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Femdoms, have you ever ... - 8/27/2014 3:44:17 PM   
PeonForHer


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Status: offline 		... Gone up to a man/boy (choose your term) and yanked down his trousers and underpants?

I don't mean a man you don't know. That would, admittedly, be a little indecorous, not to say illegal. On the other hand, I don't mean you approach him slowly and seductively, then slowly remove his bottom-half clothing with half-closed eyes and a lop-sided grin on your face, either.

Perhaps a man with whom you've been talking: you're sure that the 'click' exists between you both, you are alone together in private for the very first time ....

Would you, if you thought you could get away with it?

Actually, there's a deeper question behind this, if you feel like offering your thoughts. I'm sure that I'm not the only male sub who has, on occasion, been too surprised by a woman 'acting out of cultural norms' to have responded, instantly, the way he'd like to have responded. (The way he'd have responded if this were one of his fantasies and not real life, perhaps.) Do you - perhaps to your frustration - feel that you have to take things slowly in order to give him time to let go of his vanilla male persona?

Well, there it is. Don't dither with your responses - I'm a busy man.

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RE: Femdoms, have you ever ... - 8/27/2014 4:39:04 PM   
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Status: offline 		It's not a thing for the first time with a good man. The first time they strip for me, and how they do it tells me volumes about their degrees of vanilla.
Probably the second time I strip him, very slowly, lingering liberally for my own pleasure and watching his responses: ah, and *this* does *that* to him.
So it's probably within the first half-dozen times that I fix eye-contact, march up to him, may or may not kiss him thoroughly and while he's off-balance, blushy and flustered, at a moderately slow rate to get him out of his socks and shirt so the finished product is as attractive as possible but he's not expecting the d/enouement, briefly caress the most attractive part of him [arm, throat, ass], and reach as if I'm going to continue slowly but reach for his belt, pull it back briskly to get the tongue out of the buckle and WHOOSH he's nekkid, arching, panting and sexually flushing, everything about him straining, 'Yessss...'

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RE: Femdoms, have you ever ... - 8/27/2014 7:13:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		You want to know whether any of us have played Sneak Attack Domme? Sure, I was "attacking" my man and stripping his clothes off of him back when I was vanilla. They weren't passive participants, and some subs mistake passivity for submission. It's more erotic and exciting with interactive responses.

By the same token, a counter point to what a male sub might fantasize, a good lover act spontaneously has moves which are arousing to his partner, such as doing a striptease for her. Have fun with it, but don't get yourself stuck in a box always expecting your Mistress to be the assertive and/or seductive one. (Unless you both have an understanding to the contrary regarding protocol)

Irrespective of my Dominance, I don't throw myself at men I barely know. We would already have to be in an intimate relationship for me to take this liberty.

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RE: Femdoms, have you ever ... - 8/28/2014 8:15:24 AM   
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Status: offline 		I would never "pants" a man I barely knew, but I have pantsed a man I was in a relationship with before, a few times actually and it was fun because of his reaction each time.

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RE: Femdoms, have you ever ... - 8/28/2014 8:29:29 AM   
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Status: offline 		Ha, I have but in my defense I have also had someone lick my face against my will before and that was worse. My friends and I do silly things like that on occasion. As far as a sub goes, the last one I went out with, while he was in the bathroom I quickly changed clothes and he said "wow" when he realized I had, and I confidently walked up to him, looked him straight in the eyes and undid his pants. Before that we kept it pretty casual so I'm guessing he wasn't expecting the sudden aggression. It was a fun night of bondage and occasional asphyxiation. He was a bit of a wimp with the riding crop though. Did he just kiss the feet of his prodommes and then copulate with them? Meh, anyway, I think I'm too sadistic for him, quel dommage.

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RE: Femdoms, have you ever ... - 8/29/2014 5:50:32 PM   
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RE: Femdoms, have you ever ... - 8/29/2014 6:37:45 PM   
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Thank you for your responses!

"Pantsed" a man. Here it's "debagged"; in Australia I've been informed that it's 'dakked' him. I love these terms.

I *was* debagged by a woman, once - the memory came back to me this evening: I was standing on a chair, in trackie bottoms, changing a light bulb, at the time. It was fun. Very shy sort of woman, too. (Got to watch the quiet ones, I know.)

