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Steelriven -> You are who you are... (7/11/2006 12:59:15 PM)
Hello everyone, I've been reading the posts on this message board. I have one thing to say. It doesn't matter why you enjoy something, what you enjoy, and how you enjoy it... All that matters is that it's a part of you. It's who you are. My submission is not a gift, it's an equal share. I'm not a fragile, self distructive being. I know what I want, why doesn't matter. Just because you're strong, or have something to say, or disagree, or show any kind of resistance doesn't mean you're not submissive. It means you're human. Submission is beautifull, I hear this alot. But what they should add to it is this... Submission is beautifull because it is a part of you. Kim who's just a Lil_twisted

tasha_tart -> RE: You are who you are... (7/11/2006 2:19:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Steelriven Hello everyone, I've been reading the posts on this message board. I have one thing to say. It doesn't matter why you enjoy something, what you enjoy, and how you enjoy it... All that matters is that it's a part of you. It's who you are. My submission is not a gift, it's an equal share. I'm not a fragile, self distructive being. I know what I want, why doesn't matter. Just because you're strong, or have something to say, or disagree, or show any kind of resistance doesn't mean you're not submissive. It means you're human. Submission is beautifull, I hear this alot. But what they should add to it is this... Submission is beautifull because it is a part of you. Kim who's just a Lil_twisted Well said; unfortunately in this corner of the world, as in most others, there are too many "my way or the highway" types who insist that only their set of kinks is the one true set. Tasha

tangldupinblue -> RE: You are who you are... (7/11/2006 2:25:24 PM)
i wish that people would also understand that being a submissive is hard. its hard work trying to figure out if your normal when th ewhole things comes up, the trying to figure out how your supposed to behave, then trying to find someone who isnt going to scream yell or judge you for what you want. i have said it before but i think needs repeating............my submission is no gift, i worked long and hard to be what i am, to get tto the level i am at. no one handed this to me tied up in a pretty pink bow, i gave lots of sweat and tears to become who i am........and for that alone i deserve respect. blue

irishbynature -> RE: You are who you are... (7/11/2006 2:31:37 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: tangldupinblue i wish that people would also understand that being a submissive is hard. its hard work trying to figure out if your normal when th ewhole things comes up, the trying to figure out how your supposed to behave, then trying to find someone who isnt going to scream yell or judge you for what you want. i have said it before but i think needs repeating............my submission is no gift, i worked long and hard to be what i am, to get tto the level i am at. no one handed this to me tied up in a pretty pink bow, i gave lots of sweat and tears to become who i am........and for that alone i deserve respect. blue Blue, Submitting for me isn't difficult. It's the most natural part of me. I guess I don't understand it being called hard(?) Also, trying to 'figure out what to do' is challenging at times, but only when I'm concerned I haven't done as requested....It's never difficult when your Dominant has told you what he requires/needs of you. Maybe I have misunderstood your post? Warmly, Irishbynature

tangldupinblue -> RE: You are who you are... (7/11/2006 2:36:27 PM)
i think you misunderstood a bit. beinga submissive isnt hard for me, its the most natural thing about me. i ment more its hard when you first figure out what all those weird feelings are when your younger. i am also a mother and being both presents its own sets of problems. all i really saying that getting to where we are in life is a struggle for anyone but when you add submission into it it takes a very intelligent focused person to find a way to make it all work out. once you get there it all evens itself out, but alot has to be said about the journey. blue

coastysslave -> RE: You are who you are... (7/11/2006 3:21:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Steelriven Hello everyone, I've been reading the posts on this message board. I have one thing to say. It doesn't matter why you enjoy something, what you enjoy, and how you enjoy it... All that matters is that it's a part of you. It's who you are. My submission is not a gift, it's an equal share. I'm not a fragile, self distructive being. I know what I want, why doesn't matter. Just because you're strong, or have something to say, or disagree, or show any kind of resistance doesn't mean you're not submissive. It means you're human. Submission is beautifull, I hear this alot. But what they should add to it is this... Submission is beautifull because it is a part of you. Kim who's just a Lil_twisted I find it hard..and I love to dispute...hehe

amlonging -> RE: You are who you are... (7/12/2006 4:55:17 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: tasha_tart Well said; unfortunately in this corner of the world, as in most others, there are too many "my way or the highway" types who insist that only their set of kinks is the one true set. Tasha A Dom only remains true to Himself if He maintains who He is and if part of that is "My way or the highway" its is part of who He is. He must then find a girl (probably slave) who is "into" His way. It become "one true set" when the D/s click, the kinks fit and both are whom they desire and long to be.

