RE: Dommes and money

RE: Dommes and money (Full Version)

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion

Message

Subano -> RE: Dommes and money (8/12/2014 5:01:11 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CalentraDomme Am I the only Domme that feels men asking for things in exchange for money is insulting!!!!!! I know why they do it, but I am not to be bought! Makes Me a little angry that there are so many out there that can be bought, gives us lifestyle Dommes a bad rap. Did I just enter the wrong universe?

GotSteel -> RE: Dommes and money (8/12/2014 5:27:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Subano quote: ORIGINAL: CalentraDomme Am I the only Domme that feels men asking for things in exchange for money is insulting!!!!!! I know why they do it, but I am not to be bought! Makes Me a little angry that there are so many out there that can be bought, gives us lifestyle Dommes a bad rap. Did I just enter the wrong universe? Assuming that a woman is a prostitute is typically considered quite insulting.

LookieNoNookie -> RE: Dommes and money (8/12/2014 5:29:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CalentraDomme Am I the only Domme that feels men asking for things in exchange for money is insulting!!!!!! I know why they do it, but I am not to be bought! Makes Me a little angry that there are so many out there that can be bought, gives us lifestyle Dommes a bad rap. As a male sub, I am also not to be bought. I completely understand.

GotSteel -> RE: Dommes and money (8/12/2014 5:34:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TNDommeK @CD, So you're saying fin dommes can be bought? As I understand it the majority of people who identify as findomme are actively looking to be bought.

seekingOwnertoo -> RE: Dommes and money (8/12/2014 7:20:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CalentraDomme Am I the only Domme that feels men asking for things in exchange for money is insulting!!!!!! I know why they do it, but I am not to be bought! Makes Me a little angry that there are so many out there that can be bought, gives us lifestyle Dommes a bad rap. While I am not a Domme, i can share how i choose a Lady to write to on this sight. And yes, I do try to avoid looking at pictures. Basically am seeking to find substance in Her profile ... a bit about who She is and what She desires. That sounds kind of generic so what i mean is .. i read profiles looking for things i can relate to .. mentally and emotionally. When i see those, then i write. So You know, i always avoid profiles that contain the words financial Domme; online only and so on as so forth. As others have pointed out, this web-site has become way overstocked with them in the last few years. That said, i only find a handful of interesting Ladies here, and go thru a LOT of profiles to find them When i meet one, i am a gentleman, meet for dinner, pick up the check and all of the common courtesies. So i truly empathize with Your post .. it must be difficult ... and even when You put You're best foot forward .. then only obtaining a few quality responses. Just stick with it and someone will find You ... take advantage of the block and delete function in the meantime. Cause there is nothing else i can tell you.

PeonForHer -> RE: Dommes and money (8/12/2014 7:26:00 PM)
quote: As a male sub, I am also not to be bought. I completely understand. Are you sure you've thought that through, Lookie? Me, I wouldn't mind being bought, now and then. The notion gives me a bit of a stiffy, truth to be told.

seekingOwnertoo -> RE: Dommes and money (8/12/2014 7:58:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer quote: As a male sub, I am also not to be bought. I completely understand. Are you sure you've thought that through, Lookie? Me, I wouldn't mind being bought, now and then. The notion gives me a bit of a stiffy, truth to be told. Would you really? [:)] A few years ago ... well about fifteen years, LOL A very rich widow wanted to buy me ... Hot concept until you consider the sacrifices ... When confronted with the opportunity ... I found I preferred to pass ...

GoddessManko -> RE: Dommes and money (8/12/2014 10:48:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer quote: As a male sub, I am also not to be bought. I completely understand. Are you sure you've thought that through, Lookie? Me, I wouldn't mind being bought, now and then. The notion gives me a bit of a stiffy, truth to be told. According to what I hear, you'd be quite expensive dear. [;)] quote: Assuming that a woman is a prostitute is typically considered quite insulting. GotSteel, say it isn't so! Since when? [:D] quote: Dammit... no one offers me money. Gauge, it's on my to do list. [8D]

TNDommeK -> RE: Dommes and money (8/13/2014 12:43:23 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: GotSteel quote: ORIGINAL: TNDommeK @CD, So you're saying fin dommes can be bought? As I understand it the majority of people who identify as findomme are actively looking to be bought. So you're saying some, not all. Ok, glad you made that separation.

