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FieryOpal -> RE: Lifestyle, Love and Respect. Anyway for BALANCE?!!!! (8/21/2014 12:26:21 AM)
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ORIGINAL: Slv4playKL
I found Several profiles here for dominant Ladies saying that they are learning the methods of MystressWorld and asking sub men to go and study them to live by those rules....
Any Domme affiliated with and actively promoting MystressWorld or some sort of submissive male training school are suspect to me re D/s lifestyle, and are treating F/m like a business. Personally, I would never accept a sub with MW "credentials"; I don't want a pre-trained sub who will have to be de-programmed and then re-programmed even more than the usual sub who has had RT experience serving a Mistress. Sometimes working with a blank slate is best, as long as the submissive is willing to learn, and therefore teachable. A natural submissive is already willing to please, and that's what matters the most.
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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven
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ORIGINAL: Slv4playKL
Would there be a chance of a Dominant woman having TPE with her slave man with balance to romance and love between them considering it the position of the man in her life not him being a slave and lower than what she calls real man?
Too much porn.
1. TPE is a difficult relationship, and should be worked toward. If you end up in it, cool, but be prepared to be satisfied with a non-TPE relationship.
2. Being a slave is not necessary. It's not even agreed upon what the differentiation is between slave and sub.
3. A lot of finDommes are into humiliation. Not many lifestyle Dommes are. But it has no correlation with slavery.
If you are an inexperienced newbie, it is completely unrealistic for you to be contemplating TPE with a Dominant. Nobody with a lick of sense plunges right into a Master-Mistress/slave TPE dynamic, whether it's a 24/7 live-in situation or not. Even those with prior D/s experience ease into their TPE relationships.
As DS also noted, D/s does not require being a slave. All slaves are submissives, but not all submissives are slaves, nor would every sub want to be considered a slave.
The reason why for-hire Dommes are into humiliation is because THAT is what their male clients want. Humiliation is a form of mental-emotional sado-masochism--it can be physical or acted out with physical acts of humiliation (often consisting of "forced-CNC" or punishment dynamics), but it doesn't have to be (as with name-calling, belittling, verbal begging w/limited prostration and/or tearfulness [Dacryphilia/dacrylagnia]). In other words, this is more of a "guy" thing.
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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven
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ORIGINAL: Slv4playKL
that's the image i have in my mind i don't see non-dominant women as women to me and they dont attract me so i think that there should also be dominant women who also think the same and never feel anything for a man who is not submissive to them.
Fella, if you do not see vanilla and sub women as being women, you've got a problem. Them not attracting you is okay, though. Women tend to be attracted to people, not roles. Heck, there are Dom/Domme couples and sub/sub couples, where the mutual attraction outweighed the kinkstuff.
I think OP did not express himself well, and he may have meant he does not see non-dominant women on more than a platonic basis, as friends. Let me give you a word of advice and please listen carefully, S4pKL. You need to be friends first with a woman in order to build a solid foundation of trust and camaraderie; otherwise, you are merely treating Dominant women as sex objects who exist to cater to your pleasure and fantasy-fulfillment. Which would make you no better than a selfish (vanilla) pig.
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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven
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ORIGINAL: Slv4playKL
also why there should not be balance and fulfillment in a D/s relationship between a Mistress and her slave on three levels (Woman/man- Mistress/slave- Human/human)?
There should be that balance.
Why wouldn't there be a balance and mutual fulfillment? No lop-sided relationship can last for the long haul--one of the parties will simply be biding his/her time until somebody better comes along.
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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven
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ORIGINAL: Slv4playKL
Thats the image i have in mind and it wouldn't deny cuckolding as well but not on the base of real man and slave cuckold but on the principle of she owns him but he doesn't own her.
or even loving couple where they belong to each other but she is free and he is not.
please share your ideas about that
Since you don't seem to hold strong opinions about cuckolding, I'd just shelve that. Too many men into it, and too few women - even mentioning it will make some Dommes drop you for fear you'd want to push them into that.
Exactly what DS observes. Cuckolding is a Hard Limit with me; just the mention of it is a (pre-)deal breaker, as is bisexuality (including an interest in "forced" bi), non-monogamy, and in my own particular case--masochism, since I am not a sadist (not ordinarily an issue with most other Dommes). Furthermore, any desire for "forced" feminization/sissification is a Soft Limit (which means it repulses me).
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