I suppose this all goes back to the idea of a femdom being 'predatory'. But many don't have that kind of 'brute attack' sense of the word 'predatory', so I've come to realise. Or maybe I'm wrong?

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RE: Femdoms, have you ever ... - 8/29/2014 7:00:05 PM   
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Status: offline 		Nope. Don't see myself as 'predatory' at all. Entomologically, the insect queendoms are matriarchal. The Queen doesn't have to be a hunter for own sustenance. She gets waited on hand & foot, so to speak. Even the lone spider lies in wait.




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RE: Femdoms, have you ever ... - 8/30/2014 1:29:24 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: PeonForHer


Well, there it is. Don't dither with your responses - I'm a busy man.




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RE: Femdoms, have you ever ... - 8/30/2014 3:35:32 PM   
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ORIGINAL: FieryOpal

Nope. Don't see myself as 'predatory' at all. Entomologically, the insect queendoms are matriarchal. The Queen doesn't have to be a hunter for own sustenance. She gets waited on hand & foot, so to speak. Even the lone spider lies in wait.



I understand that, Fiery. I see nothing wrong with being a passive femdom in that way. In fact, that kind of femdom is exactly the sort that fits in well with lots of malesubs' fantasies.


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RE: Femdoms, have you ever ... - 8/31/2014 4:07:30 AM   
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ORIGINAL: FieryOpal

Nope. Don't see myself as 'predatory' at all. Entomologically, the insect queendoms are matriarchal. The Queen doesn't have to be a hunter for own sustenance. She gets waited on hand & foot, so to speak. Even the lone spider lies in wait.


I understand that, Fiery. I see nothing wrong with being a passive femdom in that way. In fact, that kind of femdom is exactly the sort that fits in well with lots of malesubs' fantasies.

Perhaps you are misunderstanding the meaning of the word "passive." Further, my sexuality is not contingent upon what 'lots of malesubs' fantasies' are or aren't. My sexuality hinges on fulfilling my own fantasy life (as appropriate or realistically feasible), and is not dictated by the mores of male fantasist wankers.

Furthermore, there are many people at large who confuse *aggressive* with *assertive* or who mistake aggressiveness with Dominance.
I don't believe I've ever given anybody any indication that I am lacking in assertiveness. I am rarely aggressive or domineering, however--I don't have to be, and I would seriously question the authentic Dominance of those calling themselves Dominant who feel compelled to constantly act in this over-the-top, excessively egocentric (insecure) fashion.

ETA: The same as what you would observe out there in the vanilla world with bosses or others in positions of authority who throw their weight around trying to prove something to themselves and to others.

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RE: Femdoms, have you ever ... - 9/1/2014 1:14:16 AM   
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I *was* debagged by a woman, once - the memory came back to me this evening: I was standing on a chair, in trackie bottoms, changing a light bulb, at the time. It was fun. Very shy sort of woman, too. (Got to watch the quiet ones, I know.)




Was she a violinist by any chance?


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RE: Femdoms, have you ever ... - 9/1/2014 2:12:22 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

I *was* debagged by a woman, once - the memory came back to me this evening: I was standing on a chair, in trackie bottoms, changing a light bulb, at the time. It was fun. Very shy sort of woman, too. (Got to watch the quiet ones, I know.)




Was she a violinist by any chance?


Yep, her fiddling was second to none.


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RE: Femdoms, have you ever ... - 9/1/2014 3:00:28 AM   
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Was she a violinist by any chance?

Yep, her fiddling was second to none.

LOL
Funny guys

Check out the lady violinist in this Remix version of Sting's Desert Rose (appears@0:42&2:44+)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FReyPUselOw

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RE: Femdoms, have you ever ... - 9/1/2014 3:25:03 AM   
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RE: Femdoms, have you ever ... - 9/18/2014 10:10:38 AM   
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Status: offline 		If my sub comes home and doesn't have anything to do outside the home I often decide he has had his clothes on long enough and pull them off him, yes. He usually just laughs, apologizes and finishes stripping.

Sometimes he is just too squirrelly and forgets to strip. If he's forgotten too much he might get a spanking.

Now, pants pulled down in public, no. He doesn't wear underwear and that would be an indecency charge. plus, sod having some poor mother trying to explain that one to her child.

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