ResidentSadist -> RE: Dommes and money (8/13/2014 4:04:18 AM)
Lifestyle Dommes that do get money as gifts, get it from familiar people that have no misunderstanding of the relationship terms and therefore get no complaints. Only adult sex workers take money from strangers for intimate encounters, BDSM or otherwise . . . and now you're pissed that acting like a hooker has them wanting you to work for it.... imagine how pissed they are that the hooker they paid didn't deliver? This OP cracks me up.

PeonForHer -> RE: Dommes and money (8/13/2014 5:03:32 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: seekingOwnertoo quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer quote: As a male sub, I am also not to be bought. I completely understand. Are you sure you've thought that through, Lookie? Me, I wouldn't mind being bought, now and then. The notion gives me a bit of a stiffy, truth to be told. Would you really? [:)] A few years ago ... well about fifteen years, LOL A very rich widow wanted to buy me ... Hot concept until you consider the sacrifices ... When confronted with the opportunity ... I found I preferred to pass ... Why? Given firm policies of a) always doing your required work in complete darkness and b) your hosing her down regularly and scrubbing vigorously with a stiff brush and strong detergent, couldn't you have stepped up to the mark? Odd sort of way of making a living, admittedly, but perhaps better than flipping burgers. Seriously, that's an intriguing comment. Care to tell us more about it?

PeonForHer -> RE: Dommes and money (8/13/2014 5:04:52 AM)
quote: According to what I hear, you'd be quite expensive dear. You are too kind. Er ... I think. [;)]

MistressRage -> RE: Dommes and money (8/13/2014 5:12:32 AM)
You make excellent points Cloaked, however, I was not commenting on the Domme's side of things, I was commenting only on where the male might be coming from in his offering of cash. I'm not saying offering cash is always the best idea, but knowing where they're coming from can give us perspective. You mentioned that a sub having only cash to offer implied he had no submissiveness to offer. I have no doubt that sometimes this is true. But there is sometimes more to it than that. For example, I know one man who is a single father. He was working about 60 hours per week, and when he wasn't working he was taking care of his kids along with everything that came along with that-picking them up from daycare, cooking, cleaning the house, etc. Any spare time after that was spent visiting his mother who was quite ill. He couldn't fit in a full night's sleep, much less giving up the time a Domme would want from him as a slave. On the rare occasion that he could muster up some time he would play with a local lifestyle Domme. He offered money as a form of gratitude for her putting up with his hectic schedule and inability to truly serve her. She never asked for it, he offered it. It was his way of making her life easier. Now that things have settled down for him, he has time to truly serve this Domme as her full-time sub. He gives her his time now rather than cash. Last I heard they were getting on quite well and he was thrilled to be able to submit to her completely. You see, the desire to submit was there all along, but sometimes life gets in the way of what we really want to be doing, and concessions must be made. I think it's important to know WHY he is offering cash before getting offended over said offer. quote: ORIGINAL: CloakedProtector A real natural Domme, traditionally in short a Domme, would NEVER be satisfied with cash being the only thing being offered, she wouldn't be interested in cash in the first place, possibly she'd allow cash as part of a play but not as the goal of the D/s relationship. And if a sub has only cash to offer it implies he has no submissiveness to offer and wouldn't that be the first thing a Domme would be looking for?

