orgasmdenial12
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For me, sexual objectification is more about the play and the mental state, rather than a visual type of objectification.
Sexual objectification play includes things like speech restriction - you are simply a sex toy, so you have no need to talk or communicate. I had one Dom who used to keep me silent for extremely long periods of time, several days. During this time I was still expected to follow orders and serve him and I would still be used sexually, but my thoughts, opinions and questions were all unimportant. Another aspect is that a Dom may want to use me sexually without hearing 'feedback' such as pleasure or pain noises. This may go as far as dollification - where the sub is trained to act and feel like a doll during play. This might include having no ability to move, or acting very heavy, head flopping, etc. There are many fantasies about people being turned into dolls or inanimate objects by evil witches, chemical potions, etc. Particularly for male submissives who may fantasise about waking up as a female sex doll, with exaggerated breasts, hips, lips, etc, and have the weird experience of being fucked as a female doll, but unable to move or complain or tell anyone. Some like the idea of using a sleeping submissive. I especially like being told to hold still, or shhhh during sex or pain. Lots of people into objectification like to combine dollification with latex body suits, with latex pouches in the orifices. There's an incredibly exciting objectification thread on fl where a woman becomes a human sex doll and is taken to a party and used like a sex toy.
Another big aspect for me is orgasm denial. The focus is entirely on the Dominant's pleasure, and the submissive is assumed to have no independent needs, desires or wishes of their own. Some people do denial in a teasing way, to increase the submissive's pleasure, but in objectification this is completely irrelevant - the submissive is simply a sexual object and you wouldn't tease her any more than you'd tease a blow up doll. The object also has no preferences in how they are used, so the submissive will learn to take anal, oral, etc. The Dom might give different names to the holes such as 'your new cunt' or, in the case of a male being used anally, 'your boy pussy' etc. The point is to make the submissive see the hole as just something to be fucked, like pussy, without being particularly delicate about it. Alternatively, the Dom might make the submissive refer to body parts as being something belonging to the Dom, for example I had a partner who insisted I use the expression 'Sir's clit' when talking about my own body. They might even insist on third person speech that we sometimes see being very badly done on the internet. The point is that both parties see the submissive's body as an object, owned by the Dom. Some Doms like to remove a submissive's senses during play, in order to make them more object like. For example, a Dom I played with liked his partners to wear earplugs and have black-out contact lenses as this increased their objectification and enabled him to use them more as an object rather than a person.
Obviously there is the dressing aspect. A Dom will often want their object dressed how they prefer; typical outfits are lacy underwear, fifties style dresses and skirts, heels, etc. Doms might like taking the submissive out dressed very sluttily or in a very demure outfit but with no knickers, etc. If a Domme was objectifying a man, she might well sissify him. Or not - sexual objectification varies depending on who is doing it. I've experienced everything from being a very frilly Victorian doll to being made to dress like a slut, it was very individual. Another Dom liked bathing me in cold water. The cold water was very uncomfortable, but I wasn't allowed to gasp or complain (why would an object complain about the temperature?) but once in the water, he would bathe me like a princess, soaping me, washing my hair, pouring water over my back, like he was caring for his favourite toy. It was very sensual to be both tortured and worshipped at the same time.
As for your question, how does it feel? It feels like something white-hot arousing. When I started discussing my sexual objectification kink, before I started a group for it, I realised I had been fantasising about elements of it for years, and putting it all together and finding out how it fit into BDSM was a revelation for me. As for whether you should have done it with your friend? Well if the idea is still intriguing you, then maybe give it a go :-)
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