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Ability to respect a persons wishes - 8/28/2014 1:36:06 PM

GLY

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I, like so many other women on this site, start my profile with a simple statement: NO MEN PLEASE.

I am respectfully inquiring as to why so many men on this site, almost all Dominants, choose to ignore that request.

I have my mail control set to filter out messages from “men”, and I go into the bulk folder on a regular basis and just wholesale-delete those messages without reading them. But this has lead to some “Doms” creating false profiles, as women, to message me and tell me how rude I am.

So, why do men choose to ignore the fact that there are a lot of women here that do not wish to get involved with them? I acknowledge the fact that a lot of men read my profile and simply move on. I can see that by reviewing the “who is viewing me” list. But for every male that seems to accept the situation, there are three that ignore it. Respectfully, Why???

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RE: Ability to respect a persons wishes - 8/28/2014 1:51:01 PM

Musicmystery

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quote:

ORIGINAL: GLY

So, why do men choose to . . .

They don't. *Some* men do.

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RE: Ability to respect a persons wishes - 8/28/2014 2:11:13 PM

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Who knows why some do, just delete and block them. I have it clearly stated in my profile that Master and I are monogamous but that doesn't stop some from sending sexual messages to me. I had one asshole say all I'd have to do is spend a day with him and I'd drop my Master in a heartbeat.

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RE: Ability to respect a persons wishes - 8/28/2014 2:12:09 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: GLY

I, like so many other women on this site, start my profile with a simple statement: NO MEN PLEASE.

I am respectfully inquiring as to why so many men on this site, almost all Dominants, choose to ignore that request.

I have my mail control set to filter out messages from “men”, and I go into the bulk folder on a regular basis and just wholesale-delete those messages without reading them. But this has lead to some “Doms” creating false profiles, as women, to message me and tell me how rude I am.

So, why do men choose to ignore the fact that there are a lot of women here that do not wish to get involved with them? I acknowledge the fact that a lot of men read my profile and simply move on. I can see that by reviewing the “who is viewing me” list. But for every male that seems to accept the situation, there are three that ignore it. Respectfully, Why???

They do not ignore it, they take it as a challenge, remove it. Use mail controls, and just send men to bulk.

They will fuck with you for that, its what testosterone will do against what is perceived as estrogenetic bitchiness.

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RE: Ability to respect a persons wishes - 8/28/2014 2:32:47 PM

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Like you said, some men read it and move on. Others are probably shotgunning the same form letter to every profile chumming the waters and seeing what fish move closer.

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RE: Ability to respect a persons wishes - 8/28/2014 2:50:54 PM

PandoraFoxxx

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After viewing and reading your profile I have a tiny little suggestion. I am in no way condoning the behavior of the men who message you, but it might be a good idea to not mention you're bisexual and that you're open to couples directly after you clearly state "NO MEN." It could possibly send a mixed message along the lines of "well, maybe I am different." It also indicates to average asshole that you're indecisive, which is probably why they harass you and go out of their way to try and piss you off/give you a hard time. IMHO you're not indecisive, you clearly know what you want, but to them, well...you kindof have to do your best here to make your profile idiot and troll-proof.

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RE: Ability to respect a persons wishes - 8/28/2014 6:33:17 PM

LafayetteLady

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I agree with pandora. Also men tend to message a photograph not a profile. If all you are looking forf is friendship, I would suggest not using your cleavage for your profile pic. Unless of course they are looking for friends of their own.

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RE: Ability to respect a persons wishes - 8/29/2014 5:07:20 AM

orgasmdenial12

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Because it pisses them off that you don't want them. It pisses them off that their messages go to junk and it pisses them off when you delete it.

Congratulations, you have found a wonderful way of pissing off jerks, enjoy it!

As regards them lying in order to attempt to contact you, hover your cursor over the message before opening it. If it is a ranty message from some jerk-off man, then delete it. It will show in their folder as deleted unread and you will get to piss them off again. Hurrah!

Never worry about pissing off wankers, it's one of the best bits about the internet :-)

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RE: Ability to respect a persons wishes - 8/29/2014 9:46:43 AM

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Please stop lumping in men with the ones who blatantly disrespect you. The ones you do choose to associate with don't deserve that kind of treatment.

Most of them aren't reading your profile, but can see from the picture that you have breasts, see from the top that you identify as a slave, and decide to go from there. Because for a lot of them, that's all they want - a warm body with breasts that they can boss around, not a person with thoughts and needs. Consider that your litmus test.

You've already taken the first step by filtering them out. The next step is to stop messaging them to tell them how wrong they are. I have a bad habit of poking that bear too, and it never works out well. Best case scenario is that you get more aggravation from someone who wasn't worth it to begin with. Worst case, well... I had one guy make up an account impersonating me and sent messages to several strange men as me offering sexual favors.

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RE: Ability to respect a persons wishes - 8/30/2014 8:26:27 AM

GLY

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Thank you all for your insight, thoughts and suggestions. I do appreciate it.

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RE: Ability to respect a persons wishes - 8/30/2014 11:08:36 AM

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The words may say "no men" but the boobies remove all ability to grasp that.

Jus sayin

P.S. You got mail.

< Message edited by ExiledTyrant -- 8/30/2014 11:09:05 AM >

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RE: Ability to respect a persons wishes - 8/30/2014 11:36:30 AM

CountDrackula

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reality should always me established.....most lesbots on here, or there, are men - no secret of that - hoping for a tit shot and naughty lesbo talk of nether regions they know nothing about - not that they dare wake up their partners to ask

do you view everyone as a an object
do you view a simple hello as a some sexual game
i beg to differ with your terminology of a lot and also men

your profile to me looks like a man (or your man) wroted it - there are no subtle nuances and wordage that indicate the women in the picture wroted it

I have some strange yearning desire tonight for a pack of wild lesbian nymphs and cheap wine

if as you widely claim there are a lot of women of the real variety then you would not be posting this - you would be so simply spoiled for choice

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RE: Ability to respect a persons wishes - 9/1/2014 6:38:37 AM

crazyml

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There are words? All I saw was.... <never mind>

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RE: Ability to respect a persons wishes - 9/1/2014 6:47:52 AM

FelineRanger

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quote:

ORIGINAL: RockaRolla

Please stop lumping in men with the ones who blatantly disrespect you. The ones you do choose to associate with don't deserve that kind of treatment.

Bravi, bravi, bravissimi!

I would add that the same applies to the majority unknown to you who respected your wishes.

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