BitaTruble -> RE: You are who you are... (7/12/2006 8:46:07 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Steelriven Hello everyone, I've been reading the posts on this message board. I have one thing to say. It doesn't matter why you enjoy something, what you enjoy, and how you enjoy it... All that matters is that it's a part of you. It's who you are. My submission is not a gift, it's an equal share. I'm not a fragile, self distructive being. I know what I want, why doesn't matter. Just because you're strong, or have something to say, or disagree, or show any kind of resistance doesn't mean you're not submissive. It means you're human. Submission is beautifull, I hear this alot. But what they should add to it is this... Submission is beautifull because it is a part of you. Kim who's just a Lil_twisted I've found that asking myself 'why' and discovering those answers is one of the ways in which I grow. As I grow and know more of myself, I become more complete with the little pieces falling into place that bring me self-awareness. With more self-awareness, I have more capability to be myself because I know who I am which leads me to not only being a better person who recognizes both faults and strengths, but in turn, allows me to be a better submissive today than I was 20 years ago. It's only when I stop asking myself questions that I will fail to grow. If I just 'accepted' that I am the way and I and was satisfied with that .. I would still be where I was when I first started. I like where I am 'now' better.. and hopefully, tomorrow, as I continue to question and grow, I'll like it better still. YMMV Celeste

nephandi -> RE: You are who you are... (7/12/2006 9:05:21 AM)
i find it hard to submit wery often for i am a willful girl whit many opinions in my head and a tempermnt on the fiery side, i find it hard to bow down to another and is suprised my desires fall in that direction, but they do.

Steelriven -> RE: You are who you are... (7/12/2006 1:27:29 PM)
I wasn't saying stop questioning. I was meerly stating that you shouldn't have to explain to others why. All people are different. I don't question myself much, because I am comfortable with who I am. I don't need to annalize, or break down who I am. For me there is nothing to figure out. As far as life in general goes? Yes, I always have many questions. Kim

eruditegirl1 -> RE: You are who you are... (7/12/2006 2:05:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Steelriven Hello everyone, I've been reading the posts on this message board. I have one thing to say. It doesn't matter why you enjoy something, what you enjoy, and how you enjoy it... All that matters is that it's a part of you. It's who you are. My submission is not a gift, it's an equal share. I'm not a fragile, self distructive being. I know what I want, why doesn't matter. Just because you're strong, or have something to say, or disagree, or show any kind of resistance doesn't mean you're not submissive. It means you're human. Submission is beautifull, I hear this alot. But what they should add to it is this... Submission is beautifull because it is a part of you. Kim who's just a Lil_twisted It took me 41 years to become who I am today....and I cherish me as I am today...I would hope that when/if I ever find a Dom who I choose to submit myself...he cherishes and thinks I am beautiful because it is all/part of me....and values me as his property/treasure....

juliaoceania -> RE: You are who you are... (7/12/2006 2:14:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Steelriven Hello everyone, I've been reading the posts on this message board. I have one thing to say. It doesn't matter why you enjoy something, what you enjoy, and how you enjoy it... All that matters is that it's a part of you. It's who you are. My submission is not a gift, it's an equal share. I'm not a fragile, self distructive being. I know what I want, why doesn't matter. Just because you're strong, or have something to say, or disagree, or show any kind of resistance doesn't mean you're not submissive. It means you're human. Submission is beautifull, I hear this alot. But what they should add to it is this... Submission is beautifull because it is a part of you. Kim who's just a Lil_twisted When I first started down the road of conscious submission I put up all sorts of resistance because I knew on a deep level what it meant to submit to another. I was very afraid of what it meant to embrace this part of my nature... now I do not have much trouble anymore with resistance, and it shows itself in much more subtle ways than it did when I was new to WIITWD. For example recently I was asking my Dom if he was going to take control over a certain aspect of my life (which I will not disclose what it is) because I wanted him to take this control. He was the one that had brought it up as a possible step to take as we grew closer, so this makes me desire to submit this control to him.. it would be a daily reminder that I have surrendered just a little more to him. When I brought this up to him I started asking him if I would have to do this task wherever he called me, even work, and he said I would have to trust him not to abuse this control and sounded very annoyed with me. After we finshed talking I realized I was resisting his dominance at the same time I was asking for it and this was probably the root of his annoyance. Resistance can take many forms I am beginning to realize, and we can do it without being conscious of it. I wish I hadn't resisted when we discussed this, but sooner or later the subject will come up again, or one like it, and I will not be resistant next time[:D]

kinkiminx -> RE: You are who you are... (7/12/2006 5:02:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Steelriven Hello everyone, I've been reading the posts on this message board. I have one thing to say. It doesn't matter why you enjoy something, what you enjoy, and how you enjoy it... All that matters is that it's a part of you. It's who you are. My submission is not a gift, it's an equal share. I'm not a fragile, self distructive being. I know what I want, why doesn't matter. Just because you're strong, or have something to say, or disagree, or show any kind of resistance doesn't mean you're not submissive. It means you're human. Submission is beautifull, I hear this alot. But what they should add to it is this... Submission is beautifull because it is a part of you. Kim who's just a Lil_twisted Very well said! [:)] I can't begin to list the number of Doms who have tried to tell me I'm "not a real sub" and its fantastic to see someone who agrees we are all different and individual!

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