FieryOpal -> RE: Dommes and money (8/13/2014 5:40:34 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CloakedProtector Only the best submissive men will make it to the lifestyle Dommes who due to their natural Domminance have an advantage on FinDommes and ProDommes and have the first choice and the very best submissives. <snip> But then again, I think that you know very well that most submissives (as well male as female) are not real lifestyle submissives. Isn't that the truth, on both counts. [:(] I've heard it said that the more established BDSM providers no longer cater to their (mostly male) clients' DO-ME laundry lists, those who can afford to maintain a select clientèle. In my guestimation from what I've "overheard" in several years from perhaps 2 dozen mixed sources, 2-5% might be the industry average for those who manage to build up a word-of-mouth rep. [X(] This would make the bulk of hired Assertive Female (Service) Tops de facto following their clients' Topping-from-the-bottom scripts. quote: ORIGINAL: CloakedProtector <snip> And if a sub has only cash to offer it implies he has no submissiveness to offer and wouldn't that be the first thing a Domme would be looking for? In summary, not only are "real lifestyle submissives" equally as rare as their Domme counterparts, but those kinksters who become accustomed to choosing from a BDSM menu (whom I call "menu sub-bottoms") get conditioned and/or condition themselves to be the antithesis of the very submission that a naturally Dominant woman seeks, values and prizes in an s-type.

thompsonx -> RE: Dommes and money (8/13/2014 7:13:14 AM)
ORIGINAL: CalentraDomme Thanks for the input. A lifestyler and a finDomme are two different things. I don't think it is a matter of only being with pro Dommes, but a matter of how many Dommes on this site, (as has been stated to Me from many a man on this site), are looking for the money aspect. To each their own, You do not seem very accepting of those who play for pay. So much for "to each their own." but I don't like being hounded after I have told the sub that I am not a fin Domme, There is a block function for those who cannot read. in respect to him giving Me money as if every woman has her price. Everyone has their price male of female. My price is much higher than money ;) Which you freely admit here.

thompsonx -> RE: Dommes and money (8/13/2014 7:15:46 AM)
ORIGINAL: GotSteel Assuming that a woman is a prostitute is typically considered quite insulting. Is it insulting to assume that a woman who ask for money for sex is a prostitute?

thompsonx -> RE: Dommes and money (8/13/2014 7:17:04 AM)
ORIGINAL: LookieNoNookie As a male sub, I am also not to be bought. Roflmfao

thompsonx -> RE: Dommes and money (8/13/2014 7:20:40 AM)
ORIGINAL: Gauge Dammit... no one offers me money. Perhaps there is a reason for that?[;)]

thompsonx -> RE: Dommes and money (8/13/2014 7:25:36 AM)
ORIGINAL: CloakedProtector OP, one part of the problem is that there are not so many lifestyle Dommes compared to the demand of submissive men. The number of submissive men has been grossly exagerated. You are mistaking hng for submissive men. Only the best submissive men will make it to the lifestyle Dommes who due to their natural Domminance have an advantage on FinDommes and ProDommes and have the first choice and the very best submissives. Where supply is pretty much equal to demand The ProDommes have the advantage of usually being well trained, skilled and equipped but mostly operate in the Top/bottom model. Their strength is the non-strings attached, play & go! Werx for me[:D] That is where married men, business men and the large army of "time window players" end up if they want to be in the submissive role. You have a firm grasp of the obvious

thompsonx -> RE: Dommes and money (8/13/2014 7:29:19 AM)
ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist Lifestyle Dommes that do get money as gifts, get it from familiar people that have no misunderstanding of the relationship terms and therefore get no complaints. Only adult sex workers take money from strangers for intimate encounters, BDSM or otherwise . . . and now you're pissed that acting like a hooker has them wanting you to work for it.... imagine how pissed they are that the hooker they paid didn't deliver? This OP cracks me up. That is the nature of old phoques...been there done that and the number of fresh stories is quite limited. Your ability to see to the quick of the issue is clear. Another case of >>hammer>>>nail>>>head>>>dead on target.

Page: << < prev 1 [2] 3 4 5 next > >>

Collarchat.com © 2025

Terms of Service

6.152344E-02