or other relatives. Give yourself a healthy life. Living as you are is destructive, for you and your child.

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RE: What should i do - 7/20/2006 5:53:10 AM

BrotherTimothy7

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Read what you said. He is lying cheating ... Wake up he is abusing you emotionally which is worse than any physical beating he could give you. There are decent Doms out there who would take you in a heartbeat. A domd job is to amke you as strong as you can be.... not to keep you weak and powerless. You are in a toxic relationship

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